Eric’s and Marie’s parents, Donald and Jasmine, married for thirteen years. They were a biracial couple and parents, of Eric and Marie, a set of twins about to turn twelve years old. At the end of the school year, Donald and Jasmine sat down with Eric and Marie and said they needed to talk to them.
As the end of the school year approached, the twins, Eric and Marie, found themselves in a state of anticipation. They hadn’t broken any rules or caused any major disturbances at home, so what could this conversation be about? Their minds raced with possibilities: Could one of their parents be seriously ill? Or perhaps a financial crisis had struck, forcing them to downsize their home?
It didn’t take long for Donald and Jasmine to clear the air. Donald began ––
“For years we knew we would one day have to talk to you about this and we always promised we would tell you when you are 12 years old. We’ve been preparing for this conversation, considering your maturity and understanding, and we believe now is the right time.”
Jasmine joined in ––
“That’s right, we feel you are at the age that you will understand what we are about to tell you and why we want to tell you this. It is important for you to know that we love you very much, and you both are the reason we did this. Our love for you is the foundation of this decision, and we hope you understand that.”
Eric and Marie, in their twin fashion, said in unison ––
“So what did you guys do, rob a bank and run from the law?”
Donald firmly replied ––
“No! What we have to say is more important than that, and this is about something that would have been much more severe if it didn’t work initially!”
The twins were shocked. What could be more severe than being on the run from the law?
Jasmine, wanting to direct the topic back to its intended purpose, suggested everyone take a deep breath. Saying ––
“What we are talking about isn’t Spy Stuff.”
Donald replied ––
“It almost was!“
Jasmine, tired of the kids and Donald’s propensity for dragging out any conversation to make it a lecture, much as he would a class of his at the University, took control of the room ––
“Look, we have to say what we are here to talk about. It isn’t up for guessing or beating around the bush. The kids are supposed to know now. Kids, your mother and father are gay! We have been since the day you were born. Since we both were born. I gave birth to you; your father is your real daddy. But we have never had sex. I became pregnant through in vitro fertilization. Do you know what that is?”
The twins both nodded their heads, again answering together,
“Yes, we learned about this year at school.”
Then Eric replied ––
I always knew Pop was gay, but I never thought it of you, Mom.
Marie sputtered out ––
“Well, I always thought Mom was, but I would have never guessed it of Pops!“
Donald and Jasmine just stood there, looking at each other, somewhat dumbfounded. Each wondered what they could have done to cause their children to make such conclusions. But that wasn’t as important as helping them accept the news they had heard.
Donald said to both children ––
“Kids, we want to ensure you know you can talk to us about this and are okay with asking questions.”
Eric and Marie sat silently for a moment, processing this significant revelation. Then, Marie broke the silence.––
“Are you both happy?”
She asked softly, looking between her parents.
Donald and Jasmine exchanged glances before Jasmine replied ––
“Yes, sweetheart. We are delighted. Our relationship works because we love and support each other. We decided to raise you as a family to provide you with a loving home. And we do love each other, just not in the way you might think of traditional marriages.”
Still absorbing everything, Eric asked ––
“So, does this mean you have other partners or are you just… like roommates?”
Donald took a deep breath and said ––
“We do have partners. We’ve kept this part of our lives private because we wanted to wait until you were old enough to understand. We both have partners who mean a lot to us, and they support and love you, too.”
Jasmine added ––
“We wanted to ensure you both felt safe and secure in our family before introducing you to anything confusing. Now that you’re older, you can understand and handle this better.”
Eric and Marie exchanged a glance. Marie asked ––
“So, when do we get to meet them?”
Jasmine smiled warmly ––
“We’ll introduce you to them when you’re ready. We want to make sure you get enough at a time. It’s important that you feel comfortable and smooth with this transition.”
Eric nodded thoughtfully ––
“It’s a lot to take in, but we get it. We want you both to be happy.”
Marie chimed in ––
“Yeah, we love you both, no matter what. It’s different, but it doesn’t change anything for us.”
Donald and Jasmine both felt a wave of relief. They knew there would be more questions and possibly some challenging moments ahead, but they had taken the first step. The important thing was that they had started this journey with honesty and love.
Jasmine said ––
“Thank you for being so understanding. We know it’s a lot, but we are here to support each other. Always.”
Eric and Marie smiled. Marie reached out and hugged her parents, with Eric joining in. They sat together, holding onto each other, feeling the strength of their family’s bond. In that moment, they knew that whatever challenges came their way, they would face them together, with love and understanding guiding them through.
As the twins headed to their private bedrooms, Eric said to Marie ––
“I told you Pop’s wasn’t sleeping in a separate bedroom because of his snoring!”
Marie replied ––
“And I told you it wasn’t because of Mom’s cold feet!”
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