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Marketing to Change Minds

November 19, 2025November 14, 2025BenjaminLeave a comment

1–2 minutes

Marketing to change people’s views isn’t a new concept—it’s one of the oldest tools of persuasion known to humankind. It begins quietly, almost imperceptibly, with the notion that a particular group or sect isn’t “right” for the community. That whisper grows into a chorus, spreading suspicion from one group to the next. Before long, it becomes an orchestrated campaign designed to win favor with the majority.

Sometimes the purpose is simple—boosting sales or swaying public opinion. Other times it’s darker. It aims to destroy a movement or to silence dissent. It can also trample a people beneath the weight of manipulated perception.

The pattern always begins the same way. A subtle warning disguised as concern. A headline. A slogan. A talking point. Then, as the message gains traction, it becomes sharper, more divisive. The targets shift—left or right, religious or secular, it makes no difference. The goal is control.

In the coming months and years, we will see more of this calculated persuasion. This is marketing that doesn’t sell products but ideas. It spreads fear and hate. It will portray immigrants as criminals, minorities as threats, and neighbors as enemies. The tactic is old, but the technology behind it is new—and more potent than ever.

This isn’t confined to one nation. It crosses oceans and borders, infecting democracies and dictatorships alike. It’s a sickness of the mind and spirit, a global contagion that thrives on division.

To resist it, those who are often isolated in their struggles must unite. Civil rights advocates, faith groups, workers, and artists need to see they are part of the same story. Each citizen must realize their cause is connected. Survival now depends on solidarity. Only by coming together can we create a message stronger than the one designed to tear us apart.

Marriage Rights at the Crossroads: A Nation in Reflection

November 8, 2025October 22, 2025Benjamin1 Comment

By Benjamin H. Groff II | Truth Endures / The Story Teller

3–5 minutes

A Decade After Obergefell

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Ten years after the Supreme Court’s landmark Obergefell v. Hodges decision recognized same-sex marriage as a constitutional right, America finds itself again revisiting questions many thought were settled.

The Court’s ruling in 2015 declared that marriage, in all its forms, is protected by the Fourteenth Amendment. This includes guarantees of liberty and equal protection. As new petitions rise, the conversation has returned to the surface. Shifting public attitudes also contribute to this discussion. Who holds authority over marriage — the individual, the state, or the Constitution itself?

The Current Question Before the Court

A pending petition related to former Kentucky clerk Kim Davis has reignited national attention. Her case asks whether local officials refuse to issue marriage licenses on religious grounds. It also questions whether Obergefell overstepped by forcing states to recognize marriages they once prohibited.

The Supreme Court has not agreed to hear the case. Still, its presence on the docket is enough to open old wounds. It also raises new questions. Some legal analysts believe the current Court will not directly overturn Obergefell. Yet, it will narrow its reach through religious-liberty rulings. It also does so through state-level exceptions. Others assert that stability — not upheaval — best serves the nation and the families already bound under its promise.

Two Visions of Marriage and Rights

One side views marriage equality as part of America’s long arc toward inclusion. They view it as a civil institution that, once granted, should not be rescinded. They see equality before the law as non-negotiable. They fear that revisiting the issue will fragment the nation’s sense of fairness.

The other side argues that Obergefell disrupted centuries of state authority. It affected religious conscience. They believe that restoring local decision-making better reflects democratic process. They point to the tension between personal faith convictions and federal mandates as a conflict yet unresolved.

Between those poles lies a broad middle. These are citizens who do not agree on doctrine. They understand that marriage, whether between a man and woman or same-sex partners, carries profound human meaning. Many simply wish to preserve stability, protect liberty, and allow space for faith and freedom to coexist.

Faith, Law, and Living Together

Scripture has long influenced how societies view marriage. For some, biblical passages define its structure and purpose; for others, they offer moral insight without prescribing civil law. The tension between religious belief and constitutional law is not new. This tension echoes past debates over interracial marriage, divorce, and women’s rights.

In every era, society has had to ask two questions. What happens when faith and law collide? How do we live together without tearing the fabric of our community apart?

Why the Debate Still Matters

Even if the Court declines to hear new challenges, more than two dozen states have laws banning same-sex marriage. These laws are dormant on their books. If Obergefell were ever overturned or weakened, those statutes will return overnight, affecting benefits, inheritance, adoption, and family recognition.

At the same time, many Americans share a common belief. Conservatives and liberals alike think the government shouldn’t dictate the deepest personal choices of its citizens. This belief runs deep in the country’s DNA. – Barred from Hospital Rooms – Declined Visits By Family Funerals – Loss of Shared Property.

A Time for Reflection, Not Division

It is that America is less divided on love than on language. Many citizens who believe marriage is sacred still believe in equal dignity; many who support equality still respect faith’s voice.

The challenge before the nation is to find balance. This also is a challenge for the Supreme Court. It involves preserving both religious liberty and individual freedom. This must be done without sacrificing the dignity of either.

Marriage remains one of the few institutions that bridges our private and public lives. It does this whether one calls it a covenant before God or a contract under law. The real question is not who can marry. It is whether we can continue to respect those who see it differently. Is it a divine institution? One which a person be married and divorced five times, as long as it is to the opposite sex. Or, is it a civil contract between two people which protects their lives, property and future? Capable of being entered into by any two people.

Closing Thought

History rarely moves backward. Nonetheless, it does pause to consider and to recalibrate. It also reminds us that liberty requires both conviction and compassion. As this conversation unfolds, we argue less to win and more to understand.

Winning the Battle for Health, Security, and Equality in America

November 6, 2025October 21, 2025BenjaminLeave a comment

By Benjamin H. Groff II

3–5 minutes

We are living in a time when critical issues are being tossed around like poker chips in Washington. These include health care, Social Security, disability support, and the rights of the LGBTQ+ community. The game has gotten meaner, the stakes higher, and the players more reckless. But if history teaches us anything, it’s that ordinary Americans can outshine the biggest machines of power. They can outlast them when they work smart and stay focused.

This isn’t about red or blue. It’s about who gets to live with dignity and who doesn’t.

1. Protecting What We’ve Paid For

Let’s start with the basics: Social Security and Medicare are not entitlements—they’re earned benefits. Working Americans paid into them every payday of their lives. Yet, each election cycle, someone in Congress floats the idea of “sunsetting” or “restructuring” them. That’s political code for cutting.

The smart move? Make every elected official—Republican or Democrat—go on record promising no cuts to Social Security and Medicare. It’s a winning issue across party lines because nearly every voter depends on it, or soon will. The average monthly advantage for retirees is about $2,000. You can’t afford to lose that—and neither can your parents.

2. The Health Care Frontline

Medicare drug price negotiations are already law, and they’re starting to bite down on Big Pharma. Those savings need to be expanded and defended. Keep the issue local—talk about your neighbor’s insulin cost, your pharmacy’s long lines, and your doctor’s limited hours. These stories hit harder than any campaign ad.

If you live in a state that still refuses Medicaid expansion, that’s another battle worth fighting. States like Oklahoma and Missouri proved that when citizens put Medicaid expansion on the ballot, it wins—even in conservative territory. It keeps rural hospitals open and saves lives. Simple as that.

3. Disability Rights Are Human Rights

For millions of Americans, especially seniors and people with disabilities, Medicaid is the real safety net. It funds long-term care, home health aides, and community services. Most people don’t realize that these programs face constant threats. This occurs at both the state and federal levels.

It’s time to make disability policy visible again. Discuss the waiting lists. Talk about the family caregivers working without rest. Tackle the closures of group homes that once kept people safe. Every one of those stories is a vote for compassion and common sense.

4. Standing Up for the LGBTQ+ Community

Across the nation, hundreds of anti-LBGTQ+ bills have been introduced under the banner of “protecting children.” But what they really do is threaten the safety and rights of already vulnerable people—students, families, and workers.

The answer isn’t more shouting matches. It’s telling real stories. These are parents who want their trans kid to live without fear. There is a teacher who wants to keep their job. Or a couple wants the same hospital visitation rights as anyone else. When the conversation becomes personal, hearts shift—and politics follows.

5. Building Alliances That Win

You don’t win these battles alone. You build coalitions that surprise people. Seniors and veterans defend Social Security. Small business owners back drug price reform. Nurses and church groups advocate dignity in care. That’s how movements grow—through unexpected allies who realize they’re all fighting for the same thing.

The revisionist thrives on division. A winning strategy thrives on unity.

6. How to Get Loud, Smart, and Effective

Use your voice locally. County health boards, school boards, and hospital districts make real decisions about care and coverage. Attend those meetings.
Tell your story. A 30-second video of your experience with health care or benefits will reach more people than a dozen speeches.
Learn it. Agencies post new rules all the time—public comments matter. Gather friends, go to Regulations.gov, and leave thoughtful, factual remarks. Bureaucrats read them.
Stick to clear messages:
- “Protect what we’ve paid for.”
- “Keep care close to home.”
- “Freedom to make personal medical decisions.”
- “Dignity for every family.”

7. The Bottom Line

The fight for affordable health care, strong social programs, and equal rights isn’t about party loyalty—it’s about survival. You can’t eat ideology, and you can’t pay for prescriptions with political slogans.

The people who built this country deserve to live out their years in peace, not fear. The next generation deserves to inherit something more significant, fairer, and more human.

That’s how we win. We don’t hate what’s broken. Instead, we protect what still works. We fight like hell to fix what doesn’t.

The Enduring Love Story of Henry and Harry

February 14, 2025February 14, 2025BenjaminLeave a comment

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Henry and Harry met by accident one evening when Henry was riding with Harry’s roommate and fellow police officer, Teddy. Henry and Teddy stopped by Teddy’s house to pick up the legal papers Teddy needed for a court filing. He invited Henry in to meet his roommate, Harry.

When they entered the door, Harry was getting ready for his shift. He walked down a hallway wearing only his trousers and no shirt. Henry and Harry’s eyes locked onto each other as Teddy introduced them. Neither knew the other’s intentions or interests; they nodded and said hello, an electric charge lingering between them.

Harry worked at the police station’s front desk and communications center. Suddenly, Henry worked for the local radio station. He began coming to the station instead of calling on the phone for the day’s latest police activity. Henry would sit patiently. He went through the radio and comment logs. He looked for items to place in his news reports on the radio. Then, he would make small talk with Harry, their conversations stretching a little longer each time.

One day, Henry asked Harry if the officer was off the next weekend. Harry confirmed that he was. Henry explained that his boss wanted him to travel to Loca City. He needed to pick up his son and return him to Elm City. Harry said he’d love to go along for the adventure. Henry explained they go there on Saturday and return on Sunday. This way, he would be there to get the youngster after he got out of church.

When Saturday came, the two left Elm City for the nearly two-hour drive to Loca City. During the drive, they talked, learning more about each other’s pasts, dreams, and fears. At times, their arms brushed against each other on the armrest of Henry’s Ford Thunderbird. Unknown to each were the butterflies fluttering in their stomachs as the pair drove down the highway.

Upon arriving in Loca City, the pair stopped for burgers. Across the street, there was a movie theater. And, of course, they would take in a movie— Friday the 13th: Season of the Witch.

By all standards, the movie was a flop. But the film still had spooky moments, especially for Harry, who jumped and yelped throughout. It was ironic—him being the one who worked for the police department. Afterward, the two laughed at how jumpy Harry had been, and Harry was embarrassed.

It was getting late, and they decided to find a motel for the night. The two found a Holiday Inn Holidome. Henry said he would take care of the room. Harry was asked to watch the car. Harry complied. A few minutes later, Henry returned with room keys and said—

“I’m sorry about this. The hotel only had one room, and it had a queen bed.”

Harry’s reply was accepting.

“I don’t have a problem with it. I slept with my best friends all through hay harvest.”

Once in the room, the television came on. Of all things, it was a rerun of The Tonight Show with Joan Rivers. The two settled in with Joan Rivers rattling on. At some point, one of their elbows flinched into the other. Then, a tickling match ensued. The tickling led to rolling around in the bed, which led to a still moment.

Henry reached up and kissed Harry. That was in 1982. And in 2024, that kiss still lasts.

They demonstrated remarkable courage, enduring the hardships of hiding their relationship to protect their careers. They faced moments of having to pretend to be twin brothers to avoid violent repercussions. They even experienced the loss of family members who couldn’t accept their love. But through it all, they clung to each other, a testament to their resilience and the power of their love.

They were finally capable of marrying. They did so without fanfare—just them and a few close friends. There was a quiet understanding that this was always meant to be. But even then, their love faced challenges. They faced the threat of losing their rights as a married couple. Additionally, there was the ever-existing worry of discrimination in housing, employment, and medical care.

After over forty years together, they pridefully ponder on their journey. The fights, love, laughter, and pain were all part of their story. If anything, the years only strengthened their love. Their relationship is a beacon of hope for enduring love in a world that often challenges it.

Henry reaches for Harry’s hand as they sit on their porch, watching the sun set over their quiet neighborhood. His grip is weaker than it used to be, but the warmth is still the same.

“No matter what they take from us,” Henry says softly, “they can’t take this.”

Harry smiles, his thumb brushing over Henry’s knuckles.

“No, they can’t.”

After all, it is where they began—and will always belong. Their home is their sanctuary. It is where their love has blossomed and endured. Their home is a testament to their resilience and the power of love.

This is a true story. The names and places have been changed to protect the identities of those lives involved.

Should You Stay on Facebook? Weighing the Pros and Cons

January 13, 2025Benjamin2 Comments

3–4 minutes

To Stay or Go: Evaluating the Benefits of Remaining on Facebook in Light of Controversial Changes

Social media platforms have become integral to modern life, offering communication, connection, and community building avenues. Nevertheless, as these platforms evolve, so do their policies and practices, often sparking debate about their social and ethical implications. Facebook, a leading social media giant, has recently faced criticism. This criticism is due to changes in its policies on hate speech, bigotry, and LGBTQI support. For individuals making the decision about staying on or leaving Facebook, they hold the power to be informed. Weighing the benefits of both options is essential for this empowerment.

The Case for Staying on Facebook

Maintaining Connections: Facebook remains a vital tool for staying in touch with family. It also helps keep connections with friends and acquaintances, particularly those spread across different regions or countries. For many, it is a lifeline to relationships that would otherwise be difficult to nurture.
Community and Advocacy Opportunities: Despite policy changes, Facebook still hosts several groups and communities that support marginalized voices. These include LGBTQI organizations, social justice movements, and local advocacy efforts. By staying, individuals can continue amplifying positive messages and supporting important causes.
Access to Events and Local Updates: Facebook excels as a hub for event coordination and news dissemination. Whether it’s discovering community gatherings, charity events, or public discussions, the platform enables users to stay engaged with their surroundings.
Platform for Countering Negativity: Staying active on Facebook allows users to directly challenge hate speech and bigotry. Individuals can use their presence to make a positive impact through reporting mechanisms, creating supportive content, and fostering constructive dialogues.
Professional Networking and Opportunities: Beyond personal connections, Facebook provides professional opportunities through networking, business pages, and advertising. Leaving the platform will limit exposure to these tools, which can be crucial for entrepreneurs, freelancers, or small business owners.

The Case for Leaving Facebook

Moral and Ethical Stance: Users can take a stand by leaving Facebook. They do this against policies they perceive as harmful or contrary to their values. This protest can send a powerful message to the platform and its advertisers, influencing change.
Reducing Exposure to Toxic Content: With the relaxation of hate speech policies, users face more harmful content. They become increasingly exposed to offensive material. Removing oneself from the platform eliminates the mental and emotional toll of encountering such material.
Privacy and Data Concerns: Facebook has faced ongoing scrutiny over its handling of user data. Leaving the platform reduces one’s vulnerability to data misuse, targeted advertising, and potential privacy breaches.
Encouraging Other Platforms: Exiting Facebook can prompt individuals to explore different social media platforms that better align with their values. Platforms like Mastodon, MeWe, or local community forums offer a more supportive environment.
Reclaiming Time and Focus: Many users realize an unexpected advantage when they leave Facebook. They find they have more time for hobbies, personal growth, and face-to-face interactions. The departure can foster a sense of liberation from the constant pull of notifications and algorithm-driven content.

Finding a Middle Ground

For those hesitant to make a definitive choice, there are ways to balance the benefits of staying and leaving. Users can regain a sense of control over their Facebook experience by reducing engagement. They can also limit time spent on the platform. Unfollowing toxic pages or users and curating a positive feed helps as well. Additionally, prioritizing different platforms for personal or professional connections while maintaining a minimal Facebook presence can further enhance this control.

Conclusion

The decision to stay on or leave Facebook is very personal. It depends on one’s values, priorities, and tolerance for the platform’s evolving policies. Staying permits individuals to keep connections. They can use their presence for positive change. Leaving can signify a powerful ethical stance. It can lead to personal growth. Regardless of one’s choice, it is essential to evaluate Facebook’s role in one’s life. People should make a decision that aligns with their values and well-being.