– The Day The Music Died – These days… The coffee is often poured into insulated cups. The lids go on before the first sip. People carry it out the door. The kitchen grows quiet almost as quickly as it filled with the smell of fresh coffee. The coffee pot doesn’t mind traveling mugs. It simply misses the moments that stayed behind…
The familiar aroma still drifts through the kitchen.
Morning still arrives.
But the conversations…
They’ve become shorter.
There was a time when no one hurried to finish the first cup.
Neighbors stopped by “for just a minute.”
That minute often became an hour.
Someone would refill a mug without asking.
Another chair would be pulled up to the table.
No one seemed to mind.
The coffee pot certainly didn’t.
It knew another story was about to begin.
It remembers laughter that echoed through the kitchen.
Children interrupting grown-up conversations.
Grandparents telling stories for the hundredth time.
No one complained.
Someone always wanted to hear them again.
The coffee pot listened quietly.
It learned that stories weren’t really about yesterday.
They were gifts for tomorrow.
These days…
The coffee is often poured into insulated cups.
The lids go on before the first sip.
People carry it out the door.
The kitchen grows quiet almost as quickly as it filled with the smell of fresh coffee.
The coffee pot doesn’t mind traveling mugs.
It simply misses the moments that stayed behind.
It wonders…
When did we become too busy for one another?
A warm cup has never solved every problem.
But it has softened many difficult conversations.
It has welcomed strangers.
Comforted grieving friends.
Celebrated new beginnings.
And quietly reminded people that someone cared enough to sit down beside them.
Perhaps that was the real purpose of the coffee.
The coffee pot has discovered something after all these years.
People rarely remember how good the coffee tasted.
They remember who shared it with them.
Closing Thought
Life isn’t measured by how quickly we finish the cup.
It’s measured by who was sitting across the table.
Look around your home. Every ordinary thing has a story. Sometimes, it’s really about us.
There was never a question about whether the old pickup would go.
If someone needed hay hauled before sunrise…
The Old Truck Day (was always there…)
it was there.
If a neighbor’s car refused to start…
it was there.
If the family bought lumber for a new porch…
it was there.
If someone was moving across town with little more than hope and a few boxes…
it was there.
The old pickup didn’t ask where it was going.
It simply turned its engine over and followed the road ahead.
It never cared if the trip was five miles or five hundred.
It didn’t mind muddy fields, gravel roads, snow-covered driveways, or long summer afternoons with the windows rolled down. Every dent in its fender and every scratch along its bed came from helping someone carry a little more than they could carry alone.
It watched children grow from riding in the passenger seat to climbing behind the steering wheel themselves. It carried fishing poles to quiet ponds, Christmas trees home on chilly December evenings, dogs with muddy paws, sacks of feed, bags of groceries, and once in a while, a family that simply wanted to drive until the sun disappeared behind the horizon.
Nobody ever stopped to thank the old pickup.
It didn’t expect them to.
It understood something that many people seem to forget.
The greatest purpose in life isn’t found in being admired.
It’s found in being useful.
Today, there are shinier trucks with larger screens, heated seats, cameras that can see in every direction, and enough buttons to make a pilot pause.
The old pickup isn’t jealous.
It simply smiles to itself.
Because it knows that when life became difficult—when the road turned muddy, when someone needed help, when a job had to be finished before dark—people rarely asked for the fanciest truck.
They looked for the dependable one.
Maybe people aren’t so different.
Character isn’t measured by how impressive we appear when life is easy.
It’s measured by whether others know they can count on us when the road gets rough.
The old pickup never complained.
It simply showed up.
Perhaps that’s why, even after all these years, people still smile whenever they see one parked beside an old barn or rumbling slowly down a country road.
Some things become unforgettable, not because they were extraordinary…
…but because they were always there when they were needed.
The old pickup never cared much about destinations.
It simply wanted to be useful.
The Old Truck
It remembers before trucks became statements.
Before they became symbols.
Before every scratch needed repairing and every dent required an explanation.
Its dents were stories.
The scrape on the passenger door came from helping a neighbor move a freezer.
The worn spot on the tailgate came from hauling hay every Saturday.
The faded paint came from years of sitting beneath the same Oklahoma and Arizona suns while waiting for someone who was running “just one more minute.”
The old pickup never complained.
It understood something that newer things sometimes forget.
Being useful is more important than looking perfect.
It hauled children to Little League games.
It carried lumber for a stranger whose car couldn’t.
It pulled neighbors out of muddy ditches.
It hauled Christmas trees.
It transported dogs that insisted on riding with their heads out the window.
Sometimes it carried nothing more than two friends driving country roads with nowhere particular to be.
Those were good trips too.
The pickup never asked whether the journey was important.
If someone needed it…
It went.
Today it sits quietly beneath a shade tree.
The engine isn’t quite as eager.
The paint has surrendered to time.
Its tires no longer travel every morning.
Yet if someone walked over, slipped the key into the ignition, and said,
“I need your help…”
The old pickup would still try.
Because usefulness was never something it did.
It was who it became.
Perhaps people aren’t remembered for how shiny they once looked.
Perhaps they’re remembered for the loads they helped carry.
Tomorrow…
The Old Pickup Wonders Why Nobody Waves Anymore.
Look around your home. Every ordinary thing has a story. Sometimes, it’s really about us.
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The old bread box has heard thousands of conversations.
Some were whispered.
The old bread box isn’t pretending the past was perfect. It remembers hurt feelings. It remembers stubbornness. It remembers doors closing a little harder than necessary.
Some were filled with laughter.
Some were spoken through tears.
And yes…
Some were arguments.
People have always disagreed.
The bread box remembers fathers who thought sons should work harder.
Mothers who believed daughters should be home before dark.
Grandparents who couldn’t understand the younger generation.
Neighbors who debated whose fence belonged where.
Friends who insisted one baseball team was better than another.
The conversations sometimes became spirited.
Voices occasionally grew louder.
Someone might fold their arms.
Another might push back from the table.
For a moment, silence would settle over the room.
Then someone would reach for the butter.
Or ask if anyone wanted another slice of bread.
The conversation would change.
The disagreement remained.
But so did the people.
The bread box never understood why sharing a meal made it easier to share different opinions.
Perhaps it was because people looked into one another’s eyes instead of past them.
Perhaps it was because they remembered there would be another breakfast tomorrow.
Or perhaps they simply believed that a disagreement didn’t have to become a goodbye.
The bread box has noticed something different over the years.
Sometimes people arrive carrying words sharper than kitchen knives.
Sometimes they leave before the bread has even been passed.
Sometimes they win an argument…
But lose a conversation.
The old bread box isn’t pretending the past was perfect.
It remembers hurt feelings.
It remembers stubbornness.
It remembers doors closing a little harder than necessary.
But it also remembers those same doors opening again the next morning.
It remembers apologies quietly spoken over coffee.
It remembers forgiveness arriving before dessert.
Most of all…
It remembers people believing that relationships were worth repairing.
Perhaps the strongest homes were never the ones without disagreements.
Perhaps they were the ones where love stayed seated at the table after the argument had ended.
The bread box has learned something over the years.
Bread has always been sliced.
People don’t have to be.
Look around your home. Every ordinary thing has a story. Sometimes, it’s really about us.
The strongest homes were never the ones without disagreements.
Perhaps they were the ones where love stayed seated at the table after the argument had ended.
The bread box has learned something over the years.
For many bread has always been sliced.
People don’t have to be.
Look around your home. Every ordinary thing has a story. Sometimes, it’s really about us
The old bread box noticed something different the third morning.
There was only one loaf inside.
Look around your home. Every ordinary thing has a story. Sometimes, it’s really about us.
It had been there a few days. The crust was a little firmer now. The corners had begun to lose their softness. Years ago, someone might have called it stale.
The bread box wasn’t worried.
It had seen this many times before.
Soon enough, someone would open its lid and smile.
“This will make good toast.”
Or French toast.
Or stuffing for Sunday dinner.
Perhaps breadcrumbs for a favorite recipe.
Maybe even a handful of pieces tossed into the yard where birds gathered with the sunrise.
The bread had simply found another purpose.
The bread box never understood the idea of throwing away something that still had something left to give.
It wasn’t only bread.
It remembered socks with careful stitches where a heel had worn thin. A favorite shirt with a patch sewn neatly over a tear. Kitchen chairs tightened with a screwdriver instead of carried to the curb. Radios repaired. Lamps rewired. Toys handed down to younger brothers, sisters, cousins, and neighbors.
People didn’t always have more.
But somehow, they seemed to appreciate more.
The bread box has watched the years change.
Today, it notices how quickly things disappear.
A chair with a loose leg.
A toaster that misses a heating element.
A lamp that flickers.
Sometimes they are replaced before anyone ever asks whether they could have been repaired.
The bread box isn’t passing judgment.
After all, it has welcomed every kind of bread that has come through its door. White. Wheat. Rye. Sourdough. Artisan. Gluten-free. Every loaf has found a place beneath its lid.
It simply remembers another way of looking at things.
Back then, people seemed to ask one question before letting something go.
“Can this still be useful?”
Perhaps that question wasn’t only meant for bread.
Or furniture.
Or old tools.
Perhaps it was quietly asked of people, too.
The bread box has lived long enough to learn that usefulness isn’t always found in what is newest.
Sometimes it is found in what has been cared for the longest.
Perhaps value isn’t determined by age.
Perhaps it is determined by appreciation.
Look around your home. Every ordinary thing has a story. Sometimes, it’s really about us.
Look around your home. Every ordinary thing has a story. Sometimes, it’s really about us.
No one ever argued over where I belonged. I simply sat on the kitchen counter, close enough that someone could reach inside without thinking. It wasn’t a place of honor. It wasn’t a place of importance. But from where I rested, I saw nearly everything.
Every morning began the same way.
Someone walked into the kitchen before the sun had fully made up its mind to rise. Coffee found its way into a cup. Bacon sometimes filled the room with its unmistakable invitation. Children wandered in with sleepy eyes, hair refusing to cooperate, and parents pretending they had more energy than they really did.
Soon enough, someone would lift my lid.
Sometimes it was careful.
Sometimes it was rushed.
Little hands usually forgot to close me afterward.
I never minded.
Inside me rested something so ordinary that no one gave it much thought. A loaf of bread.
White bread.
Wheat bread.
Homemade bread when someone had the time.
It didn’t matter.
Bread was never just bread.
It became toast before school.
A sandwich tucked into a lunch pail.
A slice beside a bowl of soup.
The last piece divided between two people because neither wanted the other to go without.
That happened more often than you might imagine.
You learn a great deal about people by watching how they share the last slice.
Back then, kitchens weren’t simply rooms in a house. They were gathering places. News traveled across the table long before it reached a television. Plans were made there. Problems were solved there. Birthdays were celebrated there. Tears occasionally found their way there, too.
And somehow… there was always enough bread.
Not because families had plenty.
Many didn’t.
But because they had learned that “enough” and “plenty” were never quite the same thing.
I watched children grow taller one sandwich at a time.
I watched parents grow older one worry at a time.
I watched grandparents quietly smile as they buttered toast for little hands that reminded them of another generation.
I wasn’t the most important thing in the kitchen.
I simply happened to be there when life happened.
Perhaps that’s why I remember it so well.
These days, people still pass by me.
Sometimes they open me.
Sometimes they don’t.
But every now and then, someone pauses for just a moment, rests a hand on my old wooden lid, and smiles without saying a word.
I think they’re remembering, too.
Tomorrow, I’ll tell you about something else I noticed.
The kitchen hasn’t become quieter because people stopped talking.
It’s become quieter because fewer people are there to hear one another.
Look around your home. Every ordinary thing has a story. Sometimes, it’s really about us.
It sat quietly on the counter. No flashing lights. No digital display. It never argued with anyone. It simply had one responsibility—to protect what would feed the family tomorrow.
The bread box never baked the bread.
It never claimed credit for the farmer who grew the wheat or the baker who rose before daylight. It simply understood that once something valuable arrived, someone had to take care of it.
The old bread box had standards.
It wasn’t a storage place for everything. You didn’t toss old newspapers inside. You didn’t fill it with junk because there happened to be empty space. It knew the difference between what nourished a family and what merely occupied room.
Then one day people decided bread boxes were old-fashioned.
“We don’t need that anymore,”
they said.
The bread was left lying on the counter where it dried out a little more each day. Some blamed the bread. Others blamed the weather. Still others insisted nothing had changed at all.
The bread, of course, never argued.
It simply became stale.
And the remarkable thing about stale bread is this: it doesn’t happen all at once. You rarely notice it from one day to the next. It is only when you pick up the loaf and wonder what happened that you realize something important had quietly disappeared.
The bread box never made promises.
It never claimed it could improve the bread.
It simply protected it from becoming something it was never intended to be.
Perhaps that is the purpose of more things in life than we realize.
Sometimes the quiet, ordinary things aren’t there because they are exciting.
They are there because they have learned that what is worth keeping is usually worth protecting.
Look around your home. Every ordinary thing has a story. Sometimes, it’s really about us.
There was a time when buying a loaf of bread was about as controversial as life could become.
Promises vs. Results.
Politics has become much the same way. Somewhere along the road we stopped asking one simple question:
Today, mentioning the price of that same loaf can start an argument.
“Did the last promises work?”
Every election season arrives with a fresh collection of guarantees. Taxes will go down. Jobs will multiply. Government will shrink. Crime will disappear. Inflation will be conquered. Our freedoms will be protected. We are assured that prosperity is just one election away.
Then four years pass.
The speeches become campaign commercials. The commercials become memories. And before long, many of us find ourselves hearing nearly the same promises from many of the same people, while somehow convincing ourselves this time the outcome will be different.
Perhaps before accepting another promise, we should compare it with the last one.
What were we told in 2024?
What actually happened?
Not what our favorite television network says happened. Not what social media insists happened. What changed in our own lives?
What happened to grocery prices?
What happened to gasoline?
Could you buy more—or less—with the paycheck you earned?
Did your insurance go up?
Did your property taxes change?
Did your retirement account grow or shrink?
Did your neighborhood become safer?
Those answers are far more valuable than any campaign slogan.
None of this means every promise failed. Governments accomplish some things and fall short on others. The honest voter should be willing to acknowledge both.
That requires something becoming increasingly rare in America—an honest inventory.
The next time someone tells you what tomorrow will look like, don’t begin by looking forward.
Begin by looking backward.
History may not predict the future, but it usually leaves enough footprints to tell us where we’ve already walked.Years ago, neighbors could spend an afternoon arguing over whosesourdough recipe made the better loaf, and everyone still shared a slice afterward.
Today, mention the price of that loaf—or the politician who promised to make it cheaper—and you may lose a friend before the bread comes out of the oven. That’s unfortunate, because both subjects have something in common. Good bread takes patience, honest ingredients, and careful attention. Good government should require no less. ––– Benjamin!
Dad taught me so much, while saying nothing at all…
My father never gave speeches about treating people fairly.
Groff’s Barber Shop – Equality Before Its Time.
He didn’t quote famous leaders. He didn’t lecture me about prejudice or equality. In fact, I don’t ever remember us having a conversation about race.
He simply lived his life in a way that made those conversations unnecessary.
Growing up, my father was the only barber in our little Oklahoma town of about 750 souls. It was the 1960s, and like many small towns across America, ours had invisible lines that everyone seemed to understand. One section of town was where the Black families lived. I never really understood why. To me, it was simply another neighborhood where some of my classmates lived.
Every so often, a Black mother would bring her four boys into my father’s barber shop for haircuts. It never failed. Someone sitting in the waiting area would quietly get up, walk out the door, and leave.
As a little boy, I didn’t understand what I had just witnessed.
Neither, it seemed, did my father.
Without missing a beat, he would drape the barber’s cape around the first young man and go to work as though nothing unusual had happened. If I happened to ask about the customers who left, Dad’s answer was always the same.
“They’ll be back,” he would say. “I’m the only barber in town. Otherwise, they’ll have to drive forty miles for a haircut.”
There was never anger in his voice. Never judgment. Never a sermon.
Just the quiet confidence of a man who knew what was right and wasn’t about to change because someone else disapproved.
On Sunday mornings, we’d often visit families in that same neighborhood. I played with kids who happened to be Black, but to me they were simply classmates and friends. Our school wasn’t large enough for anyone to disappear into the crowd. My graduating class would eventually reach only twenty-eight students.
Then I started watching the evening news.
Night after night, television showed marches, protests, violence, and hatred taking place around the country. I remember thinking how strange it all seemed. I honestly believed most people lived the way my father did.
One summer, during a trip to the Oklahoma State Fair, I wandered into one of the exhibit buildings after I had seen everything that interested me. An older Black gentleman was working there as a maintenance employee, keeping an eye on the building.
We struck up a conversation.
Before long, we were swapping stories as though we’d known each other for years. I told him about my hometown, my father, and the barber shop. Before leaving, I casually said, “If you’re ever out our way, stop in.”
I never expected him to take me up on the invitation.
Several weeks later, I was cleaning my bedroom when my father called me into the living room.
“There’s a gentleman here who says he knows you,” Dad said with a puzzled smile. “And he insists I must be a perfect father to have raised such a son.”
Standing there was my friend from the State Fair.
I couldn’t believe he had actually come.
We spent the afternoon walking around our place, catching up as if no time had passed at all. Looking back, I doubt either of us thought much about the color of our skin. We were simply two people who had enjoyed each other’s company.
It wasn’t until years later, when the television miniseries Roots aired, that I began to understand what so many Americans had experienced. Like millions of others, I watched every episode. But I also watched the conversations that followed. Neighbors talked. Classmates talked. Adults revealed opinions I had never heard before.
For the first time, I realized prejudice wasn’t something found only on the evening news. Sometimes it lived much closer to home.
After graduating and entering law enforcement, my father’s quiet example stayed with me.
One evening I watched another officer use what I believed was excessive force during an arrest. I couldn’t undo what had happened, but I could make certain the young man wasn’t alone afterward. I volunteered to transport him to jail.
On the drive, I explained how he could file a civil rights complaint if he believed his rights had been violated. Before we arrived, I asked him to promise me he would follow through.
When I returned from my scheduled days off, I was instructed to report to the Major’s office.
My assignment changed.
For what seemed like forever, I cleaned dog kennels at the city’s animal shelter.
Some might say I paid a price.
I never saw it that way.
Long before I wore a badge, I had watched a barber quietly refuse to let other people’s prejudice determine how he would treat another human being.
He never gave me a lecture about equality.
He never told me how to live my life.
He simply cut hair.
And somewhere between that old barber chair, a surprise visit from a friend I met at the State Fair, and the lessons that followed me into a police uniform, I learned that integrity isn’t something you talk about.
It’s something you do.
My father probably never realized he was teaching me one of the greatest lessons of my life.
Then again, maybe that’s how the best teachers always work.
Author’s Note
Longtime readers of benandsteve.com may recognize portions of this story. Over the years, these memories have appeared as part of other, larger stories on the blog. However, they have never been told as a story of their own.
As I continue writing and publishing my life story, I’ve come to realize that this particular memory deserved to stand on its own. The events surrounding my father’s barber shop, my unexpected friendship at the Oklahoma State Fair, and the lessons those experiences carried into my years in law enforcement are explored in greater detail throughout my memoir.
Sometimes a single moment in life is important enough to be remembered twice—once as part of a larger journey, and once for the lesson it taught.
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There was a time when nearly every town had a little Mom and Pop general store. It wasn’t the biggest building in town. It didn’t have flashing lights, endless aisles, or a parking lot the size of a football field. But it had something far more important.
Are too many changes, causing you a blur?
It had people.
You stopped in because you needed a loaf of bread, a box of nails, a spool of thread, or maybe just a cold bottle of pop on a hot afternoon. Before long you found yourself visiting with a neighbor, catching up on local happenings, or hearing a story you hadn’t expected to hear. You came for one thing and often left with something entirely different.
That’s the way I have always wanted benandsteve.com to be.
It isn’t meant to be the biggest website on the internet. It isn’t trying to become a corporate media empire with every new bell, whistle, gadget, and artificial intelligence feature someone insists I must install before tomorrow. Every few days another message appears telling me I need this plug-in, that application, another update, another subscription, or one more feature that promises to make everything “better.”
Sometimes I wonder if the people designing these things have forgotten that simple still works.
I’m not trying to build a shining city on a hill. I’m simply trying to keep the lights on in my little general store.
When you stop by, I hope you’ll find a good story, a bit of history, a few headlines worth knowing, perhaps an obituary honoring someone who deserved to be remembered, or news about the men and women who serve in law enforcement, fire, EMS, and emergency services. Maybe you’ll discover something you didn’t expect. Maybe you’ll leave with a smile, a memory, or a thought worth carrying into the rest of your day.
The internet doesn’t always have to be loud. It doesn’t always have to flash, blink, autoplay, notify, or demand your attention every five seconds. Sometimes it’s enough to simply open the front door, hear it creak a little, and know the owner is behind the counter ready to say, “Good to see you. What’s new?”
That is what I hope benandsteve.com continues to be.
What you see is what you get.
No gimmicks. No smoke and mirrors. Just stories, memories, history, humor, and the occasional opinion from someone who still believes that neighbors matter, truth matters, and a simple conversation is worth preserving.
So pull up a chair. Look around. Read a story or two. And before you head back down the road, don’t forget to wave at the folks coming in behind you.
~ Throughout history there have always been those who stood firm, and those who surrendered their principles for the sake of comfort or fear. Those who exchanged their standards out of weakness and bowed to a tyranny are rarely remembered among the notable. History tends to reserve that honor for those who stood their ground when it mattered most. ~ Benjamin Groff
Millions knew him simply as firefighter-paramedic John Gage on the television series Emergency!. Week after week, audiences watched Squad 51 race toward danger while others ran away. For many of us, it was our first real glimpse into the world of emergency medicine. Before Emergency!, most Americans had never even heard the word “paramedic.” By the time the series had finished its remarkable run, the profession had become part of our national vocabulary, and communities across America were beginning to recognize just how vital those highly trained men and women could be.
Mantooth himself once remarked that when he was first offered the role, he asked,
“What the hell’s a paramedic?” There were only a handful in California at the time.
As someone who spent years in law enforcement and emergency communications, and who worked alongside ambulance crews and first responders, I can tell you this: television rarely captures the reality of the job. Emergency!came closer than most.
More importantly, it inspired countless young people to become EMTs, paramedics, firefighters, nurses, and physicians. Many have openly credited Randolph Mantooth and his co-star Kevin Tighe for setting them on that path. That may be the greatest legacy an actor could ever hope to leave—not simply applause, but lives changed because someone watching believed they could make a difference.
Randolph Mantooth: The Actor Who Helped Inspire a Generation of Paramedics
What impressed me most about Randolph Mantooth was that he never walked away from the profession after the cameras stopped rolling. Long after Emergency! ended, he continued speaking at EMS conferences, supporting firefighters and paramedics, advocating for emergency medical services, and honoring those who answered the call every day. He understood that the badge his character wore represented real people who climbed into ambulances and fire apparatus every morning, never knowing what the next call would bring. He became one of their strongest ambassadors.
Gage and the more buttoned-down DeSoto worked out the Los Angeles County Fire Department’s Station 51, interacting often with Rampart General Hospital personnel Dr. Kelly Brackett (Robert Fuller), nurse Dixie McCall (Julie London) and Dr. Joe Early (Bobby Troup, London’s real-life husband).
One of the qualities I admired most about Randolph Mantooth was that he never walked away from the role that made him a household name. He recognized that John Gage had become far more than a television character. In this video, Mantooth speaks about the privilege—and the responsibility—of representing the paramedics and firefighters of the Los Angeles Fire Department. His words reveal the genuine respect he held for those who serve others every day.
On Emergency! He Was Johnny Gage. To Millions, He Was Much More.
Actors often hope they will be remembered for a performance. Randolph Mantooth will be remembered for something much greater. He portrayed courage with such honesty that it encouraged others to live it. Somewhere tonight, an EMT will respond to a difficult call. A paramedic will restart a heart. A firefighter will pull someone from danger. Many of those men and women first imagined themselves wearing that uniform while watching a young paramedic named John Gage answer another call from Rampart Hospital.
This is a timely subject, but I would encourage approaching it from the standpoint of preparing citizens for uncertainty rather than assuming that misconduct will occur. That makes your piece more credible and more useful to readers across the political spectrum.
Instead of asking, “What do you plan to do, when this happens?” consider asking, “What should citizens do if they believe something has gone wrong?” That subtle change invites thoughtful discussion without presenting unverified scenarios as inevitable.
Here is an approach that sounds like it could fit your style:
What Will You Do If You Don’t Trust the Election?
Every election produces winners, losers, and questions. Most questions are answered quickly. Others linger for weeks or even months. In today’s political climate, many Americans—regardless of party—already worry about the integrity of elections before the first ballot is even cast.
Some fear voting machines could malfunction or be tampered with. Others worry voter rolls may be inaccurate, that absentee ballots will be mishandled, or that eligible voters could encounter unexpected obstacles at the polls. Whether those concerns ultimately prove justified or not, the question remains the same:
What Will You Do…What Will You Do?
What should a citizen do if they honestly believe something went wrong?
The answer is not violence. It is not intimidation. It is not threatening election workers who are often your own neighbors. It is not spreading rumors because someone posted a dramatic claim on social media. A constitutional republic only functions when disagreements are handled through lawful means rather than anger.
If you believe there was a problem, document it. Keep records. Ask questions. Contact your local election officials. Report suspected violations to the proper authorities. Support legitimate recounts where state law allows them. Follow court proceedings. Encourage transparency. Demand evidence—not rumors. The strength of our democracy has never depended upon everyone agreeing. It has depended upon citizens insisting that disputes be settled through law instead of force.
Perhaps the greater question isn’t whether an election will be challenged. History tells us that many elections have been. The real test is whether Americans can disagree without abandoning the very institutions designed to resolve those disagreements.
Because once citizens lose confidence that peaceful processes still matter, everyone loses—regardless of which candidate wins.
You might even close with a question that encourages discussion instead of division:
“If the results of an election left you with serious questions, what would your next step be? Would you seek facts? File a complaint? Volunteer as a poll watcher in the next election? Or would you simply walk away? Democracy depends not only on voting—but on how we respond when we believe something deserves closer scrutiny.”
That ending invites readers to think about responsible civic action rather than assuming any particular outcome or directing them toward a predetermined conclusion. It also reinforces an important principle: confidence in elections is strengthened by transparency, evidence, and lawful processes—not by speculation alone.
Nobody could agree on exactly what the lagoon was for.
Officially, the city council referred to it as:
“The Municipal Water Reclamation and Environmental Recovery Basin.”
Everyone else called it:
“The Sewer Pond.”
It sat at the very edge of town where civilization politely stopped asking questions. A murky body of water ringed by cattails, mosquitoes the size of sparrows, and an odor so powerful that passing motorists instinctively rolled up their windows and questioned their life choices.
It was said that fresh water mixed with wastewater there, diluted itself, and eventually seeped back into the earth.
That was the alleged purpose.
But beginning one spring, people started whispering about something else.
Something alive.
Something big.
The first report came from Wanda Simmons.
Wanda owned the town’s only bar, Wanda’s Last Chance Lounge, a business motto she proudly claimed applied equally to customers and marriages.
One morning just before sunrise, Wanda was returning from illegally dumping trash at an abandoned gravel pit behind the rural home of the Chevrolet dealer.
She would later insist:
“I know what I saw.”
The eastern sky was just beginning to glow.
And there…
floating just offshore…
were two eyes.
Yellow.
Reflecting the sunrise.
Beneath them, something dark.
Long.
At least ten feet.
“It was an alligator!” Wanda declared.
The town laughed.
Mostly because Wanda had been known to mistake fence posts for ex-husbands.
A month later came Report Number Two.
The town drunk, Earl “Tater” McGrew, staggered into the sheriff’s office soaking wet and smelling somehow worse than the lagoon itself.
“I nearly got et!” he shouted.
The sheriff sighed.
“Where?”
“Layers Lake.”
“Layers Lake is ten miles east.”
Tater blinked.
“Well then where’d I fall in?”
“The sewer pond.”
Tater thought about this.
“Huh.”
Then he leaned forward.
“Whatever was in there tried to eat me.”
“Or,” said the sheriff, “you fell in face first.”
Tater pointed dramatically.
“It hissed.”
The sheriff wrote in his notebook:
SUBJECT INTOXICATED. POSSIBLY ATTACKED BY CATFISH.
The third sighting was harder to dismiss.
Two hay haulers, brothers Jimmy and Dale Foster, were returning to town with an empty truck.
They stopped along the highway overlooking the lagoon.
And watched.
A group of ducks floated near shore.
Suddenly—
WHAP!
A massive tail erupted from the water.
The ducks exploded into the air.
The water boiled.
Then…
silence.
Jimmy looked at Dale.
Dale looked at Jimmy.
Jimmy said:
“That ain’t no catfish.”
Dale nodded.
“That’s a dinosaur.”
By summer the town was obsessed.
Everyone had theories.
An escaped zoo animal.
A secret government experiment.
An overgrown snapping turtle.
Someone even suggested it was the reincarnation of a corrupt city councilman.
That theory gained considerable support.
There was only one problem.
According to the wildlife department…
there were no alligators within a thousand miles.
The winters were too cold.
The lagoon was too polluted.
And no sane reptile would choose to live there.
Official statement:
"An alligator surviving in this environment is biologically impossible."
Then the photographs appeared.
Blurry.
Out of focus.
Taken through windshields.
A pair of eyes.
A ridged back.
A tail.
Something massive beneath the water.
Every image looked exactly like an alligator.
The town exploded.
Television crews arrived.
Internet monster hunters appeared carrying drones and night vision goggles.
A retired Navy man built a trap baited with chickens.
A chiropractor attempted hypnosis.
The local pastor sprinkled holy water into the lagoon.
The lagoon promptly bubbled.
Nobody was certain if that meant anything.
Months passed.
Nobody got close.
The smell kept most people back.
The creature remained elusive.
Until…
one crisp October morning.
It happened.
Twelve-year-old Emily Harper was fishing from the north bank.
Not because she expected to catch anything.
She simply liked quiet places.
The lagoon qualified.
Suddenly…
the water erupted.
A huge head rose from the surface.
Emily froze.
The creature stared back.
Not yellow eyes.
Green.
Curious.
Ancient.
It blinked.
Then slowly crawled onto shore.
The entire town, which had apparently been hiding nearby hoping for this exact moment, collectively screamed.
Because…
it wasn’t an alligator.
Not even close.
It was a giant lizard.
An enormous reptile nearly eight feet long.
Heavy-bodied.
Powerful claws.
Long muscular tail.
Dark mottled scales.
And a forked tongue flicking lazily through the air.
The creature looked prehistoric.
It waddled awkwardly.
And appeared thoroughly annoyed by the attention.
Wildlife officials were summoned.
Three universities sent biologists.
Reporters descended by the dozens.
After weeks of study they announced:
The creature was an enormous species of monitor lizard.
Possibly descended from an exotic pet released decades earlier.
Somehow…against every law of nature…it had survived.
The warm outflow from the lagoon had kept the water temperature just high enough during winter.
The constant supply of fish, frogs, raccoons, and the occasional lost lawn ornament had sustained it.
It was…astonishing.
Rare.
Perhaps unique.
The town was disappointed.
They had wanted an alligator.
But over time…they became proud.
Because while other towns had parks…or museums…or giant balls of twine…they had:
“Muddywater Mike.”
The world’s most famous sewer-lagoon monitor lizard.
A viewing platform was built.
T-shirts were printed.
Wanda Simmons immediately began selling:
“I Saw Mike First”
shirts.
Nobody believed her.
She sold hundreds anyway.
Earl “Tater” McGrew continued insisting:
“That thing almost ate me.”
Emily Harper would smile.
“No, Earl.”
She’d point to the sign beside the lagoon.
MUDDYWATER MIKESpecies: Giant Monitor LizardDisposition: Generally FriendlyFavorite Foods: Fish, Frogs, and Tourists Who Ignore Warning Signs
Earl would squint.
“Still think he hissed at me.”
And every evening…
just before sunset…
Mike would crawl onto his favorite patch of shoreline.
Stretch himself into the fading light.
And stare across the town that had spent a year hunting a monster…
By the time Oklahoma County District Judge Joe Cannon took the bench, Prohibition had been dead for decades.
“Cannon Ball Joe”
The copper stills had mostly disappeared.
The old bootleg roads had become paved highways.
But the stories remained.
Judge Cannon had spent his life around the law.
He became a lawyer, served the public, and eventually sat on the Oklahoma County bench, where he earned a reputation for being tough, thoughtful, and unwilling to forget that every case involved a human being. He would remain a judge until his retirement in 1988.
The names changed.
The crimes changed.
But now and then, someone would mention the old days.
“The bootleggers,”an attorney might say.
“The whiskey runners.”
“The fellows who hid stills out near Stella.”
And somebody would invariably ask:
“Remember J. W. Sims?”
The judge would lean back.
Not because he had known Sims.
No one was quite sure anyone alive still had.
But because Sims had become a symbol.
A man who lived in a strange time.
A time when the government outlawed what many people considered ordinary.
A time when a farmer might become a criminal overnight.
And a criminal might still be regarded as a neighbor.
Judge Cannon understood that tension.
The law had to be enforced.
But history was rarely as simple as heroes and villains.
J. W. Sims was arrested.
That much the newspapers recorded.
Yet what happened afterward?
Did he pay a fine and go home?
Did he swear off whiskey forever?
Did he build another still deeper in the woods?
No one knew.
The records grow silent.
And silence, Judge Cannon would tell young lawyers, is often where history becomes legend.
Perhaps that is why people still remember the name.
Not because J. W. Sims was the most notorious bootlegger.
Not because he made the best whiskey.
But because his story reminds us that Oklahoma was built by ordinary people living through extraordinary times.
People who bent the rules.
People who broke the rules.
And people who spent the rest of their lives deciding what those rules should have been in the first place.
Judge Joe Cannon spent his life enforcing the law.
J. W. Sims spent part of his life running from it.
And somewhere between the two lies the story of Oklahoma itself.
The Man at the Still
Epilogue: Cannon Ball Joe
By 1959, J. W. Sims would have been an old man.
If he were alive at all.
The newspapers no longer mentioned him.
The abandoned farm near Stella had long since returned to weeds and scrub oak.
The copper still was gone.
The bootleg roads had become county roads.
But whiskey?
Whiskey was still flowing.
Oklahoma had been fighting Prohibition for nearly forty years.
And now Governor J. Howard Edmondson had decided to end the charade.
Before the people could vote on repeal, he ordered the state dried up for real.
The job fell to the Commissioner of Public Safety.
Joseph R. Cannon.
Oklahomans knew him by another name.
“Cannon Ball Joe.”
The nickname fit.
He attacked bootlegging operations with enthusiasm.
Highway patrolmen raided roadhouses.
Private clubs were shut down.
Hidden liquor caches were seized.
Bootleggers who had operated for years suddenly found the law knocking on their doors.
Cannon Ball Joe intended to prove a point.
If Oklahoma wanted to remain dry, then it would actually be dry.
No more “liquor by the wink.”
No more secret bottles passed beneath counters.
No more hidden stills in the woods.
And perhaps, just perhaps, somewhere in Oklahoma an old man named J. W. Sims sat in a chair on a porch and read about it.
He may have smiled.
Because men like Sims knew something politicians eventually learned.
You could smash a still.
You could seize the whiskey.
You could arrest the bootlegger.
But you could never quite arrest the idea.
For decades, Oklahoma had fought a war against liquor.
And liquor had fought back.
Finally, in 1959, the people voted.
Prohibition ended.
The stills disappeared.
The bootleggers faded into memory.
But the stories remained.
Stories about men like J. W. Sims.
And stories about the law enforcement officers who chased them.
Men like Cannon Ball Joe.
Together, they became part of Oklahoma folklore.
One running from the law.
The other is running straight at it.
Both are leaving footprints on the same dusty road.
A note from the writer, One of the descendants of the Sims family drove my rural route school bus. Years later, as a teenager working summers cleaning floors at the school, he would tell me stories about J. W. Sims. It has taken me many years to gather the pieces of those stories and compare them with the historical record. Some parts proved true. Others were undoubtedly embellished over time. Every bit of it, however, was fascinating. The man who shared those stories with me passed away several years ago. On a recent trip back to my hometown, I visited with his relatives and asked for their blessing to tell the tales their father, uncle, and family member had entrusted to me. What you read is not just history? It is memory, folklore, and the enduring power of stories passed from one generation to the next. Benjamin H. Groff II
This story is historical fiction inspired by a brief newspaper account of an actual arrest near Stella, Oklahoma, during Prohibition.
When federal agents hauled J. W. Sims from the abandoned farm outside Stella, the newspapers made it sound simple.
The Man at The Still – Part II, The Road To Stella
Another moonshiner arrested.
Another still destroyed.
Another victory for Prohibition.
But life in rural Oklahoma was rarely that simple.
J. W. Sims had grown up in a world where whiskey was not considered a crime.
His father kept a jug in the barn.
His grandfather made peach brandy every fall.
Neighbors shared recipes as freely as they shared seeds for planting.
Then came 1920.
Congress passed the Eighteenth Amendment.
The government said alcohol was illegal.
The people of Oklahoma mostly shrugged.
Some obeyed.
Others simply moved their operations farther into the woods.
The farm near Stella had once belonged to a widow who moved to Shawnee after her husband died.
The house sat empty.
The barn sagged.
The well still produced cold water.
To a bootlegger, it was perfect.
The still itself was nothing fancy.
A copper boiler.
A warm condenser cooled by creek water.
A few barrels of corn mash.
The smell, however, was impossible to hide.
Sweet.
Sour.
Yeasty.
The scent drifted through the trees for a quarter mile.
Sims joked that if the federal agents could not find the still, they could simply follow their noses.
Harold McGilvery didn’t laugh.
Harold worried constantly.
“Somebody’s gonna talk,” he said.
“They always do.”
Business was good.
A gallon jug sold for three dollars.
Five dollars if the buyer lived in Shawnee.
Twice that if somebody wanted it shipped to Oklahoma City.
There were farmers who bought.
Oil field roughnecks bought.
Traveling salesmen bought.
Even churchgoers bought.
Especially churchgoers.
Sims found it amusing that some of his best customers lectured him on morality while handing over cash.
The first arrest came in the spring.
Not Sims.
Not Harold.
A man in Seminole County.
Then another outside Ada.
Then three more near Prague.
Federal agents had begun raiding stills throughout central Oklahoma.
The newspapers called them “revenooers.”
Most folks had other names for them.
Harold became nervous.
He wanted to quit.
Sims was less concerned.
“They can’t arrest everybody,” he said.
It was a statement history would prove incorrect.
One morning, before sunrise, dogs began barking.
Harold looked toward the road.
A pair of automobiles approached.
Dark sedans.
No county markings.
No warning.
Just dust and headlights.
“Federal men,” Harold whispered.
The two men ran.
Harold disappeared into the trees.
Sims slipped behind the barn.
For a moment, he thought he might escape.
Then came the shout.
“Federal officers!”
And the unmistakable sound of a shotgun shell being racked.
Sims raised his hands.
The newspapers would later report the facts in only a few sentences.
Federal officers raided an illicit distillery near Stella.
Harold McGilvery was arrested first.
J. W. Sims was arrested later in connection with the operation.
That was all.
No mention of the cold morning air.
No mention of the copper still cooling in the grass.
No mention of the dreams that ended beside an abandoned farmhouse.
What happened to J. W. Sims after that?
The records grow quiet.
Perhaps he paid a fine.
Perhaps he served a short sentence.
Perhaps he returned to farming.
Or perhaps he found another hidden hollow and another copper kettle.
Many did.
Because Prohibition was a peculiar war.
The government won the raids.
The bootleggers won customers.
And ordinary men like J. W. Sims lived somewhere in between.
One foot in the law.
One foot outside it.
Trying to make a living in Oklahoma during one of the strangest chapters in American history.
A note from the writer, One of the descendants of the Sims family drove my rural route school bus. Years later, as a teenager working summers cleaning floors at the school, he would tell me stories about J. W. Sims. It has taken me many years to gather the pieces of those stories and compare them with the historical record. Some parts proved true. Others were undoubtedly embellished over time. Every bit of it, however, was fascinating. The man who shared those stories with me passed away several years ago. On a recent trip back to my hometown, I visited with his relatives and asked for their blessing to tell the tales their father, uncle, and family member had entrusted to me. What you've read is not just history? It is memory, folklore, and the enduring power of stories passed from one generation to the next. Benjamin H. Groff II
The Curious Case of J. W. Sims of Stella, Oklahoma
J. W. Sims reminds us that history is not only about governors, oil barons, or outlaws whose names fill books.
In the late 1920s, federal agents traced rumors to an abandoned farm near Stella, Oklahoma.
The countryside was changing—oil derricks dotted the horizon, and automobiles were replacing horses. Amid these modern shifts, tucked away in the woods and hollows of Pottawatomie County, another, older industry quietly flourished.
Moonshine.
It was the era of Prohibition. Though the federal government had outlawed the manufacture and sale of alcohol in 1920, many Oklahomans paid little attention to Washington’s wishes. As a result, hidden stills appeared in creek bottoms and abandoned barns, allowing homemade whiskey to flow through rural communities where neighbors often knew but seldom spoke.
In the midst of this, J. W. Sims emerged.
Little is recorded about Sims. No photos, interviews, or memoirs revealing his perspective remain.
Given the sparse details about Sims, what persists instead are scattered newspaper accounts.
A Tecumseh Oil Record article notes federal agents arrested Harold McGilvery and later J. W. Sims for an illicit distillery near Stella, on an abandoned farm—prime bootlegger territory. The story held no confession or courtroom drama, just a few lines marking another Prohibition struggle in Oklahoma.
Perhaps it is this very lack of detail that makes the story so compelling.
Who was J. W. Sims?
Was he the mastermind behind the operation?
A hired hand trying to earn a living?
A local farmer tempted by quick money during difficult times?
Or was he simply in the wrong place when federal agents arrived?
We do not know.
Oklahoma’s late 1920s were odd times. Oil reshaped fortunes. Towns boomed and disappeared overnight. Beneath this change, illegal whiskey flourished in secrecy, and hidden stills became folklore—spoken of in barbershops and stores.
Thus, the arrest of J. W. Sims reminds us that history is more than stories of governors, oil barons, or famous outlaws.
Sometimes history is a single newspaper clipping.
A forgotten man.
A still hidden in the woods.
A federal raid.
And a mystery left for future generations to piece together.
Today, nearly a century later, J. W. Sims remains a shadow in Oklahoma history. We may never know whether he was a villain, a victim, or simply an ordinary man caught up in extraordinary times.
Near Stella, where prairie grass still bends in the wind, the story of the man at the still lingers.
Waiting for someone to remember.
A note from the writer, One of the descendants of the Sims family drove my rural route school bus. Years later, as a teenager working summers cleaning floors at the school, he would tell me stories about J. W. Sims. It has taken me many years to gather the pieces of those stories and compare them with the historical record. Some parts proved true. Others were undoubtedly embellished over time. Every bit of it, however, was fascinating. The man who shared those stories with me passed away several years ago. On a recent trip back to my hometown, I visited with his relatives and asked for their blessing to tell the tales their father, uncle, and family member had entrusted to me. What you've read and what follows in Parts Two and Three is not just history. It is memory, folklore, and the enduring power of stories passed from one generation to the next. Benjamin H. Groff II
The Town Character. Every community has one of their own…
Not a mayor. Not a banker. Not a preacher.
Someone else.
The person everybody knows.
In small towns, medium-sized towns, and even in the neighborhoods of big cities, there is always that one soul who stands apart. They dress differently. Their clothes may be worn thin from years of use. Their hair may appear to have lost an argument with a comb decades ago. Their conversations wander like a country road with too many turns.
Sometimes they are slow.
Sometimes they are eccentric.
Sometimes they simply march to music no one else can hear.
Yet everyone knows them.
And strangely enough, everyone trusts them.
More than once, I have seen these individuals carrying a ring of keys bigger than any businessman in town owned. Keys to the hardware store. Keys to the church basement. Keys to the barber shop. Keys to the old furnace room beneath the drug store.
While respectable citizens were asleep in warm beds, these town characters were already at work.
They swept sidewalks before dawn.
They shoveled snow.
They lit furnaces.
They hauled groceries.
They checked doors to make certain businesses were secure.
Nobody worried about them stealing.
Nobody worried about them lying.
Because they belonged to the town.
Jack Elam was a town character (or was it caricuture) in Support Your Local Sheriff.
And the town belonged to them.
Children might giggle when they walked by.
Teenagers sometimes rolled their eyes.
Visitors would whisper, “What’s his story?”
The locals would answer simply:
“Oh, that’s just Charlie.”
Or Oris.
Or Lester.
Or Lewis.
Or Mary.
Or J.T.
No last name needed.
Everybody knew.
They were woven into the fabric of the community as surely as the courthouse clock or the old water tower.
In a world now obsessed with wealth, influence, and appearance, I sometimes think we lost something when we stopped noticing these people.
Because they remind us that a person’s value isn’t measured by education, money, or polish.
Sometimes the most trusted person in town is the fellow whose shirt is untucked, whose shoes don’t match, and whose greatest wealth is that everybody knows his heart.
Town Characters have been found throughout history.
Every town has one.
And the lucky towns never forget them.
Keep your local figure close. They are woven into the fabric of your community. You may not realize it now, but they are preserving a piece of today that someday you will treasure as yesterday.
Keep your local figure close. They are woven into the fabric of your community. You may not realize it now, but they are preserving a piece of today that someday you will treasure as yesterday.
A reflective story inspired by a timeless patriotic verse.
Originally published November 29, 2025.
As we celebrate the Fourth of July, we wish all Americans a joyful and meaningful Independence Day. And to our friends around the world, we invite you to join us in celebrating the universal ideals of freedom, hope, and the enduring spirit of liberty.
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This Is My Country
There are words that live on paper, and then there are words that settle into the bones of a people. The kind that echo from porch steps and courthouse lawns, from quiet cemeteries and loud parade routes. The kind drift through open windows on warm summer evenings. A flag whispers its slow conversation with the breeze.
“This is my country! Land of my birth!”
The old man had recited it repeatedly. The lines felt stitched into his memory. They were like a family quilt. He first heard the poem as a schoolboy in a one-room classroom. The chalk dust drifted like snow. Old Glory hung slightly worn but always proud above the blackboard. They had stood, hands pressed to hearts, small chests swelling with pride they did not yet fully understand.
And now, decades later, he stood on the same red Oklahoma soil. This was the ground that had raised him. It shaped him and anchored generations before him. He thought of his father plowing under wide skies. He remembered his mother hanging laundry that snapped sharply in the prairie wind. This was the same wind that lifted the flag into slow, flawless motion.
“This is my country! Land of my birth!”The old man had recited it so many times. The lines felt stitched into his memory like a family quilt. He first heard the poem as a schoolboy in a one-room classroom. Chalk dust drifted like snow. Old Glory hung slightly worn but always proud above the blackboard. They had stood, hands pressed to hearts, small chests swelling with pride they did not yet fully understand.And now, decades later, he stood on the same red Oklahoma soil. This ground had raised him and shaped him. It had anchored generations before him. He thought of his father plowing under wide skies. He remembered his mother hanging laundry that snapped sharply in the prairie wind. It was the same wind that lifted the flag into slow, flawless motion.
“What difference if I hail from the North or the South, the East or the West?”
He had traveled. He had met farmers in Iowa. He had met dockworkers in Louisiana. He encountered miners in West Virginia. He also met shopkeepers in Arizona who spoke with accents as varied as the landscape. They all shared an unspoken recognition. There was a quiet understanding that this vast, imperfect, beautiful land belonged to them all. Not in ownership, but in guardianship. In gratitude.
He remembered the first time he truly understood the weight of those words. It wasn’t in a classroom. He was in uniform, standing still beneath a lowering sun. He watched the flag rise slowly as taps echoed across the horizon. In that moment, the poem ceased to be something learned and became something lived.
“With hand upon heart, I thank the Lord for this, my native land…”
He whispered the words now as the breeze carried the scent of freshly cut grass and distant rainfall. His soul, like the poem said, was rooted deeply in the soil on which he stood. Every memory, every loss, every joyful celebration had unfolded beneath the same sky, under the same banner.
This was not blind loyalty. This was love shaped by history — by wars survived, hardships endured, and freedoms fiercely guarded. It was a love that understood flaws. Yet it still swelled with gratitude for the promise, the struggle, and the hope that had always defined America.
As the flag unfurled above him, catching the light in crimson and gold, he spoke the final lines not as a performance, but as a vow, as millions had before him and millions would after:
“This is my country! Land of my choice! This is my country! Hear my proud voice! I pledge thee my allegiance, America, the bold — For this is my country, to have and to hold.”
In that quiet moment, the wind acted as a witness. Time stood briefly still. He knew something certain and unshakable.
This was his country. Not perfect. But deeply loved. Forever his.
On April 1, 2026, benandsteve.com published a completely fictional story claiming that Washington, D.C.’s famous cherry trees were being removed. The article was intentionally written as an April Fools’ Day story, and its closing paragraphs made that clear. It was satire—nothing more.
Or so we thought.
Only a few weeks later, we learned that cherry trees actually were being removed as part of a project to stabilize and rebuild the aging seawall surrounding the Tidal Basin. That unexpected twist prompted us to update the original blog, noting that reality had begun to resemble fiction. Seen here.
Now, on July 2, 2026, another unexpected development has surfaced. Reports indicate that plans for a major redesign of the historic East Potomac Golf Links—championed by President Donald Trump—could require the removal of Washington’s oldest grove of cherry trees to make way for a championship golf course. According to published reports, preliminary design plans appear to eliminate the century-old grove along with other public recreational features, although the proposal is already facing legal challenges and has not yet received all required approvals.
It makes one wonder if April Fools’ Day simply arrived three months early. What began as a joke has twice been followed by headlines that sounded remarkably similar. Sometimes the hardest stories to believe are the ones that eventually become real.
George Washington never cut down a cherry tree. The story says that when confronted, he told his father, “I cannot lie.”
Whether the tale is true or not, it has long symbolized the value Americans once hoped to see in their leaders: honesty.
The current occupant of the office appears to have little difficulty doing both—cutting down the proverbial cherry tree and denying it afterward—without so much as a whisper of objection from many of his political peers!
They Were The Favorite Thing To See When She Returned To Olney.
-Olney White Squirrels – An Illinois Favorite
My grandmother, Florence Lula McElroy Groff, loved visiting Olney, Illinois.
She always said there was one thing she looked forward to most:
“The white squirrels.”
She carried photographs of them and showed them to me when I was a boy. She was certain that one day my father would take me there during the annual summer exchange of family visits.
The tradition began long before I was born.
The Squirrels she had seen, were what she talked of most.
The Groffs had roots stretching from Switzerland to Illinois and eventually to Oklahoma. My great-grandfather, Benjamin Harrison Groff, was born in Illinois in 1892, the son of Ulrich L. Groff, who had emigrated from Wengen, Bern, Switzerland. Ulrich and his brother Michael helped establish the family’s roots in Illinois before later generations, including Benjamin and his brother Otis, sought opportunity on the rich farmland of Oklahoma.
By 1930, Benjamin and Florence owned their farm west of Eakly, Oklahoma, near Cobb Creek. The census records describe a family of modest means but great determination: a farm, three children, and a life built through hard work.
Yet the most valuable thing they built was not the farm.
It was the tradition.
Each summer, relatives would travel hundreds of miles to remain connected. Groffs married McElroys. Dowtys married Groffs. McLemores became family. Neighbors became family too.
I remember Delmar Groff, Laura, Darlene, Walker Groff, and his sister Cleo coming from Illinois. By the time I was old enough to appreciate the visits, my grandparents no longer made the trip north. But the Illinois folks still came.
Every year.
I didn’t realize it then, but I was witnessing something extraordinary.
A family choosing, year after year, not to drift apart.
Today, as I prepare to spend time with the Folks from Oklahoma, I think about my grandmother and those white squirrels of Olney.
I think about the roads traveled.
I think about the stories carried.
Some day, I still wish to go see the Squirrels!
And I realize that perhaps the greatest inheritance our families passed down was not land, photographs, or old census records.
It was the understanding that distance is no excuse to stop loving one another.
Some Roads Lead Home. Others Keep A Family Together.
For the next few days, I will be spending time on the road with “The Folks from Oklahoma.”
That phrase carries a special meaning in our family.
The Folks From Oklahoma – It’s A Family Tradition
Long before social media, before interstate highways, and before keeping up with relatives was as easy as a text message, my grandparents, Benjamin Harrison Groff and Florence Lula McElroy Groff, helped continue a family tradition that stretched back generations.
One summer the Oklahoma families would travel north to Olney, Illinois. The next, the Illinois families would make their way south to Oklahoma. The Groffs, McLemores, Dowtys, Littles, McElroys, and many others took part. The purpose was simple: family should remain family.
I grew up hearing stories of these visits and later experienced them myself. The Folks from Illinois arrived every summer. Their visits were anticipated all year long.
So for a few days, I will be away from the keyboard and on the road, carrying on a tradition older than I am.
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July is when the music has stopped, the flags are folded away, and we ask: Who carried us here?
That is where Gregory Marks comes in.
“I’ve always been out,” Gregory Marks once said. “I didn’t have a dramatic reveal or a tortured confession. I was simply a fat queer kid who knew exactly who he was.”
June has ended.
The parades have passed.
The rainbow flags that fluttered in storefront windows and along city streets are being folded and stored away until next year.
And that is exactly why I wanted to write about Gregory Marks.
Because some people do their greatest work when the crowds have gone home.
Gregory Marks spent decades singing with and alongside members of the LGBTQ community, helping people endure grief that many outside the community never witnessed. He was there when AIDS was stealing friends, lovers, brothers, and sons. He was there when funerals came too often and hope seemed in short supply. Music became his ministry. His voice became a refuge.
He was part of a generation that understood something profound:
Sometimes people cannot speak their grief.
But they can sing it.
The LGBTQ movement has always had its celebrated leaders. We know the names of activists who marched, politicians who legislated, and pioneers who challenged unjust laws.
But there are also people like Gregory Marks.
The caretakers.
The listeners.
The singers.
The ones who sat beside hospital beds.
The ones who attended memorials when families would not.
The ones who stood shoulder to shoulder with a hurting community and quietly said:
“You are not alone.”
The history of LGBTQ choirs and musical organizations is deeply intertwined with survival. Groups such as the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus became places where people could grieve together, celebrate together, and declare openly who they were in a world that often wished they would disappear. Music became protest. Music became healing. Music became hope.
That is Gregory Marks’ legacy.
Not merely the songs he sang.
But the people he helped carry through unbearable moments.
I think there is a lesson in that.
Pride Month is important.
The rainbow flag matters.
Celebration matters.
But perhaps what matters most is what happens on July 1st.
When the banners come down.
When the headlines move on.
When ordinary people continue doing extraordinary things for one another.
That is where love proves itself.
Not in the applause.
Not in the parade.
But in the quiet decision to stand beside another person and help them carry what feels too heavy to bear.
Why Pride Month, the rainbow flag, and the simple act of being seen still matter.
There are moments when people ask a sincere question:
Why is there a Pride Month? Why the rainbow flag? Why all of the celebration?
For many people, the answer is simple.
Because there are still nights when someone leaves a restaurant holding the hand of the person they love and wonders if they will make it home safely.
Recently in the small city of Caldwell, a gay couple, Juan Olvera and Eric Reed, say they were enjoying dinner at a local restaurant when they became the target of homophobic slurs from a group of men. The couple left, hoping to avoid confrontation. Instead, they say they were followed, chased through a parking lot and onto nearby railroad tracks, and assaulted. One man suffered a black eye, cuts, and bruises. The other required stitches after being struck in the face. Police arrested one suspect and filed a misdemeanor battery charge. Idaho law does not currently include sexual orientation among its hate crime protections.
The physical wounds will heal.
The fear takes longer.
Juan Olvera told reporters:
“I literally thought I was going to die.”
Think about that sentence.
Not in a war.
Not while committing a crime.
Not while threatening anyone.
But simply because he was gay.
And that is why Pride exists.
The rainbow flag is not a declaration of superiority.
It is not a political party.
It is not an attack on anyone else’s beliefs.
It is a signal.
It says:
I am here.
I have survived.
I should not have to hide.
I deserve to live openly and safely.
For some people, Pride is a parade.
For others, it is a quiet acknowledgment that they made it through years of fear, rejection, ridicule, or violence.
Many older LGBTQ Americans remember when they could lose jobs for being gay.
They remember being denied housing.
They remember police raids on bars.
They remember the terror of the AIDS epidemic.
And yes, they remember the beatings.
The rainbow became a symbol because symbols matter.
Flags matter.
They tell stories.
The American flag tells the story of a nation striving toward liberty.
The rainbow flag tells the story of people striving toward dignity.
Neither promises perfection.
Both represent hope.
This story from Idaho is not offered to inflame anger or divide people further.
It is offered as a reminder.
Behind every Pride flag is a person.
Behind every Pride Month celebration is someone who once wondered whether they would be accepted by their family, their church, their community—or even survive.
Most people, regardless of politics, agree on one thing:
No one should fear violence because of who they are.
No one should be beaten for holding the hand of the person they love.
No one should have to wonder whether tomorrow will bring acceptance or hatred.
That is not a gay issue.
That is a human issue.
And until stories like this become relics of the past rather than headlines of the present, there will continue to be Pride Month.
There will continue to be rainbow flags.
There will continue to be people saying:
We are here. We are your neighbors. We are your family. And we hope one day these reminders are no longer necessary.
If you lived in Oklahoma, Colorado, Kansas, and Arizona, or you have ever worked in law enforcement and journalism, and or spent countless hours on the road—there is a very human story you have told your family. It is centered around the time you have spent on America’s highways, roads and streets.
The Roads That Built America
This is not a story about concrete. It is a story about:
The families who moved west.
The truckers who kept shelves stocked.
The police officers who worked accidents at 3 a.m.
The soldiers who came home.
The diners, motels, and gas stations that became landmarks.
And the millions of ordinary Americans who chased jobs, love, and dreams on ribbons of pavement stretching to the horizon.
The Plan: A network of roads would be built unlike anything the world had ever seen—highways stretching from coast to coast, linking farms to cities, deserts to mountains, and ordinary people to extraordinary possibilities.
The Roads That Built America
On June 29, 1956, America made a promise to itself.
It wasn’t spoken from a church pulpit.
It wasn’t etched into a monument.
It was signed into law.
A network of roads would be built unlike anything the world had ever seen—highways stretching from coast to coast, linking farms to cities, deserts to mountains, and ordinary people to extraordinary possibilities.
Seventy years later, those roads are so common we barely notice them.
But think for a moment about what they have witnessed.
Young soldiers returning home.
Loyd “Bick” Bickerstaff a former Oklahoma Highway Patrolman and Elk City Police Captain. Arrested the worst of the worst, the famous and hometown folks “driving like hell” on Route 66. Living to tell his stories to Life Magazine in 1983. He said then, “I had the front seat to best show on earth!” Click on image for “Bick’s Story!”
Families piling into station wagons for summer vacations.
Truck drivers hauling everything from oranges to automobiles.
Teenagers leaving their hometowns for the first time.
Police officers racing toward emergencies.
And people like me.
I have traveled these roads in uniform and out of it.
I have driven them in sunshine and storms.
I’ve seen tragedy beside them and joy because of them.
The interstate is more than concrete.
It is memory.
It is movement.
It is America in motion.
Somewhere tonight, a grandfather is telling his grandchildren about the days before air conditioning in cars.
Somewhere, a truck driver is crossing the desert under a blanket of stars.
Somewhere, a young couple is heading west, hoping for a better life.
The roads connect all of us.
Ike’s Highways – Click for more information.
They have for seventy years.
And long after we’re gone, they’ll continue carrying the hopes of people we will never meet.
That may be the greatest achievement of all.
Not that America built the highways.
But that the highways helped build America.
There is time to put an old myth to rest.
There is an old story that has been passed from one generation to the next.
Many Americans grew up hearing that when the Interstate Highway System was built, portions of the roads had to be constructed in straight one- or two-mile stretches so military aircraft could land in an emergency. Others remember hearing it as “one mile out of every five.”
It is a fascinating story.
And like many stories, there is a grain of truth hidden inside.
From Coast to Coast and Border to Border. Click on image.
The Interstate system was officially named the National System of Interstate and Defense Highways for a reason. President Eisenhower had seen firsthand the importance of transportation during World War II. The military wanted a road network that could rapidly move troops, equipment, and supplies across the country.
But there was never a federal requirement that highways include straight stretches for aircraft landings.
Still, the idea refuses to disappear.
Perhaps because it speaks to something larger.
America built these roads not just for vacations and commerce, but for resilience. They were conceived during the Cold War, when the nation was thinking about defense, mobility, and what might happen in a national emergency.
And while fighter jets may never have been intended to touch down on every highway, millions of Americans have landed on these roads at important moments in their lives.
Soldiers coming home.
Families moving west.
Truckers delivering the necessities of everyday life.
Young people leaving their hometowns to begin something new.
Somewhere tonight, headlights are cutting through the darkness on a road built seventy years ago… carrying someone toward a story they’ll tell for the rest of their life.
The highways became runways of another kind.
Places where ordinary people took off into the future.
In the bustling halls of NASA’s Johnson Space Center, where scientific minds collaborated to unlock the mysteries of the universe, there was a man named Dr. Richard Campbell. An experienced geologist, Dr. Campbell spent decades studying lunar samples and meteorites. His colleagues revered him for his meticulous research and unyielding skepticism—a trait that earned him both admiration and exasperation.
It all began one unassuming Wednesday morning when a rumor started circulating among the younger scientists—whispers of “moon rocks that beep” echoed through the labs, sparking excitement and curiosity. The story was that during a routine analysis, a peculiar sound echoed from one of the lunar samples hauled back to earth the Apollo missions.
Dr. Campbell dismissed these rumors as sheer nonsense. “Rocks don’t beep,” he asserted firmly whenever the topic arose. His logical mind couldn’t entertain the idea of lunar rocks emitting any sound, let alone beeping. He considered it a prank or, at best, a misinterpretation of data.
However, the buzz around the beeping moon rocks grew too loud to ignore. A young researcher named Dr. Emily Hayes, fresh out of her post-doc, approached Dr. Campbell with a determined look in her eyes. She respected his skepticism but believed there was something worth investigating. “Dr. Campbell, I’d like you to see this for yourself,” she insisted, holding a tiny sample encased in a protective glass container. Reluctantly, he agreed to examine it in the lab.
Under the laboratory’s sterile white lights, they set up the sample on the analysis table. Dr. Hayes connected it to an array of sensors and amplifiers, the same setup that had reportedly detected the beeping. Dr. Campbell watched with skepticism and curiosity, arms crossed over his chest.
As the seconds ticked by in the sterile laboratory, a faint, almost imperceptible series of beeps reverberated through the speakers. Dr. Campbell’s eyes widened in disbelief. He leaned closer, adjusted his glasses, and listened again. There it was—a clear, rhythmic beeping sound emanating from the moon rock, a sound that defied his logical understanding of lunar geology.
“How is this possible?” he muttered, more to himself than to Dr. Hayes. His mind raced with potential explanations: electrical interference, experimental error, or even a practical joke. But, anticipating his doubts, Dr. Hayes showed him the logs of previous tests, all yielding the same results.
Driven by a newfound curiosity, Dr. Campbell embarked on a meticulous investigation of the phenomenon. He conducted a series of rigorous tests, eliminating every conceivable source of error. Days turned into weeks as he and Dr. Hayes worked tirelessly, scrutinizing every detail, leaving no stone unturned in their pursuit of scientific truth.
Their breakthrough came when they discovered a minute crystalline structure within the rock that had previously been overlooked. These crystals had piezoelectric properties, meaning they could create an electrical charge in response to mechanical stress. They theorized that the beeping was a result of tiny vibrations within the lunar environment that caused these crystals to emit electrical signals, which were then picked up as sound by their sensors.
Dr. Campbell’s initial skepticism gave way to a sense of awe and excitement. The discovery of the beeping moon rocks was not just a scientific breakthrough, but a leap toward our understanding of the moon’s geology and unique properties. He and Dr. Hayes co-authored a paper detailing their findings, a paper that was not just published, but widely celebrated in scientific journals worldwide.
The story of the beeping moon rocks became legendary at NASA, a testament to the importance of curiosity, skepticism, and collaboration in scientific discovery. Dr. Campbell, once the man who didn’t believe in beeping moon rocks, became their most passionate advocate, reminding everyone that the most extraordinary discoveries sometimes come from the most unlikely sources.
