☕ Morning Coffee: The Coffee Still Needs Making

*At Least On That We Can All Agree . How it is made? We will table for another day.”

By Benjamin Groff II GroffMedia© | benandsteve.com | ©2026
November 04, 2026


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Good morning, folks.

Everyone gather round and pull up a chair, pour yourself a cup, and let’s give the world a few minutes to settle down. Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away, Now they look like they are here to stay. Oh I believe in yesterday.

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It is over. Go home.

Suddenly! Folks, the voting is over. The counting and the talking may take a little longer. The talking, I suspect, could outlive several of us.

But this morning, the coffee still expected me to make it.

Otis still has his priorities. Breakfast remains a matter of considerable importance. And somewhere in this house is something I put away so carefully that neither Steve nor I will ever find it again.

There is something reassuring about an ordinary morning.

After weeks of being told everything we ought to fear, resent, or be furious about, I believe we could use one.

I found myself remembering an old eight-track tape my brother used to have. John Wayne was on it, talking over music in that unmistakable voice of his. You didn’t need to see him. You knew who was speaking.

As I remember the story, he comes upon an old man living out in the desert. The sun is beating down, the place looks worn, and life there appears to offer considerably more hardship than comfort.

He asks why the old man doesn’t sell the place and move somewhere easier.

The answer has stayed with me all these years.

Mis Raíces Están Aquí

The old man’s roots were buried there.

When I was younger, I might have thought a moving truck could solve that problem.

These days, I understand him a little better.

A person can look at a place and see dry ground, an old house, and a fence that needs fixing. The person living there might see where his children played. Where somebody he loved planted flowers. Where he worked for years to make a life.

You can put a price on the property. The rest is harder to figure.

I have lived in Arizona for many years now, but there are pieces of Oklahoma that have never loosened their hold on me. Family. Old roads. Horse sales with Dad that lasted long after I thought we ought to have gone home.

Some of those places have changed. Some of the people are gone. Still, I can visit them in my mind without stopping for gas.

Those are roots, too.

And I think about what roots do beneath ground that looks bare. They hold on. With some care, a little rain, and time, they can send up something green again.

Of course, anybody who has worked the land knows you generally have to do more than stand there wishing for a crop.

There is watering to do. Weeds to pull. Something always needs tending.

The same is true around home.

We can call somebody we have been meaning to check on. Ask how they are doing and stay on the telephone long enough to hear the answer. Put something good in the oven. Start deciding who needs a place at the Thanksgiving table.

There are folks facing real worries this morning. I wouldn’t pretend a cup of coffee will settle them. But I can offer a chair and listen for a while.

Soon enough, we will be arguing about how early is too early to put up Christmas lights. Somebody will discover the turkey is still frozen. Steve may have to explain why a perfectly good Christmas decoration needs replacing.

I expect to have questions. But who doesn’t. Have a great day. And don’t worry. If we are lucky, we may have another election someday. Or, maybe we won’t.

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Morning Coffee ––– By the Time They Got to Me

This Whole Thing Is Psychological

By Benjamin Groff II GroffMedia© | benandsteve.com | ©2026
October 28, 2026


Hello, coffee drinkers.

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As I began this morning’s edition, a notice came in warning about young people and cigarette smoking. It got me thinking about the strange appeal of anything somebody tells you not to do.

Every generation tests the boundaries. Put up a fence, and somebody wants to see what’s on the other side. Put up a sign saying “Keep Out,” and now you’ve given them somewhere to go Saturday night.

Sometimes I wonder whether we’ve been approaching things backward. Tell young people not to eat anything healthy, and perhaps they’ll sneak off somewhere with a salad. Tell them they’re forbidden to come home before midnight, and they might be sitting on the couch by ten.

I wouldn’t build a parenting manual around that theory. But I have seen worse ideas put into practice.

I had five older siblings. All of them had curfews. Usually, they broke them. And usually, there were consequences severe enough that you would have thought the next one might learn something.

Apparently, each preferred to conduct an independent investigation.

By the time I reached the age when my siblings had begun campaigning for their freedom, my parents didn’t set a curfew for me.

The people most upset about this were my adult siblings.

They didn’t think it was fair.

I explained that I wasn’t out doing the things they had been doing.

That did very little to improve their attitude toward my freedom.

To this day, I don’t know why my parents were more relaxed with me. Maybe they trusted me. Maybe they were tired. Maybe, after raising the first five, they looked at the sixth and thought, “What’s the use?”

I preferred the trust explanation. My siblings probably had other theories.

There was another little difference between my childhood and theirs. I had been an uncle since I was five years old. My parents were already grandparents while they still had a young child of their own to raise.

That family arithmetic entertained me considerably.

As I got older, I enjoyed reminding them that, depending on how quickly the next generations got started, they could conceivably become great-great-grandparents before I turned twenty-five.

I thought that was a remarkable possibility, deserving of thoughtful discussion.

Their response was considerably shorter.

“Shut up!”

So, I suppose they did set limits on me.

Just not the ones my siblings wanted.

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Morning Coffee: Five Minutes Ago

By Benjamin Groff II GroffMedia© | benandsteve.com | ©2026

September 26, 2026

Some people need a cup of coffee to wake up. Others need a Loch Ness Monster.

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Changing perspectives…

I heard a joke about a man who set out across Loch Ness to prove there was no monster. He was an atheist, too, and quite sure he knew what he would find: a lake, some water, and a good story somebody had made up.

Then his boat reached the middle of the lake. The sky darkened. The shoreline disappeared. And out of the water rose a creature towering over his boat.

“God, help me!” the man cried.

A voice came down from above. “That’s interesting. Five minutes ago, you didn’t believe in me.”

The man looked up and shouted, “Five minutes ago, I didn’t believe in the Loch Ness Monster, either!”

I have to give him that one. If a monster rose beside my boat, I would reconsider several things at once. I might even develop a sudden appreciation for life jackets, fast motors, and staying home.

Changing your mind when the facts change makes sense. But I have watched people change their views without a monster, a fact, or even a decent explanation in sight. An idea is terrible at breakfast, then brilliant by lunch because someone they admire said it out loud. The evidence hasn’t changed. The company has.

I suppose we have all done a little of that. Before the first cup of coffee, I can be certain I don’t need a second. Five minutes later, the pot starts looking mighty persuasive.

So today, if someone’s opinion changes in an instant, I may ask myself what appeared: new evidence, a new audience, or a creature rising out of the lake?

If it’s the creature, I’m changing my mind, too. And I’m taking my coffee to go.

By Benjamin Groff II GroffMedia© | benandsteve.com | ©2026


Morning Coffee — The Things We Carry Forward

We carry pieces of the people who have traveled through our lives — their lessons, laughter, kindness, and even their little habits. This morning’s coffee is about remembering what others left with us and considering what we might leave behind for someone else.

By Benjamin Groff II GroffMedia© | benandsteve.com | ©2026

September 1, 2026


There is something comforting about the first cup of coffee in the morning.

Before the telephone rings, before the television begins telling us what happened overnight, and before the world starts asking something from us, there are those few quiet moments when we can simply sit and think.

I have come to believe those moments are more valuable than we realize.

We spend much of our lives collecting things. Not necessarily possessions, but memories, lessons, sayings, habits, friendships, disappointments, victories, and even a few regrets.

Some of them we carry without realizing it.

A phrase our father used to say.

Something our mother taught us without ever sitting us down and calling it a lesson.

The way an old friend laughed.

A song that suddenly takes us back forty years.

The smell of coffee brewing in a kitchen that no longer exists.

Life has an interesting way of packing our suitcase for us.

By the time we reach a certain age, we discover that we are carrying pieces of nearly everyone who has traveled beside us.

And perhaps that is one of life’s greatest gifts.

People do not entirely leave us when they are gone.

They remain in the things they taught us, the stories we tell about them, the kindness they showed us, and sometimes even in those little irritating habits we swore we would never adopt — until one morning we catch ourselves doing exactly the same thing.

That is when you have to smile.

Because somehow, without noticing, yesterday has quietly found its way into today.

So as you enjoy your coffee this morning, think about the people who helped pack your suitcase.

Remember the ones who taught you something worthwhile.

And when the opportunity comes today, leave something good behind for someone else to carry.

A kind word.

A little patience.

A helping hand.

A good story.

Because years from now, when someone else is sitting quietly over their morning coffee, you just might be one of the memories that makes them smile.

And that wouldn’t be such a bad thing to leave behind.

Have a great day from benandsteve.com — and may there always be enough coffee for one more story.



By Benjamin Groff II GroffMedia© | benandsteve.com | ©2026

THE ORDINARY THINGS Chapter Two: The Old Pickup

By Benjamin Groff II GroffMedia© | benandsteve.com | ©2026

July 24, 2026

The Old Pickup Never Complained

There was never a question about whether the old pickup would go.

If someone needed hay hauled before sunrise…

The Old Truck Day (was always there…)

it was there.

If a neighbor’s car refused to start…
it was there.

If the family bought lumber for a new porch…
it was there.

If someone was moving across town with little more than hope and a few boxes…
it was there.

The old pickup didn’t ask where it was going.

It simply turned its engine over and followed the road ahead.

It never cared if the trip was five miles or five hundred.

It didn’t mind muddy fields, gravel roads, snow-covered driveways, or long summer afternoons with the windows rolled down. Every dent in its fender and every scratch along its bed came from helping someone carry a little more than they could carry alone.

It watched children grow from riding in the passenger seat to climbing behind the steering wheel themselves. It carried fishing poles to quiet ponds, Christmas trees home on chilly December evenings, dogs with muddy paws, sacks of feed, bags of groceries, and once in a while, a family that simply wanted to drive until the sun disappeared behind the horizon.

Nobody ever stopped to thank the old pickup.

It didn’t expect them to.

It understood something that many people seem to forget.

The greatest purpose in life isn’t found in being admired.

It’s found in being useful.

Today, there are shinier trucks with larger screens, heated seats, cameras that can see in every direction, and enough buttons to make a pilot pause.

The old pickup isn’t jealous.

It simply smiles to itself.

Because it knows that when life became difficult—when the road turned muddy, when someone needed help, when a job had to be finished before dark—people rarely asked for the fanciest truck.

They looked for the dependable one.

Maybe people aren’t so different.

Character isn’t measured by how impressive we appear when life is easy.

It’s measured by whether others know they can count on us when the road gets rough.

The old pickup never complained.

It simply showed up.

Perhaps that’s why, even after all these years, people still smile whenever they see one parked beside an old barn or rumbling slowly down a country road.

Some things become unforgettable, not because they were extraordinary…

…but because they were always there when they were needed.


By Benjamin Groff II GroffMedia© | benandsteve.com | ©2026

 

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Ooops, it was me…  

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Well… someone (and yes, it was me! 😊) hit the Publish button a little earlier than planned.

For just a few moments today, subscribers to The Story Teller at benandsteve.com received an unexpected early look at the next chapter in The Old Pickup series before I could tuck it back away.

If you happened to catch it, congratulations—you were part of an accidental preview!

If you missed it, don’t worry. The story will return as scheduled in the days ahead.

It’s also a good reminder that subscribers are soon the ones who are often the first to see what’s happening on the site—even when I occasionally get a little ahead of myself.

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Welcome to all the New Subscribers

By Benjamin GroffMedia© | benandsteve.com | ©2026

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Welcome—truly welcome—to all my new subscribers.

You have chosen to follow my work. I’ve found my way to yours. Or we’ve somehow crossed paths through shared stories and curiosity. Regardless, I’m grateful you’re here. benandsteve.com is a place built on memory and reflection. We believe every life has value. Every voice deserves to be heard.

Here you’ll find personal stories, history, observations, tributes, and occasional wanderings into humor or wonder. Some pieces are quiet. Some are reflective. Some surprise you. All are written with intention and respect for the human experience we share.

Thank you for taking the time to read, follow, and engage. I hope something here resonates with you. It can steady you. Or if it reminds you that you’re not alone in this wide, complicated world. You’re always welcome back—and I’m glad you found your way here.

A Warm Welcome to New Subscribers

If you’re new here—welcome. Several reasons you are here. (1.) You have subscribed by choice. (2.) You discovered this site through a shared story. (3.) We have found one another through mutual curiosity. Regardless, I’m genuinely glad you’re here.

benandsteve.com is a place for storytelling in many forms. These include personal reflections, family and local history, and tributes. It also encompasses observations and the occasional moment of humor or wonder. Some posts are quiet and reflective. Others lean into memory, loss, resilience, or simple human connection. All are written with care and intention.

Thank you for reading, subscribing, and spending your time here. I hope something you find steadies you, sparks a memory, or reminds you that stories—especially ordinary ones—still matter. You’re always welcome back.

~ Benjamin ~


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An Update to My Loyal Supporters, Readers, Friends, Family, and Followers…

By Benjamin GroffMedia© | benandsteve.com | 2025 Truth Endures©

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Benjamin “I’m Cutting Outta
Here For Surgery!”

From Benjamin – Thursday, July 24 – 7:30 AM


This post is going live as I am entering surgery. The surgery is for an Anterior Lumbar Interbody Fusion. I want to thank all of you for your support, prayers, and encouragement. Your kindness truly means the world to me.

During my recovery, you’ll still see new posts here on the blog. I’ve prepared content in advance. You can continue to enjoy the same quality stories and information. This is what you’ve come to expect from the benandsteve.com blog.

Thanks again for being part of this journey. I look forward to rejoining you soon. Another update will post later today to keep you informed.

I Will Be Back…Or So They Tell Me – A Note Before Surgery

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A Note From Benjamin Before Surgery

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By the time this post appears, I’ll be less than twenty-four hours from checking into the hospital. I have a scheduled lower back surgery. This operation was first approved in 2020. It was postponed due to the overwhelming strain COVID-19 placed on hospitals at the time.

Now, five years later, the time has come. The need for the surgery has grown unavoidable. It has reached a point where it significantly impacts not just my own quality of life. It also affects those around me—including our ever-faithful dog, Otis. After careful planning and the support of some very good people, the time feels right.

To keep the blog active, I’ve written and scheduled daily posts in advance. These will post – daily over the coming weeks as planned. Once I’m fully back to writing day-to-day pieces again, I’ll let everyone know. That said, if something urgent comes up, I will post an update. If it is of national interest and inspires me, I will do so before then. This is, of course, recovery allowing.

In the meantime, I’m grateful for the many kind gestures, well-wishes, and thoughtful messages already sent. That encouragement has made all the difference. I’m especially mindful of my partner, Steven. He will be holding down the fort. This will be happening while I’m in the care of a trusted medical team. He’ll be shuttling between the hospital and home, making sure Otis gets fresh air, snacks, and his favorite TV channel. We’ve jokingly planned it like a household awaiting a newborn—minus the diapers, thank goodness.

Dr. Christopher Yeung

The procedure itself will be performed by Dr. Christopher Yeung, a well-regarded spine surgeon whose experience includes working with multiple professional sports teams. After an in-depth consultation, I felt confident in both his knowledge and his approach. The surgery, known as an Anterior Lumbar Interbody Fusion, involves accessing the lower spine through the abdomen. An access surgeon helps to safely move internal structures aside. It’s a careful, technical procedure. The recovery is long. It begins with just a few steps on day one and builds slowly through physical therapy. This process continues in the weeks and months ahead.

So for now, I’m focused on the first step: getting checked in and moving ahead. I’m hoping for deep sedation, steady hands, and a smooth path to healing.

Thanks again for walking alongside me, even if just in spirit. I’ll be back in touch when the fog begins to lift.

Listening Key To Understanding Transgender-Cisgender Issues Today

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It’s essential to approach discussions about transgender issues with understanding and openness rather than defensiveness. Each person’s experience and understanding of gender identity is unique, and our language should reflect that diversity.

Acknowledging the differences between transgender and cisgender individuals doesn’t diminish anyone’s identity; it respects the nuances of each experience. Language is a tool for communication, and its meaning can evolve over time. It’s crucial to listen carefully and ask questions to ensure we understand each other’s perspectives accurately.

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The rigid social structures of the past are giving way to more fluid and inclusive understandings of gender and identity, especially among younger generations. Embracing this change and learning from it can help us create a more inclusive society for everyone.

As older generations, we have a responsibility to engage in these conversations and advocate for understanding and acceptance. Our experiences can offer valuable insights, but we must also be willing to learn from the perspectives of younger generations.

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We must stand together against discrimination and fight for the rights and dignity of all individuals, regardless of their gender identity or sexual orientation. By educating ourselves and others, voting for inclusive policies, and speaking out against hate, we can work towards a more just and equitable society for all.