I thought I would bring you up to date on how I’m doing socially and professionally. Despite doing absolutely nothing, I continue to climb the ladder of success.
For years, I had cousins in Oklahoma and Arkansas, with a few sprinkled across Texas. I was the adventurous one who made it to Colorado, Wyoming, and Arizona. But now a cousin of mine has moved from Kansas City to Chicago. Technically, he’s my cousin’s son, but he’s only ten years younger than I am, so we’ve never bothered with the fine print.
He lives about twenty floors up. That is a level of upward mobility I could never achieve without an elevator. When I pass through Chicago, I plan to announce that I’m stopping by the penthouse. Whether he actually lives in a penthouse is a detail I’ll leave out.
Did I mention he’s a doctor? Around the café, that earns me another badge of distinction, even though I didn’t attend a single one of his classes.
I’m having fun with it, of course. My cousin’s accomplishments belong to him. But people borrow the shine from someone else’s success all the time. Sometimes it’s harmless bragging over coffee. Sometimes that borrowed shine is used to convince us to trust someone or accept a deal we haven’t looked at closely.
That brings me to a habit I learned as a law enforcement officer, one that has helped me many times since: question what you’re told.
If a story sounds convincing, ask what supports it. If someone claims an impressive connection, find out what that connection actually means. If an offer sounds too good to pass up, take the time to read the terms. You don’t have to be suspicious of everyone. You can simply give yourself room to check the facts before you decide.
Sometimes the evidence confirms the story. Other times, it shows you something quite different.
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to finish my coffee and call my cousin. I have to find out whether I can honestly keep saying “penthouse.”
In the bustling halls of NASA’s Johnson Space Center, where scientific minds collaborated to unlock the mysteries of the universe, there was a man named Dr. Richard Campbell. An experienced geologist, Dr. Campbell spent decades studying lunar samples and meteorites. His colleagues revered him for his meticulous research and unyielding skepticism—a trait that earned him both admiration and exasperation.
It all began one unassuming Wednesday morning when a rumor started circulating among the younger scientists—whispers of “moon rocks that beep” echoed through the labs, sparking excitement and curiosity. The story was that during a routine analysis, a peculiar sound echoed from one of the lunar samples hauled back to earth the Apollo missions.
Dr. Campbell dismissed these rumors as sheer nonsense. “Rocks don’t beep,” he asserted firmly whenever the topic arose. His logical mind couldn’t entertain the idea of lunar rocks emitting any sound, let alone beeping. He considered it a prank or, at best, a misinterpretation of data.
However, the buzz around the beeping moon rocks grew too loud to ignore. A young researcher named Dr. Emily Hayes, fresh out of her post-doc, approached Dr. Campbell with a determined look in her eyes. She respected his skepticism but believed there was something worth investigating. “Dr. Campbell, I’d like you to see this for yourself,” she insisted, holding a tiny sample encased in a protective glass container. Reluctantly, he agreed to examine it in the lab.
Under the laboratory’s sterile white lights, they set up the sample on the analysis table. Dr. Hayes connected it to an array of sensors and amplifiers, the same setup that had reportedly detected the beeping. Dr. Campbell watched with skepticism and curiosity, arms crossed over his chest.
As the seconds ticked by in the sterile laboratory, a faint, almost imperceptible series of beeps reverberated through the speakers. Dr. Campbell’s eyes widened in disbelief. He leaned closer, adjusted his glasses, and listened again. There it was—a clear, rhythmic beeping sound emanating from the moon rock, a sound that defied his logical understanding of lunar geology.
“How is this possible?” he muttered, more to himself than to Dr. Hayes. His mind raced with potential explanations: electrical interference, experimental error, or even a practical joke. But, anticipating his doubts, Dr. Hayes showed him the logs of previous tests, all yielding the same results.
Driven by a newfound curiosity, Dr. Campbell embarked on a meticulous investigation of the phenomenon. He conducted a series of rigorous tests, eliminating every conceivable source of error. Days turned into weeks as he and Dr. Hayes worked tirelessly, scrutinizing every detail, leaving no stone unturned in their pursuit of scientific truth.
Their breakthrough came when they discovered a minute crystalline structure within the rock that had previously been overlooked. These crystals had piezoelectric properties, meaning they could create an electrical charge in response to mechanical stress. They theorized that the beeping was a result of tiny vibrations within the lunar environment that caused these crystals to emit electrical signals, which were then picked up as sound by their sensors.
Dr. Campbell’s initial skepticism gave way to a sense of awe and excitement. The discovery of the beeping moon rocks was not just a scientific breakthrough, but a leap toward our understanding of the moon’s geology and unique properties. He and Dr. Hayes co-authored a paper detailing their findings, a paper that was not just published, but widely celebrated in scientific journals worldwide.
The story of the beeping moon rocks became legendary at NASA, a testament to the importance of curiosity, skepticism, and collaboration in scientific discovery. Dr. Campbell, once the man who didn’t believe in beeping moon rocks, became their most passionate advocate, reminding everyone that the most extraordinary discoveries sometimes come from the most unlikely sources.
Ned: A shy and timid typesetter at the Daily Weeds newspaper, who resembles Brad Pitt on a bad day. Ned is modest and unaware of his value and attractiveness.
The Cute Bartender (Alex): A charismatic and charming bartender at Lucky C who falls for Ned over their shared love of Shirley Temples.
The Daily Weeds Higher-Ups: The newspaper’s executives who take credit for Ned’s brilliant headlines.
Rival Newspaper Competitors: A scheming group aiming to kidnap and kill Ned to stop the Daily Weeds’ success.
The Gay Mafia: A secretive, protective group willing to go to great lengths to defend Ned, although he is unaware of their existence.
Plot:
Ned lived a quiet life, hidden in the shadows of the Daily Weeds’ newsroom. His days were spent crafting perfect headlines, a talent that brought his employer acclaim and success. Despite his crucial role, Ned remained unnoticed, timidly working at his typesetting desk. His self-esteem was low; he never considered himself attractive, even though he had a rugged charm that could be likened to Brad Pitt on an off day.
Ned’s life took an unexpected turn one evening when he narrowly escaped being hit by a runaway city bus. Disoriented and seeking solace, he stumbled into a bar he had never noticed—Lucky C. With its welcoming atmosphere and vibrant clientele, the bar was a stark contrast to Ned’s usually solitary existence.
At the bar, he ordered the only alcoholic drink he knew—a Shirley Temple. Alex, the cute bartender, was immediately charmed. Alex loved making Shirley Temples, a drink rarely requested by patrons. Their shared moment over this simple drink sparked a connection, and for the first time, Ned felt seen and appreciated.
As Ned began to frequent Lucky C, he started coming out of his shell. The lively environment and supportive community at the bar brought out a side of him he never knew existed. His newfound confidence began to reflect in his work, leading to even more captivating headlines that left the Daily Weeds’ competitors scrambling.
Unbeknownst to Ned, the rival newspaper had been closely monitoring the Daily Weeds’ success. Frustrated by their inability to keep up, they devised a sinister plan to kidnap and eliminate the source of their competition’s success—Ned.
They would wait until he left the Daily Weeds back office and throw a hood over his head. Then, two thugs would throw Ned into a waiting van and speed him to the outside of town near a seedy pond where he would be shot, still wearing the hood and a weight tied around his neck, and thrown into a boat. One of the thugs would take a boat and shove it away from the shore, and when it got near the center of the pond, the thugs would fill it with bullet holes and make it sink, with Ned inside, weighed down. Never to be found.
However, the rival newspaper and their hired mobsters were unaware of a secret force. The Gay Mafia, a clandestine group operating within the city, had liked Ned. They admired his quiet brilliance and were determined to protect him at all costs. They had been listening through their glitter correspondences. The glitter correspondences were a network of highly sensitive individuals who could pick up on people’s intuitions from across the room. They had been picking up vibes from the thugs at a local coffee shop for over a week. It is what caused the Gay Mafia to concentrate their attention on Ned. There was so much vibing there was almost concern they would have to call in a team from Philly to assist with the operation. With well-laid plans and assistance from the Gay Men’s Choir, a plan got hatched to pull off operation “SAVE NED” at 1700 Hours sharp! The driver, who made up the only civilian of the Gay Mafia, yelled to the rest of the non-mafia members that it was 5 PM, you guys. The rest of the Gay Mafia had belonged to the same Troop in the Middle East when serving the Country and understood military time.
The rival newspaper’s plot set off a chain of events culminating in a dramatic confrontation. As the thugs moved in on Ned, the Gay Mafia sprang into action. A chaotic collision of forces ensued—a battle that turned the usually quiet city streets into a more vibrant and exhilarating scene than any Pride Parade.
There were unusually high pitches of the singing of Hallelujah coming from the alleyway of the Daily Weeds Office area and then sudden flumes of smoke and glitter, followed by the pomp and circumstance of a Gay Mens Chorus of Lilly of The Valley. The evil thugs were tied up and left in a neat pile for the local police to find—all courtesy of the Gay Mafia.
Amid the chaos, Ned remained blissfully unaware of the true extent of his importance or the danger he was in. All he knew was that for the first time in his life, people were surrounding him who valued him, both for his talent and who he was. The experience saved his life and transformed it, making Ned realize his worth and the power of community. As he left the Daily Weed, he shut and locked the door and walked to the Lucky C, where he sat on a bar stool and asked Alex for a Shirley Temple.
Today ––– The Daily Weeds continued to thrive, thanks to Ned’s unmatched headlines. And Ned, no longer the unsung hero, became a celebrated figure in both the newsroom and the vibrant world of Lucky C. His story was a testament to life’s unexpected turns and the hidden strength within us all, yet to be discovered.
Returning home from basic training, John returned to a place he no longer knew. It was the same one he had left before going ‘to basic,’ but he was different. Between leaving and coming back, John had changed. Or had he accepted something about himself? He didn’t know.
From his perspective, his life was one in which he would have to live in double time: in his time for himself and when he was with his family in a perspective that fit their permissions. He had dated a girl before he left but had broken up with her before he returned. By letter. A ‘Dear Jane’ type of letter, letting her know she could date other guys and that he didn’t expect her to wait for him.
John wrote he would be in no condition as a datable companion if and when he returned. He included a few other words about how training had changed him, getting him ready for the fight, hoping it would get the message across and cause her to continue her life. He had been ranked and assigned to maintenance crews stateside for two years, which was the reality of his assignment.
When John arrived back in his hometown, he stepped off the bus, duffel bag slung over his shoulder, and the familiar streets of his hometown unfolded before him. It was a hot summer afternoon, and the cicadas droned loudly, filling the heavy air with their constant hum. It should have felt like home, but it didn’t. Everything seemed smaller, almost claustrophobic. The neat houses, the familiar storefronts, even the people who waved at him with a mix of pride and curiosity—none of it felt right.
He adjusted the strap on his shoulder and started walking, the soles of his boots crunching on the gravel. Memories of his time in basic training flooded his mind. The relentless drills, the camaraderie with his fellow soldiers, and the quiet introspection late at night had been a time of transformation, of pushing his limits and discovering parts of himself he had never confronted.
One of those parts was realizing he couldn’t keep living a lie. He’d broken up with Emily in a letter, the words blunt and final. He’d told her that basic training had changed him, but he hadn’t told her how. He hadn’t told her the real reason was that he couldn’t keep pretending to be someone he wasn’t. He’d signed the letter with a shaky hand, hoping she’d understand and move on.
Standing on his childhood street, John felt the weight of his double life pressing down on him. He had come to terms with his identity, but he knew that acceptance came with a price. His family had certain expectations and beliefs, and he didn’t fit into their neat, tidy picture. The contrast between his inner truth and their external expectations was stark, and it weighed heavily on him.
As he approached his house, he saw his mother standing on the porch, her face lighting up as she saw him. She hurried down the steps, arms outstretched, and he found himself enveloped in her warm embrace.
“Oh, it’s so good to have you home!”
– she exclaimed, looking back at him.
“You’ve grown, and you look so strong!”
He forced a smile, nodding.
“It’s good to be home, Mom.”
Inside, the house smelled freshly baked bread and flowers from the garden. His father was in his usual chair, reading the newspaper. When he saw his son, he stood and nodded in approval.
“Welcome back, son,”
The dad said gruffly.
“You did us proud.”
“Thanks, Dad,”
John replied, ignoring the tight knot in his stomach.
The next few days went by in a blur of family gatherings and catching up with old friends. Everyone wanted to hear about his experiences, basic training, and future in the maintenance crew. John told them what they wanted to hear, leaving out the parts that didn’t fit into their narrative.
One evening, he found himself alone in his room, which felt more like a museum of his past than a place of comfort. He sat on the edge of the bed, looking at the photos on the wall and the trophies on the shelf. It all felt so distant, so disconnected from who he had become.
He pulled out his phone and stared at Emily’s number. He had rehearsed what he wanted to say a hundred times, but now that the moment was here, he felt paralyzed.
Finally, he typed out a message:
“Hey Emily, I’m back in town. Would you like to meet up sometime? There’s something I need to talk to you about.”
He hit send before he could second-guess himself, and the response came quickly.
“Sure, I’d like that. When and where?”
They agreed to meet at the local coffee shop they used to go to in high school. As John walked there, he felt a mixture of dread and relief. He knew this conversation was necessary, but he also feared the consequences.
Emily was already there when he arrived, sitting at a corner table. She looked up and smiled when she saw him, but there was a hint of uncertainty in her eyes.
“Hi,” she said as he sat down. “It’s good to see you.” “You too,” he replied, taking a deep breath. “Emily, I need to tell you something, and it’s not easy for me.”
She looked at him, her expression softening.
“Whatever it is, you can tell me.”
He looked down at his hands, then back up at her.
“I broke up with you because I couldn’t keep lying. And I couldn’t keep lying to you. I’m gay, Emily. That’s why I ended things. I didn’t want to hurt you, but I couldn’t keep pretending.”
There was a long silence, and he felt his heart pounding. Finally, Emily reached across the table and took his hand.
“Thank you for telling me,” she said quietly. “I wish you had told me sooner, but I understand. I’m glad you’re being true to yourself.”
As they parted ways, John felt a sense of relief wash over him. The weight of his secret had been lifted, and he felt lighter, as if their visit had released a burden from his shoulders. He was grateful for Emily’s understanding and acceptance, and he felt a renewed sense of freedom and authenticity.
Returning home, John knew there were still challenges ahead—his family, community, and the double life he would have to navigate. But he also knew that he had taken the first step towards living authentically. For the first time in a long time, he felt a glimmer of hope.
In the small town of Elderton, nestled between rolling hills and dense forests, there lived a man named Mr. Gorb. Mr. Gorb was a meticulous man, a perfectionist in every sense. His business dealings were unique, for Mr. Gorb was the town’s undertaker. However, unlike others in his profession, Mr. Gorb went above and beyond to ensure each client received a personal touch.
Although Mr. Gorb’s clients were all deceased, that didn’t mean they deserved any less care. He believed that everyone deserved a final sendoff that reflected who they were. This philosophy became known as the “Gorb Touch,” a term that resonated deeply within the community.
When someone in Elderton passed away, Mr. Gorb would embark on a journey to recreate their likeness as closely as possible to how they appeared when they last walked down Main Street. He would search the town for the most recent photographs of the deceased, often speaking with family members and friends to gather any images they had. He delved into the history of his clients, learning about their favorite outfits, their unique hairstyles, and any other defining features that made them who they were.
Mr. Gorb’s dedication was unparalleled. He would spend hours carefully applying makeup, arranging hair, and selecting the perfect attire for each individual. His attention to detail was astounding, and the results were always breathtaking. The people of Elderton loved Mr. Gorb for his personal touch and the comfort it brought them during their loss.
One crisp autumn morning, the townspeople awoke to shocking news. Mr. Gorb had passed away in his sleep. The entire town was at a loss. Who would now carry on the tradition of the Gorb Touch? Who would prepare Mr. Gorb himself for his final farewell?
Unbeknownst to the townspeople, Mr. Gorb had been quietly training an apprentice. A young man named Thomas had come to Elderton a few years prior, seeking guidance and a place to belong. Mr. Gorb had seen potential in Thomas and had taken him under his wing, teaching him everything he knew about the delicate art of caring for the deceased.
Thomas had learned well. He had absorbed every lesson, technique, and philosophy Mr. Gorb shared with him. And now, as the town mourned the loss of their beloved undertaker, Thomas stepped forward to fulfill his mentor’s legacy.
With a heavy heart, Thomas prepared Mr. Gorb for his final journey. He meticulously followed the same process Mr. Gorb taught, ensuring that every detail was perfect. The townspeople watched in awe and gratitude as Thomas recreated Mr. Gorb’s likeness with the same dedication and care that had become synonymous with the Gorb Touch.
The funeral was a beautiful tribute to Mr. Gorb’s life and work. As the townspeople gathered to say their final goodbyes, they saw the continuation of a tradition that had brought them so much comfort and peace in Thomas. They knew that Mr. Gorb’s legacy would live on through his apprentice and that the personal touch that had defined their community would never be lost.
~ THE GORB TOUCH WILL LIVE ON ~
Thomas continued to serve the people of Elderton with the same compassion and attention to detail that Mr. Gorb had instilled in him. As the years passed, the Gorb Touch remained a cherished tradition, a testament to the enduring impact of one man’s dedication to his craft and community.
Fred Harper was a man of simple routines. The mild-mannered police officer of Cedar Hollow, a quaint town of 700 nestled between rolling hills and dense forests, had a nightly patrol route that rarely changed. He preferred it that way. Cedar Hollow was a peaceful place where not much happened, and Fred liked it that way.
His nightly rounds consisted of checking the locked doors of businesses, shining his flashlight into the occasional darkened alley, and waving at the few night owls who might be walking their dogs or taking a late-night stroll.
But on this particular night, the tranquility of Cedar Hollow was shattered by a series of unexpected events, disrupting Fred’s usual routine. It all began with a frantic call from Mary Jenkins, the usually composed wife of the mayor. Her voice was filled with urgency as she relayed the news about Helen’s labor.
Fred’s heart raced. He’d never delivered a baby before. He rushed to his squad car and sped to Helen’s house. When he arrived, he found Helen in the living room, breathing heavily, with Mary by her side. The tension in the room was palpable, and Fred could feel the weight of the situation on his shoulders.
Upon Fred’s arrival, Mary’s relief was palpable. “Fred, thank God you’re here,” she exclaimed, her face a picture of relief. “You need to help her. Now.”
Fred took a deep breath, remembering the emergency childbirth training he’d received years ago. With Mary’s assistance, he coached Helen through the contractions. After what felt like an eternity, but was in reality only a few intense minutes, the cries of a newborn filled the room. Fred cradled the baby in his arms, his uniform shirt now soaked with sweat.
Just as he handed the baby to a tearfully grateful Helen, his radio crackled to life. “Fred, we need you at the fire station. There’s a fire behind the building, and no one can start the engine.”
Leaving Helen and the baby in Mary’s capable hands, Fred raced to the fire station. Flames were licking the sky, dangerously close to City Hall. Fred jumped into the fire engine, praying his training would return to him. He managed to start the engine and drove it to the blaze. With no other firefighters in sight, he took hold of the hose and aimed it at the inferno. Neighbors, awakened by the commotion, formed a bucket brigade to help douse the flames. Together, they managed to keep the fire from spreading and saved City Hall.
As the last embers got extinguished, Fred’s radio buzzed again. “Officer Harper, there’s a break-in at the bank. Thieves are trying to rob the place.”
Exhausted but determined, Fred headed to the bank. He found a group of masked men attempting to pry open the vault. Drawing his service weapon, he shouted, “Freeze! Cedar Hollow Police!” The thieves, startled by his sudden appearance, attempted to flee. Fred, with unwavering courage, managed to subdue two, but the others escaped into the night. He secured the captured thieves and called for backup from neighboring towns.
The thieves, startled by his sudden appearance, attempted to flee. Fred managed to subdue two, but the others escaped into the night. He secured the captured thieves and called for backup from neighboring towns. Just as he thought the night couldn’t get any worse, the call came in: “Fred, there’s been a four-car accident at the intersection. Significant injuries reported, and the town’s ambulance is thirty miles away.”
Fred’s mind raced as he arrived at the scene of the collision. Cars were crumpled, and injured people strewn across the road. He did what he could, providing first aid and comforting the victims while calling for an ambulance from a neighboring town. The ambulance, however, got lost on the way, and Fred’s patience became stretched to its limit.
As the first rays of sunlight lit up the sky, Fred finally saw the flashing lights of the neighboring town’s ambulance. He directed them to the injured, ensuring everyone received their needed care. The lady and her newborn, the fire at the station, the bank heist, and now the accident had been the most eventful night in Cedar Hollow’s history.
When the town woke up to a new day, Fred was utterly exhausted. His uniform was torn and dirty, and his body ached from the night’s exertions, but he was filled with a sense of accomplishment. He had faced every challenge alone and come through for his community.
As the townsfolk learned of the night’s events, they became filled with deep admiration and gratitude for Fred. They hailed him as a hero, their voices echoing through the streets of Cedar Hollow. But Fred, the humble officer, just smiled and said, “I was just doing my job.” His modesty only added to the townsfolk’s reverence for him, strengthening the bond of respect and unity within Cedar Hollow.
And Fred Harper, the humble police officer of Cedar Hollow, became a legend. In a town where life was usually quiet and uneventful, the night of chaos and heroism is a stark contrast, etching Fred’s name into the town’s history and leaving a profound mark on Cedar Hollow’s narrative.
A man named Ethan lived in the quaint village of Willowbrook, nestled among rolling hills and serene landscapes. Ethan was unlike any other in the town; he was born with a third leg. Though some initially viewed him with curiosity and even pity, he became an integral part of the community, his unusual limb symbolizing resilience and strength.
The village cherished its traditions, and none was more beloved than the annual Christmas service held in the old stone church at the heart of Willowbrook. On Christmas Eve, every villager would gather for a night of songs, stories, and the sharing of a festive feast. However, one fateful Christmas Eve, the peaceful village was disrupted by a band of ruthless hoodlums. Known for their brutal raids, they had been terrorizing nearby towns, leaving a trail of destruction in their wake. The villagers of Willowbrook had heard whispers of their approach but hoped their remoteness would spare them.
As the service commenced, distant hoofbeats grew louder, echoing ominously through the church. Panic spread among the villagers as the doors burst open, revealing the menacing figures of the hoodlums. They forced everyone into the central aisle, threatening violence and demanding valuables.
Ethan, seated near the back, watched the chaos unfold. His heart pounded, not out of fear for himself but for his friends and family. He knew he had to act. As the hoodlums corralled the villagers, Ethan stumbled and fell in the narrow central aisle, his third leg jutting out awkwardly.
Shouts of anger and confusion erupted from the hoodlums as they tripped over Ethan’s leg, one after another. Understanding Ethan’s silent signal, the villagers began to leap over his third leg with practiced ease. The invaders, unfamiliar with the anomaly, continued to fall, rendering themselves unconscious as they hit the stone floor.
Ethan’s bravery gave the villagers the precious moments they needed. The stronger men and women quickly disarmed the stunned hoodlums, binding them with whatever they could find. The church that had been a place of sanctuary became a fortress of courage and quick thinking. In the aftermath, the village celebrated Ethan as a hero. His act of selflessness and his unique third leg had saved them all. Yet, Ethan, who had always been modest and kind-hearted, succumbed to injuries sustained in the struggle. He passed away that night, surrounded by those he had saved.
Ethan’s story became a legend, and when the townspeople spoke his name, it was done so with reverence and gratitude. A statue was erected in the village square, depicting him with his three legs, a testament to his bravery and the night he saved Willowbrook. Every Christmas Eve, the villagers would gather at the church, now with a plaque dedicated to Ethan, and recount the tale of the man whose unique gift had become their salvation. The legend of Ethan, the three-legged savior of Willowbrook, lives on, symbolizing how even the most unexpected traits can be the greatest of blessings.
At 94, Mabel Johnson had seen her share of life’s trials and tribulations. From the Great Depression to the advent of the internet, she had weathered it all with resilience and grace. But now, in 2024, Mabel faced a new and unprecedented challenge. She knew what to do as she stood in her late husband’s workshop, surrounded by his carefully curated collection of firearms.
Her son, David, lived 1100 miles away with his husband, Alex. They had built a life together filled with love and laughter. But the political climate was changing, and the radical policies of the so-called 2025 Plan, championed by a rising wave of extremists, threatened everything they held dear. The hate-mongers on the Right had made their intentions clear: to eradicate the freedoms and rights of the LGBTQ+ community.
Mabel’s husband, George, had been an avid collector of firearms. His collection was extensive, ranging from vintage rifles to state-of-the-art automatic weapons. Though Mabel had never been a fan of guns, she understood their power and the protection they could offer. Looking over the arsenal, she felt George’s presence and strength guiding her.
Determined to protect her son and his husband, Mabel loaded the weapons into the back of her old station wagon. It was a journey she had to make alone. Mabel left a note for her neighbors, letting them know she was visiting family and might be gone for a while. With a deep breath, she set off on the long drive.
The miles rolled by as Mabel drove through vast countryside, bustling cities, and quiet towns. Memories of David’s childhood filled her thoughts, from his first steps to his high school graduation. She remembered the day he came out to her and George, the fear in his eyes, and the relief when they embraced him with unconditional love. They had always supported him, and now, more than ever, he needed their strength. The road was long and lonely, but Mabel’s determination and love for her son kept her going.
As she crossed state lines, Mabel listened to the news on the radio. Reports of violent clashes and hate-filled rallies filled the airwaves. The world seemed unraveling, and she feared for David’s safety. But she pressed on, determined to reach him in time.
After three days of relentless driving, Mabel finally arrived at David and Alex’s home. The two men rushed out to greet her, their faces etched with worry and relief. David enveloped his mother tightly, tears streaming down his face. The relief was palpable, and Mabel knew she had made the right decision.
“Mama, what are you doing here?” he asked, his voice choked with emotion. “I came to protect you,” Mabel replied, her voice steady despite her exhaustion. “I brought your father’s collection. You’ll need it.”
David and Alex helped her unload the weapons, their faces a mix of shock and gratitude. They knew the gravity of the situation and the lengths Mabel had gone to ensure their safety. Mabel shared her plan as the three sat around the kitchen table that night. They would train, learn to defend themselves and stand united against the impending threats. It wasn’t just about the weapons but also about resilience, love, and the unbreakable family bond.
Mabel became a fixture in David and Alex’s home in the following weeks. She taught them everything George had taught her about firearms, and they spent countless hours preparing for whatever might come their way. Inspired by Mabel’s bravery, the community began to rally together, forming a network of support and defense. Neighbors who had never spoken before now stood side by side, united in their determination to protect their loved ones and their rights.
David and Alex knew they were not alone as the political climate grew more hostile. With Mabel, they faced the future with unwavering determination and hope. The journey had been long and arduous, but it was a testament to the power of love and the lengths a mother would go to protect her son.
They stood firm in the face of hate, ready to defend their rights and home. And Mabel, at 94, proved that courage and love knew no age limits.
They stood firm in the face of hate, ready to defend their rights and home. Mabel, at 94, proved that courage and love knew no age limits. The couple then gathered other LGBTQI+ couples and members of the community and built teams like possies in the tens of thousands in cities and counties around the country, saving the land and freedom from extremists.
In the summer of 2024, two city mice, Max and Lily, took a break from their bustling urban lives. Yearning for fresh air and tranquility, they planned a weekend getaway to the serene countryside. They packed a delightful picnic basket filled with cheese, bread, and a selection of berries and set off for the rolling hills and meadows.be
After a few hours of travel, they found the perfect spot—a grassy knoll overlooking a gentle river winding through the valley. The beauty of the countryside was breathtaking, with the sun casting a golden glow above the rolling hills. They laid out their blankets, unpacked their baskets, and enjoyed their feast under the warm sun, surrounded by the serene beauty of nature.
As the day went on, dark clouds began to gather on the horizon. Max, ever the cautious one, suggested they pack up and head back to the cottage they had rented. But Lily, captivated by the beauty of the countryside, convinced him to stay a bit longer. “It’s just a little rain, Max. We’ll be fine,” she said with a reassuring smile.
However, the little rain quickly turned into a torrential downpour. The river, once calm and serene, began to swell and rage. Realizing the severity of the situation, Max and Lily quickly gathered their belongings and started returning to the cottage. But the water rose faster than they could move, soon turning the meadow into a swirling expanse of water. The danger was palpable, and their hearts raced with fear as they struggled to reach safety.
They spotted an old, hollow oak tree on a small hill with nowhere to go and the floodwaters rising around them. “There!” shouted Max. “We can take shelter in that tree!” They waded through the water, which was now waist-deep, and climbed into the hollow trunk just as the floodwaters swept over their picnic spot.
Max and Lily huddled inside the tree, shivering from the cold and damp. The hours dragged on, and the rain showed no sign of letting up. They could hear the river’s roar and the crashing of debris being swept along by the flood.
Just as they were beginning to lose hope, the rain finally stopped. The relief was palpable, and they felt a surge of hope as the floodwaters started to recede, leaving a landscape transformed by the storm. Cautiously, Max and Lily emerged from their shelter. The meadow was a muddy mess, and their picnic spot was nowhere to be seen. But they were safe.
Determined to make the best of their situation, Max and Lily set to work. They used their city smarts to fashion a makeshift raft from fallen branches and debris, which they used to navigate the still-swollen river. Eventually, they reached the cottage, which had miraculously remained untouched by the flood.
Tired but relieved, Max and Lily dried off and warmed themselves by the fire. They reflected on their adventure and the dangers they had faced. “Maybe next time, we’ll check the weather forecast before our picnic,” Max joked, eliciting Lily’s tired but genuine laugh.
Their countryside picnic had turned into an unexpected adventure, strengthening their bond and reminding them of the importance of being prepared. As they settled in for the night, they were grateful for their safety and each other, ready to face whatever future adventures might bring.
Two cowboys, Jake and Jud, rode their horses through the treacherous Valley of Vultures in the heart of the Wild West. The landscape, a rugged expanse of rocky canyons and arid plains, seemed to stretch into eternity.
The setting sun cast a crimson glow across the jagged cliffs, and the ominous sight of circling vultures overhead sent a shiver down their spines, a stark reminder of the peril that surrounded them.
Jake, a rugged man with a scruffy beard and a faded hat, glanced at his companion, Jud. Jud was slightly younger, with a boyish charm that belied the tough exterior he’d built from years on the range. They had been riding together for months, a pair of wanderers bound by a bond that was stronger than steel, forged in the fires of shared hardships. They were running from a past that wouldn’t let them be and searching for a future that seemed just out of reach.
“We’re gonna make it through, right?”
Jud’s voice broke the silence, his eyes fixed on the narrow path ahead.
Jake took a deep breath, his eyes scanning the cliffs that loomed on either side.
“Ain’t got much choice, Jud. We get through this canyon, or we don’t. But we ain’t the kind to give up. We gotta keep moving.”
His words were a testament to their resilience, a beacon of hope in the face of adversity.
The canyon walls seemed to close around them, casting long shadows dancing in the dying light. The sound of their horses’ hooves echoed off the rock, a steady rhythm that was reassuring and haunting. The vultures above were a constant reminder of the danger that lurked in this desolate place.
As they rode, memories of their journey played in Jake’s mind. They had met in a dusty saloon, both down on their luck and looking for a fresh start. It hadn’t taken long for them to realize they were kindred spirits, both longing for something more than the harsh realities of life on the frontier. Their bond, forever carved in the crucible of their shared struggles, had grown stronger with each passing day. Their friendship remained a source of comfort and strength, a light in the darkness.
“Remember that time we outran those rustlers in Texas?” –––
Jake said with a grin, trying to lighten the mood.
Jud laughed, the sound echoing through the canyon.
Jake said with a grin, trying to lighten the mood. Jud laughed, the sound echoing through the canyon.
“Yeah, I thought we’d end up six feet under. But here we are.”
The path grew narrower, forcing them to ride a single file. The vultures seemed to sense their vulnerability, swooping lower and filling the air with mournful cries. Jud’s horse stumbled on a loose rock, and panic flashed in his eyes for a moment.
“Easy, boy,” Jud whispered, patting the horse’s neck. “We’re almost through.”
~~~
Jake slowed his horse, turning to offer a reassuring smile. “Stay close, Jud. We’re in this together.”
The canyon seemed endless, but they pressed on, driven by the hope of a better life beyond its rocky walls. They spoke of dreams and plans, of a place where they could build homes and live without fear. The conversation was a lifeline, a beacon of hope pulling them through the darkness.
Hours passed, and the canyon widened when it seemed they could ride no further. Disappointed by the lack of a feast, the vultures flew off into the night. A cool breeze blew through the opening, carrying with it the promise of freedom.
Jake and Jud emerged from the canyon, the vast plains stretching before them. The stars twinkled overhead, a celestial map guiding them to their new beginning. They stopped their horses, taking a moment to catch their breath and take the sight.
“We made it,” Jud said, his voice filled with awe and relief.
Jake reached out, taking Jud’s hand in his. “Yeah, we did. Together.”
At that moment, under the vast expanse of the night sky, they knew they could face whatever challenges lay ahead. They had each other, and that was enough. They rode on, two cowboys chasing a rainbow on the range, their love a beacon in the darkness.
In the year 2542, humanity had reached an age of enlightenment, where technology and knowledge had advanced to levels previously unimaginable.
Amidst the bustling metropolis of Neo-Tokyo, two men stood apart from the crowd, their expressions grave and determined. They were Dr. Elias Hartman, a renowned historian, and Kael Renwick, a brilliant physicist.
Their mission was as crucial as it was unprecedented: they had to travel back to the early 21st century to avert a catastrophe, a global war rooted in a millennia-old misunderstanding of religious texts that threatened to wipe out the progress of the enlightened age. Elias and Kael had spent years researching the origins of religious texts, particularly the Bible.
Their findings were both groundbreaking and alarming. The Bible, revered by billions, was not a divine prophecy but a collection of embellished reports from historians of long ago.
These historians, lacking a comprehensive understanding and accurate recording methods, had chronicled events that occurred tens of thousands of years prior. Over time, their writings got misinterpreted and deified, leading humanity astray.
The duo stepped into the time portal, their hearts heavy with the weight of their mission. They emerged in the year 2024, a time when religious fervor was still potent, and the world was on the brink of environmental and societal collapse. The air was thick with pollution, and the political climate was rife with tension and division.
Their first destination was a conference on religious studies in New York City. With his scholarly demeanor, Elias took the stage amidst curious and skeptical academics.
“Ladies and gentlemen,” he began, his voice steady and authoritative, “I come from a future where we have uncovered the true origins of the Bible. It is not a prophecy or a divine mandate but a series of embellished reports from ancient historians who chronicled events inaccurately. These events occurred thousands of years ago and have no bearing on our future.”
The audience was stunned into silence, then erupted into a cacophony of disbelief and anger. Kael stepped forward, his presence commanding and reassuring.
“We understand this is difficult to accept,” Kael said, “but we have irrefutable evidence. The misinterpretations of these texts have led humanity down a dangerous path. If we do not correct our course, we will self-destruct.”
They presented their evidence: ancient manuscripts, carbon-dated artifacts, and advanced simulations showing the actual timeline of historical events. These artifacts and simulations, based on the latest scientific methods and technologies of the 26th century, provided a clear and irrefutable picture of the true origins of the Bible, shifting the room’s atmosphere from hostility to curiosity.
As their journey continued, Elias and Kael faced fierce opposition from religious leaders and institutions that saw their revelations as threatening. They were branded heretics and faced numerous attempts to discredit their work, including public denouncements, smear campaigns, and even physical threats. However, they also found allies in unexpected places—scientists, open-minded theologians, and everyday people who saw the truth in their words.
In a small town in the Midwest, they met Sarah, a young pastor who had long questioned the traditional interpretations of the Bible. She invited them to speak to her congregation, a modest group yearning for answers in an uncertain world.
Elias spoke passionately,
“The Bible’s true value lies in its moral and ethical teachings, not in its historical accuracy. We must embrace its wisdom while understanding that it is not a roadmap for our future.”
Kael added,
“Science and spirituality can coexist. We must use our knowledge to heal our planet and unite as a species, not divide ourselves based on ancient misunderstandings.”
Slowly but surely, their message began to spread. More people started questioning long-held beliefs, seeking knowledge and understanding over blind faith.
Grassroots movements for environmental preservation, social justice, and scientific advancement gained momentum.
Their journey was arduous, filled with moments of despair and hope. But Elias and Kael knew that the future depended on their success. As they stood on the steps of the United Nations, addressing the world for the first time, they felt a sense of destiny.
“Our future was not recorded or written in ancient texts,”
Elias declared.
“It is shaped by our actions today. Let us forge a path of understanding, compassion, and progress.”
Kael concluded,
“We have the power to change our destiny. Let us choose wisely and ensure a future where humanity thrives in sinc with our planet and one another.”
The world watched, listened, and began to change. The seeds of enlightenment they planted grew into a global movement, steering humanity away from the brink of disaster and towards a brighter, more united future. Elias and Kael fulfilled their mission, not by erasing the past but by illuminating the truth and guiding humanity toward a new dawn.
Joe and Nora had always kept their lives private, guarded by the fear of misunderstanding and judgment. Living in a small town, they worked together at ALBERTS, a large store that sold everything from pillows to housewares. With his kind eyes and soft-spoken nature, Joe worked in the bedding section while Nora managed dinnerware with her quick wit and warm smile. They weren’t a couple, just very supportive friends who shared a bond few could understand.
One evening, they attended a support group meeting for intersexuals, people who are born with physical sex characteristics that don’t fit typical binary notions of male or female bodies. This condition could include a variety of chromosomal, gonadal, or anatomical differences. The support group was a sanctuary for Joe and Nora where they could be themselves without fear.
The meeting is held each week in a modest community center. Joe and Nora entered the room, greeted by a circle of welcoming faces. Some were new, nervously looking around, while others were familiar, offering warm smiles and nods. They took their seats, feeling a sense of relief wash over them.
“Hi, everyone,”
began the group leader, Alex, a tall person with a gentle demeanor.
“Welcome to our new members and our returning friends. Let’s start by sharing how our week has been.” Joe and Nora listened as each spoke, their stories weaving a tapestry of shared experiences and struggles. When it was Joe’s turn, he hesitated but found his voice.
“This week has been tough,” he said. “At work, I’ve been having trouble with a coworker who keeps commenting on my appearance. It’s not the first time, but it’s getting harder to ignore.”
Nora squeezed his hand supportively.
“I’ve been there too,” she added. “Just yesterday, a customer asked me why I don’t dress more ‘feminine.’ They don’t realize how hurtful their words can be.”
The group members nodded in understanding, offering words of encouragement and advice. The meeting continued, filled with vulnerability, laughter, and shared strength. By the end, Joe and Nora felt recharged, ready to face the world again.
However, events at work would soon test the renewed strength. The following day at ALBERTS, a series of events forced them to confront their secrets. It began when a memo was posted on the employee bulletin board, announcing mandatory medical checks for all staff. The store management wanted to ensure everyone was fit for their roles, a policy that made Joe and Nora uneasy.
Later that day, during a busy shift, Nora overheard two coworkers whispering about her. “Do you think she’s hiding something?” one of them said. “I heard she never talks about her personal life,” the other replied.
Joe faced similar suspicions while helping a customer who made a thinly veiled comment about how
“transparency is important for team cohesion.” That evening, as they closed the store, Joe turned to Nora.
“I think it’s time,” he said quietly. “We can’t keep hiding who we are.”
Nora nodded. “I agree. But how do we even begin to explain?”
They decided to call a meeting with their team, knowing it was a risk but feeling necessary. The next day, they stood together in the break room, facing their curious and concerned coworkers. Joe took a deep breath.
“We wanted to talk to you all because there’s been a lot of speculation and assumptions about us.”
Nora continued,
“We are intersexual. This means we were born having physical sex features that don’t fit the usual binary notions of either male or female bodies. It’s a part of who we are but doesn’t define our abilities or worth.”
The room was silent, the weight of their words sinking in. Some faces showed confusion, others empathy. Their manager, who had been skeptical, stepped forward.
“I appreciate your honesty,” he said. “Thank you for trusting us with your story.”
Slowly, their coworkers began to ask questions, not out of suspicion but a genuine desire to understand. Joe and Nora answered patiently, feeling the tension ease with each word. By the end of the meeting, they felt a sense of relief and acceptance.
From that day forward, life at ALBERTS changed. There were still challenges, but Joe and Nora no longer felt like they were hiding. They had found a supportive community at work, just as they had in their support group. Together, they continued their journey, knowing they were not alone.
During Pride Weekends, it’s essential to stay safe while celebrating, especially with record-high temperatures. Here are some recommendations to protect yourself from heat stroke or heat exhaustion during outdoor events:
Stay Hydrated: Drink plenty of water throughout the day. Avoid alcohol and caffeine as they can contribute to dehydration.
Seek Shade: Take breaks in shaded areas to cool down and give your body a rest from the direct sun.
Wear Appropriate Clothing: Opt for light-colored, loose-fitting clothing that allows your skin to breathe and helps regulate your body temperature.
Use Sunscreen: Apply a broad-spectrum sunscreen with at least SPF 30 and reapply every two hours, or more often if you’re sweating.
Plan Ahead: Check the weather forecast and plan your activities during cooler parts of the day, such as early morning or late afternoon.
Know the Signs of Heat-Related Illnesses: Be aware of symptoms like dizziness, nausea, headache, and muscle cramps, and seek medical attention if necessary.
By following these tips, you can enjoy the festivities safely and make the most of Pride Weekends without compromising your health.
Sweating a lot in hot weather can make you lose essential salts and minerals from your body.
You need salts and minerals in your body to function properly. However, you must not take salt tablets unless directed by your doctor. The best way to replace them is by eating foods that contain them. Instead of just water, try drinking fruit juice or sports drinks while you exercise or work in the heat.
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Limit your outdoor activity to when it’s coolest, like morning and evening hours
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In the small, picturesque town of Elmwood, where traditions ran deep, and change was a slow, meandering stream, Lynn and Trisha found each other amidst the rustling leaves of adolescence. The year was 1974, when the world was still catching up to the notions of freedom and acceptance we now hold dear.
Lynn, with her red hair and curious green eyes, was the daughter of the town’s librarian. She spent her days buried in books, finding solace in stories that took her far beyond the confines of Elmwood. On the other hand, Trisha was the spirited daughter of a local fisherman in Seaside, a neighboring town. Beaming with golden hair and bright blue eyesthat mirrored the ocean, she was a breath of fresh, salty air. The scent of fish and saltwater, the sound of seagulls, and the feel of sand between her toes were all part of Trisha’s essence.
They met on a summer day during the annual Elmwood-Seaside fair. Lynn was helping her mother at a book stall when Trisha walked by, her laughter catching Lynn’s attention. ‘What’s so funny?’ Lynn asked, her curiosity piqued. Trisha turned, her eyes sparkling with mischief. ‘Oh, just a silly joke I heard,’ she replied. Their eyes met, and in that fleeting moment, an unspoken connection was forged.
‘Do you want to explore the fair together?’
Lynn found herself asking. Trisha nodded, and they spent the rest of the fair together, sharing secrets and dreams and eventually a tender kiss behind the carousel.
Their love blossomed in secret, as the world around them would never understand the depth of their feelings. They met in hidden glades, exchanged letters, and carved their initials into the old oak tree by the riverbank. But the shadow of societal expectations loomed large. Their clandestine meetings became increasingly fraught with danger and tension as the years passed. They were constantly on edge, fearing discovery and the consequences it would bring. Yet, they persevered, their love growing stronger with each obstacle they overcame.
One fateful night, an acquaintance saw them kissing, and their secret was discovered. The backlash was swift and unforgiving, a harsh reminder of the societal norms they had dared to challenge. Trisha’s parents, staunch traditionalists, sent her away to live with relatives in Flursville, far from the reach of Lynn’s love. Lynn’s parents, heartbroken and confused, forbade her from contacting Trisha. The two girls, now young women, were torn apart, their hearts left aching with the sudden void of each other’s absence.
Part II: A Lifetime Apart
As the years turned into decades, Lynn, unable to shake off the memory of her first love, immersed herself in her studies and eventually became a successful author. She wrote under a pseudonym, and her stories were often tinged with the bittersweet essence of lost love and yearning. She remained in Elmwood, surrounded by the familiar but always haunted by Trisha’s absence. Her heart, though scarred, still held a flicker of hope, a belief that one day, they would be together again.
Trisha, in Flursville, married out of societal pressure but found no real happiness. Her husband, though kind, could never fill the void Lynn had left. She had two children, poured her love into them, and eventually opened a small bookstore, a tribute to the memories of those sunlit afternoons spent with Lynn. Her thoughts often wandered back to Elmwood, the oak tree by the riverbank, and the girl with brown hair and green eyes. She often found herself wondering what life would have been like if they had been allowed to be together, her heart aching with the unanswered question. Despite her best efforts, she couldn’t escape the feeling that something was missing from her life, a void that could only be filled by Lynn.
Part III: Reunited Hearts
It was the summer of 2004 when fate intervened. Lynn’s father passed away, and she returned to Elmwood to settle his affairs. She was now a middle-aged woman, her hair streaked with grey, her eyes still holding the spark of youth. One day, sorting through her father’s belongings, she found a box of old letters, including the ones she had written to Trisha but never sent.
On a whim, she decided to visit Seaside. Walking along the familiar paths, she felt the weight of memories. She stopped by the beach, where the waves kissed the shore, and there, amidst the crowd, she saw her. Trisha, older but still radiant, was there with her grandchildren. Their eyes met once more, and time seemed to stand still. The world around them faded into the background, leaving only the two of them, their love, and the years they had spent apart. In that moment, all the pain and heartache of their separation was washed away, replaced by a sense of peace and belonging.
Lynn approached, her heart pounding. “Trisha?”
Trisha turned, her blue eyes widening in recognition.
“Lynn?” She whispered,
tears welling up.
They embraced, years of longing and love pouring out in that single moment. They talked for hours, sharing their lives, their losses, and their lingering love. The world had changed, and the acceptance they had longed for was now within reach. The weight of their past struggles seemed to lift, replaced by a renewed sense of hope and joy. They were finally together, and nothing else mattered.
Part IV: A Love Rekindled
With renewed courage and societal acceptance, Lynn and Trisha decided to live the life they had always dreamed of. Lynn moved to Flursville, where Trisha’s children welcomed her with open arms. They bought a little house by the sea, filled it with books and memories, and planted an oak tree in their garden, symbolizing their enduring love. The world had changed, and the acceptance they had longed for was now within reach. Society had evolved, becoming more inclusive and understanding, allowing them to finally be together without fear or judgment.
Once hidden in the shadows, their love story blossomed in the open, a testament to the power of love and the strength of the human spirit. They spent their days writing, exploring, and cherishing every moment together. They were no longer bound by societal constraints, free to love and live as they pleased. Their love, once a secret, was now a beacon of hope for others, a shining example of the enduring power of love.
Lynn and Trisha’s story became an inspiration and a beacon of hope for many. In a world that had once tried to keep them apart, they finally found their forever, together.
Bud and Jake, two inseparable friends since childhood, shared a bond that was as strong as the fields and stables of their small hometown. As the sun came up on a crisp Saturday morning, they loaded their old pickup truck with supplies and hitched up the horse trailer, ready for the adventure ahead. Inside the trailer, their beloved horses, Star and Blaze, stood patiently, saddled, and prepared for the parade in Cleo Springs.
The air was charged with anticipation as Bud and Jake embarked on their journey, the Pride Flag they’d carefully packed fluttering in the wind. This year, they were resolute in their decision to ride in the parade and demonstrate their unwavering support for equality and love in all its forms. The flag, a beacon of their indomitable spirit, symbolized their commitment to standing up for what they believed in, no matter the odds.
As they drove along the winding country roads, their conversation was light and full of laughter. They reminisced about past adventures and planned the day ahead. However, their joy was short-lived. Out of nowhere, a car screeched to a halt in front of them, forcing Bud to slam on the brakes. Before they could react, two men with hardened faces and a menacing air approached the truck, guns drawn.
“Out of the truck, now!”
One of the thugs barked, his voice rough and commanding. Bud and Jake exchanged a glance, understanding the gravity of the situation. They complied, stepping out slowly with their hands raised.
“We don’t want any trouble,” Jake said calmly, trying to diffuse the tension.
The second thug, his eyes cold and calculating, shoved Bud roughly against the truck.
“We need a ride, and this truck and trailer will do just fine, the first thug snarled.
“Get in the back, and don’t try anything funny.”
With their hands tied behind their backs, Bud and Jake were forced into the truck’s bed, their hearts pounding with fear and uncertainty. The thugs climbed into the cab, and the old pickup roared back to life, veering off the main road and onto a remote, deserted path.
As the miles stretched on, Bud and Jake’s minds raced, searching for a way out of their predicament. They knew they couldn’t let these criminals escape, especially not with their horses. Bud caught sight of the Pride Flag, still within reach in the truck bed. An idea began to form.
“Jake,”
Bud whispered, his voice barely audible over the engine’s rumble.
“When I give the signal, we need to act fast. Trust me.”
Jake nodded, his eyes filled with determination. As the truck slowed to navigate a particularly rough patch of road, Bud made his move. With a swift motion, he grabbed the flag and lunged at the nearest thug. Jake followed suit, using his body to knock the second thug off balance. The struggle was fierce but fleeting. Bud and Jake, fueled by adrenaline and their unbreakable bond, managed to overpower the thugs and secure them tightly with the Pride Flag. Panting and bruised, they confined the criminals in the back of the truck, a testament to their courage and resilience.
Bud climbed into the driver’s seat, and Jake took a moment to check on the horses, who, though agitated, were unharmed. With renewed purpose, they headed back toward the main road, the thugs’ angry curses silenced by the engine’s roar.
As they neared Cleo Springs, the sight of the parade brought a wave of relief and triumph. They pulled up to the sheriff’s station, where sheriff’s deputies quickly took the thugs into custody. Hearing of their harrowing ordeal, the townspeople greeted Bud and Jake with cheers and admiration.
With the crisis behind them, Bud and Jake joined the parade, and their Pride Flag symbolized their resilience and courage. Riding side by side on Star and Blaze, they waved to the crowd, their hearts full of pride not just for who they were but for what they had overcome together. The parade continued to celebrate love, unity, and the indomitable spirit of friendship.
The rain had ended, and the sun was breaking through the clouds; the weather forecast called for sunny and warm conditions for the next week. Ron had left work and drove to his twin brother’s home. He had received a text which read –––
IT IS TIME
Ron knew what the message meant, but he needed to be sure if he was ready. Pulling into the park, Ron’s mother called and told him to get Joe and come for dinner. As he was talking, he entered Joe’s apartment. Joe just rolled his eyes when listening to the conversation. After disconnecting, Joe said –––
It may be a good idea to go there for dinner. It is a sign that tonight is the night!
Joe and Ron, their hearts heavy with a shared secret, sat across from each other in Joe’s cozy apartment. The sunlight, too bright for the weight of their conversation, filtered through the curtains. They had been preparing for this moment for months, yet the courage to face it had remained elusive
. “It’s time,” – Joe said softly, his voice steady but his eyes betraying his nerves. “We need to tell them, Ron.”
Ron nodded affirmative, his fingers tapping anxiously on the edge of the coffee table.
Saying to Joe –––
“I know. I just, I’m scared, Joe.”
Joe reached across the table, squeezing his brother’s hand –––
“Me too. But we have each other. We can do this.”
Their parents, Sarah and David, had always been loving but traditional. The twins had grown up in a home filled with warmth and support, but the fear of rejection had kept them silent. The idea of disappointing their parents had haunted them for years.
When they arrived at their childhood home later that evening, the familiar smell of their mother’s cooking greeted them at the door. Sarah was in the kitchen, humming to herself as she prepared dinner, while David was already at the table, engrossed in his newspaper.
“Hey, Mom, Dad,”
Joe called out, his voice wavering slightly ––– “We need to talk to you about something.”
Sarah turned, wiping her hands on a dish towel. ––– “Of course, boys. What’s on your mind?“
Joe and Ron exchanged glances, silently encouraging each other to plunge. They sat down at the table, and Joe took a deep breath and began –––
“Mom, Dad, we have something important to tell you. We’re both gay.”
There was a brief silence, during which Ron’s heart pounded loudly. But then, to their surprise, their mother’s face softened with a gentle smile, her eyes filled with understanding and love.
“You know, Joe, I thought you were, hon,” Sarah said, calm and understanding. “But I was never sure about Ron.”
Ron blinked in surprise, feeling relief and confusion. –––
“You… you knew?” Sarah nodded. –––
“A mother knows her children, Ron. I could tell something was bothering you, but I didn’t want to push you before you were ready.”
David, who had been quietly munching on a piece of chicken, looked up with a grin.
“Yeah, it’s not exactly a shocker, boys. Pass the potatoes, will you?”
The twins exchanged another look, this time of disbelief and amusement. Their father’s nonchalance was both hilarious and incredibly sweet. He continued eating as if they had just told him the weather forecast.
Joe laughed, the tension in his shoulders easing.
“Wow, Dad, you’re taking this in stride.”
David shrugged, his mouth full of chicken. Manages to reply ––– you’re my sons. That’s all that matters!.
“You’re my sons. That’s all that matters.”
Joe felt a rush of emotion and began to speak, his voice trembling.
“I’ve been denying myself for a very long time, and I think that’s why we’ve had a bad relationship throughout the teen years because—”
Sarah reached out, placing a hand over his. –––
“Because you could never open up and talk to us. I understand, Ron. But we’re here for you now and always will be.”
Tears welled up in Ron’s eyes, and he squeezed his mother’s hand.
“Thank you, Mom. Thank you, Dad.”
Joe leaned back in his chair, a sense of peace washing over him.
“We should have done this sooner.”
Sarah smiled warmly at both of them.
“The important thing is that you did it. And we’re proud of you both.”
That night, the family shared a meal filled with laughter and stories, and the weight of the unspoken secret finally lifted. Adam and Luke, their hearts brimming with a newfound sense of freedom and acceptance, realized the depth of their parents’ unwavering love. The twins had faced their fears and found that the love of their family was a beacon of hope, more potent than any secret they had kept.
After leaving their parents, Joe was driving and said to Ron –––
“You know our parents took the news well. But how about the people who come out whose outcome isn’t the best? Not everyone has the storybook ending we just did; we should try to do something for the rejected people or even worse.”
Ron thought for a moment and replied ––
“I know what you mean, but what can we do? We are not financially set to take in all the people turned back by their families, and we don’t have the means to support them emotionally.”
Joe, always thinking ahead and having a plan in mind, quickly shot back ––
We don’t have to become a shelter or start providing counseling, but we can actively support the causes that provide these services. There are several we can begin making others aware of and encouraging our friends and family to help financially and publicly. This decision, for us, is not just about supporting a cause. It’s about making a difference in the lives of those who become disowned and suffering. It’s about giving them hope and a voice.
Ron, always looking to best his brother, said ––
Okay, name some of them. Right now, I want to hear a few of them. What are they?
Joe, without pause, began naming the groups –––
PFLAG, Coming Out Later In Life, The Tribe, Rainbow Families—there are many ways to show our support and help others who have the same depression we did.
As Joe and Ron reached the apartment where Joe lived, they had made up their mind, they would volunteer for one of the projects they had talked about and try to help others. They didn’t know what they could do, but maybe just being there and finding their purpose would be a beginning would be a start.
The first thing they planned to do the following day was to each call one of the organizations until they could find one the brothers would fit in with and then call each other back and update one another on their first day of action –– if they were raising funds for a project who got to call mom and dad first? They decided it would be a coin toss over dinner the next night to celebrate their coming out.
Below are websites utilized in the recent past by benandsteve.com for information on research materials. Ben and Steve have also recognized and in many cases provided financial support to many of these organizations. We urge you to find an organization that fits you so to volunteer, it is in giving that we find healing and recovery. It is giving we find riches and in giving we find outselves. Support groups for the LGBTQI+ Community
The Friendly Hotel, renowned for its around-the-clock security and welcoming atmosphere, primarily serves LGBTQI clientele. It features a restaurant and two nightclubs that cater to the gay community, making it a popular destination.
The front desk was abuzz with guests checking in on a bustling Saturday night. The diligent clerks worked hard, assigning rooms and ensuring the correct amenities. Meanwhile, security guards Steve and Jim began their shift at 8 PM. Their initial task was to patrol the Hotel’s perimeter, ensuring the safety of all guests, particularly the LGBTQI community. They also made regular rounds at the nightclubs, maintaining a vigilant presence. Steve and Jim were not just part of the Hotel’s security team but also recognizable figures in the community. Their reliability and assured presence brought peace and safety, reassuring guests and visitors alike.
As long-time officers at the Friendly Hotel, Steve and Jim were known for their no-nonsense approach. They wouldn’t tolerate any arguing or resistance, often telling it like it was and swiftly ejecting or arresting troublemakers. This firm handling of security contributed to the secure feeling that drew many guests to the Hotel.
On this particular Saturday night, a group gathered outside the hotel gates, shouting anti-gay slurs at guests. Due to their location, Steve and Jim couldn’t move them but kept a watchful eye, urging visitors to avoid the area for safety.
Around 2 AM, the crowd had dwindled to six individuals, who positioned themselves on both sides of the street in front of the Hotel. The street led to other nightclubs nearby, and patrons often walked between these clubs and the Hotel. Steve and Jim reported the dangerous situation to local police, warning that assaults could occur. However, the police did not respond.
At 2:39 AM, Steve and Jim, standing near the street on hotel property, saw two guests leaving the Hotel and heading towards other clubs. Suddenly, the six individuals attacked the two men with pipes, brass knuckles, and other weapons, striking them in the head, stomach, ribs, and legs. The two men collapsed, unconscious and bleeding heavily, as the attackers shouted anti-gay slurs. Steve and Jim rushed to apprehend the assailants, capturing five of them. They handcuffed the suspects and seated them on the sidewalk. Recovered weapons included nunchucks, brass knuckles, metal bars, mace, knives, and a shuriken.
The victims remained unconscious and continued to bleed profusely. The guards tried to apply pressure with whatever supplies they could find. Jim radioed the front desk to call the police, ambulance, and fire rescue. Steve asked if anyone in the crowd had medical training, but no one stepped forward. Emergency services took over thirty minutes to arrive, a typical response time in the gay community during the 80s and 90s.
When the fire department and ambulance finally arrived, they refused to touch the victims. Steve and Jim had to load the victims onto the stretchers and into the ambulances themselves, applying bandages to stop the bleeding. The police department sent only one unit, and the suspects were released a block away without charges. The police filed an incomplete report, and a follow-up investigation concluded insufficient information to pursue further action.
The two assault victims got so severely beaten that they had to be placed in medically induced comas for a week to reduce brain swelling. They lost most of their teeth, had their noses broken, orbital eye sockets crushed, chins broken, and ribs fractured. One suffered a punctured lung, and the other nearly lost an ear.
The story you have just read is an account of actual events experienced by the writer. The Hotel’s original name is no longer in use; it has since been changed and is operated by a different owner. The name used in this story is strictly to serve as a reference for the reader. Any name or likenesses may be coincidental; however, this incident occurred over thirty years ago. The reason for sharing this story is to highlight the results of severe prejudices and their actions in our daily lives. What we say, hear, and do genuinely matter. And how dangerous it can be to turn back the clock in an attempt to make things like they used to be!
Once upon a time, in a Meadow not too far away, there lived three Billy Goats. There was the papa Billy Goat, a towering figure with a heart of gold, the mama Billy Goat, a gentle soul who radiated love, and the Kid Billy Goat, a tiny bundle of nerves and curiosity, still learning about the world.
Every day, the three Billy Goats embarked on a journey from their cozy home, through a winding lane, to a lush pasture. Here, they feasted on the freshest green grass, filling their bellies to the brim. Their path took them through a dense, mysterious forest, and down a steep, rocky canyon wall, leading to a narrow passage with a bridge that spanned a gurgling creek.
Under the Bridge lived a crabby, mean, and dirty troll who threatened to grab anyone who crossed his Bridge, drag them below, and lock them in a cavern he had carved in the creek bank. He had threatened the deer in the forest, the birds who had tried to sit on the Bridge, and the rabbits and other animals who had attempted to use the Bridge to cross the creek. All the animals were afraid of the Troll. The goats were the only animals that used the Bridge because the Troll would not threaten them. He was intimidated by Papa Billy Goat, who was muscled and strong.
One day, the Papa Billy Goat had to work and told the Mama Billy Goat and the Kid Billy Goat to go without him to the Meadow. As they arrived at the Meadow, the Troll, his voice dripping with malice, saw that Papa Billy Goat was not with them. He came out and stopped them, his threats hanging in the air like a dark cloud, telling them if they tried to cross his Bridge, he would take them to his cavern and lock them up, adding that he would devour them! The Mama Billy Goat and Kid Billy Goat, their hearts pounding with fear, ran back home. That night, Papa Billy Goat heard what happened and his anger burned like a raging fire.
The next day, the Papa Billy Goat, his protective instincts in full force, decided to teach the Troll a lesson. He instructed the Mama Billy Goat and the Kid Billy Goat to go to the Bridge without him while he hid in the nearby woods. As the Troll emerged, his foul stench wafting through the air, and began his threats, the Papa Billy Goat, fueled by his love for his family, charged with all his might, the sound of his hooves thundering against the ground, using his horns to knock the Troll off the Bridge and into the creek.
Stunned by the Papa Billy Goat’s reaction, the Troll got up, unsure of what had happened; as he did, the Papa Bill Goat said to him,
“This Bridge is for all of us to use,” Papa Billy Goat bellowed, his voice echoing through the canyon. “And you, TROLL, no longer have the power to decide who can or can’t cross it. Do you understand?”
The Troll, now deeply remorseful for his past actions, admitted his wrongdoings and shuffled off to his little shack. This time, his heart was filled with a newfound understanding and respect for the others. His transformation was a beacon of hope, showing that change is possible.
As if on cue, all the animals in the forest burst out of their hiding places and began to run back and forth across the Bridge, their joy and freedom palpable. They finally had the right to cross the Bridge, a right that had been denied to them for far too long by a greedy, prejudiced troll. And the Billy Goats, their hearts filled with happiness, danced their way to the green Meadow, their home.
The Melon Group was a crowd of friends that began in a small community as a support group. The members had found themselves there as a collective of the LGBTQI+ Community. They ranged from 18 to 80+ and had watched people come and go. Sadly, the group was gathering after attending the funeral of the Melon Group founder, Bennie. He had been the one back in 1981 who had posted an ad in the local paper inviting all the rainbow family members to join him for snacks and treats in the local park. It was a risky move in those days, but Bennie was like that; he took chances. Chances like that gave life to many of the hidden townspeople, who did not have anyone to turn to.
There was Joanne, a closeted lesbian, until 1984 when the help of Bennie’s meetings in the park gave her the courage to confront her family. Thanks to Bennie, Jill, her partner, met her at the park. Jon and Mike, a gay middle-aged couple, found support with the group after relocating to the community for their jobs. Then there were Jett and Freida, who were transgender. They found love from the group when their families had disowned them.
Others, too many to mention, had been through the Melon Group over the years. As they sat in a local coffee shop and began to recall the years that had passed, memories flooded back of those who had once been part of their vibrant community but were no longer there.
Paul, an older gentleman among the first members, always had a warm smile and a knack for baking the best cookies. He had passed away a few years ago, but his recipes lived on in the group, a sweet reminder of his presence. Maria, a young transgender woman, had found solace in the group after escaping an abusive household. She eventually moved to a big city to chase her dreams of becoming an artist, but her sporadic visits and heartfelt messages kept her close to everyone’s hearts.
Bennie, though, was the heart and soul of the Melon Group. His courage and vision created a safe space where none had existed. His laughter was infectious, and his wisdom, always shared with a twinkle in his eye, guided many through their darkest days. Bennie had a way of making everyone feel seen, heard, and loved. He remembered every birthday, celebrated every milestone, and comforted every sorrow. His passing left a void that felt impossible to fill.
The Melon Group wasn’t just a support group but a lifeline. In those early days, gathering in the park was an act of defiance, a statement of existence in a world that often refused to acknowledge them. Over time, the group became a second family. They celebrated, grieved, and, most importantly, stood by each other through thick and thin.
Samantha, a bisexual woman who had joined in the late ’90s, recalled how Bennie had helped her through her messy divorce and subsequent custody battle. “Bennie always knew what to say,” she said, her voice thick with emotion. “He had this way of making you feel like everything was going to be okay, even when it felt like the world was falling apart.”
Jacob, who recently came out as non-binary, shared how Bennie had encouraged them to embrace their true selves. “Bennie saw me,” Jacob said. He saw the real me even before I did. He gave me the strength to be honest with myself and the world.”
The Melon Group had seen countless faces over the years: people who found a place to belong, who found love and acceptance, who found the courage to be themselves. Bennie’s legacy lived on in each of them, in the connections they made, and in the lives they touched.
As they sat in that coffee shop, sharing stories and laughter through their tears, they knew Bennie’s spirit was with them. They vowed to continue his work, keep the Melon Group alive and thriving, and be the beacon of hope and love that Bennie had always been.
The Melon Group had weathered many storms but stood firm, a testament to the power of community, love, and the enduring impact of one man’s dream. Bennie may be gone, but his light shone brightly in the hearts of all who had known him, and in the Melon Group, that light would never fade.
The story of Gay Pride Parades, also known as LGBTQ+ Pride Parades, begins with a backdrop of systemic discrimination, social stigma, and legal challenges faced by LGBTQ+ individuals. The need for such parades emerged from the historical struggle for recognition, rights, and acceptance. Here’s a concise history of how they became necessary:
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Early 20th Century: Discrimination and Marginalization
In the early 20th century, LGBTQ+ individuals faced severe discrimination and persecution. Homosexuality was criminalized in many parts of the world, and those who identified as LGBTQ+ were often subject to arrest, harassment, and violence. This era was marked by widespread societal stigma, leading many to conceal their identities.
1950s-1960s: The Homophile Movement
The mid-20th century saw the rise of the homophile movement, with groups like the Mattachine Society and the Daughters of Bilitis advocating for the rights of gay and lesbian individuals. These organizations aimed to improve the public perception of LGBTQ+ people and sought to decriminalize homosexuality. Their efforts laid the groundwork for more visible activism.
Stonewall Uprising: The Catalyst
The catalyst for the Gay Pride Parades was the Stonewall Uprising in June 1969. The Stonewall Inn, a gay bar in New York City’s Greenwich Village, was a frequent target of police raids. On June 28, 1969, a raid sparked spontaneous and violent demonstrations by the LGBTQ+ community, which lasted several days. The Stonewall Uprising marked a turning point, as it galvanized the LGBTQ+ community and led to the formation of activist organizations like the Gay Liberation Front (GLF) and the Gay Activists Alliance (GAA).
1970: The First Pride March
To commemorate the one-year anniversary of the Stonewall Uprising, activists organized the first Christopher Street Liberation Day March on June 28, 1970. This event is widely recognized as the first Gay Pride Parade. It took place in New York City and was followed by similar marches in Los Angeles, Chicago, and San Francisco. The purpose of these marches was to promote LGBTQ+ visibility, celebrate their identity, and demand equal rights.
Growth and Global Expansion
Throughout the 1970s and 1980s, Pride Parades grew in size and spread to other cities around the world. They became annual events, serving as a platform for activism, community building, and celebration. The AIDS crisis in the 1980s further intensified the need for solidarity and visibility, as LGBTQ+ communities faced immense loss and stigma.
Modern Pride Parades
Today, Pride Parades are held in cities worldwide and have evolved into large-scale celebrations that include parades, festivals, concerts, and educational events. They serve multiple purposes: celebrating LGBTQ+ identity and culture, advocating for legal and social equality, and remembering the struggles and achievements of the LGBTQ+ movement.
Continued Relevance
Despite significant progress, LGBTQ+ individuals still face challenges and discrimination in many parts of the world. Pride Parades remain necessary to combat homophobia, transphobia, and other forms of discrimination. They continue to provide a space for the community to express pride in their identity and to demand full equality and acceptance.
Conclusion
The necessity of Gay Pride Parades stems from a history of marginalization and the ongoing fight for rights and recognition. What began as a reaction to oppression and violence has transformed into a global movement that celebrates diversity, promotes inclusivity, and strives for equality.
In the late 1890s, the vast expanse of the American West stretched endlessly, a sea of golden plains and towering mountains. Two cowgirls named Mae and Rosie, not just friends but soulmates, called home in a remote corner of this wild land. Mae, with her fiery red hair and fierce spirit, and Rosie, with her raven-black braids and gentle demeanor, were an inseparable pair, bound by a love that defied the conventions of their time. In a world where their love was deemed unconventional, they found solace and strength in each other.
One crisp autumn morning, they saddled their horses and rode out, the sun casting long shadows across the rolling hills. Their journey led them to an old wooden fence gate, weathered by years of harsh winds and blazing sun. They spurred their horses forward with a shared glance and a mischievous smile, pushing the gate open and galloping through.
As they rode, the familiar landscape began to change. The dirt road beneath their horses’ hooves transformed into smooth pavement. The rolling hills flattened, and in the distance, a faint hum grew louder, evolving into the roar of engines. The world around them seemed to blur and shift, the sky darkening and then brightening again until suddenly, they found themselves on the edge of a bustling highway. In the face of this bewildering transformation, Mae and Rosie’s courage and resilience shone through, inspiring all who witnessed their journey.
The year was no longer 1898 but 1972. Mae and Rosie reined in their horses, staring in awe at the sight before them. Towering skyscrapers pierced the sky, cars zipped by at dizzying speeds, and people hurried along sidewalks, oblivious to the two cowgirls who had just crossed time itself.
Confusion and excitement swirled within them. They rode cautiously along the highway, their horses nervously stepping onto the strange new surface. They marveled at the colorful billboards advertising things they’d never seen before and the neon lights that promised adventure. It was a journey that was not just physical but emotional, as they navigated the unfamiliar terrain of a world that was changing at a rapid pace.
As they entered the city, the clamor of modern life enveloped them. Mae’s eyes sparkled with curiosity while Rosie gazed wonderfully at the people dressed in fashions so alien to their own. They stopped outside a diner, its large windows showcasing a scene of laughter and warmth. The sign above the door read “Betty’s Diner.”
Mae and Rosie dismounted, tethering their horses nearby. They walked into the diner, the door jingling as they stepped inside. Heads turned, and the chatter ceased momentarily as the patrons saw the two cowgirls, their clothes and demeanor a stark contrast to the modern setting. Some stared in curiosity, others in judgment, but a few smiled warmly, recognizing the courage it took for them to be there.
Betty, the diner’s owner, approached them with a friendly smile. “Welcome, ladies! What brings you to these parts?” she asked, her eyes twinkling with curiosity. Mae and Rosie exchanged a glance, unsure of how to explain their journey. “We’re just passing through,” Mae said, her voice steady.
Betty nodded, sensing there was more to their story. She led them to a booth and handed them menus. As they sat, they began to notice the small but significant changes around them—the music playing from a jukebox, the variety of food on the menu, the freedom in the air. Mae and Rosie exchanged a glance, their eyes filled with wonder and a hint of apprehension, as they realized they were witnessing a world that was vastly different from the one they had left behind.
Over the next few days, Mae and Rosie explored the city, learning about the incredible advancements and the cultural shifts that had occurred in the seventy-four years they had seemingly leaped over. They discovered a vibrant community of people who defied conventions and lived openly and proudly like them. They learned about the women’s suffrage movement, the civil rights movement of 1964, and the sexual revolution, all of which had reshaped the society they now found themselves in.
One evening, they attended a gathering at a local community center. It was a celebration of love and identity, filled with people from all walks of life. Mae and Rosie felt a deep connection to the stories they heard, the struggles and triumphs resonating with their own experiences.
As they danced under the disco ball, surrounded by newfound friends, they were overwhelmed with a sense of joy and liberation. They realized that they had found a place where their love was not only accepted but celebrated. With all its noise and chaos, the city had given them a glimpse of a future they had never imagined, a future filled with hope and optimism for societal change.
Mae and Rosie decided to stay, embracing the new world with open hearts. They found work, made friends, and built a life together. Their love story began in the wild, untamed West and flourished in the bustling, vibrant city of the 1970s. It was a decision that was not without its challenges, but they were willing to face them for the chance to live and love freely in a world that was slowly but surely becoming more accepting.
Years later, as they sat together on a bench overlooking the skyline, they often spoke of that old wooden fence gate and the magical journey it had taken them on. The city had become their home, where they could live and love freely, forever grateful for the lucky ride that had led them to this extraordinary new chapter in their lives. They reminisced about the changes they had witnessed, the challenges they had overcome, and the love that had remained constant throughout it all.
Born in a county of less than 12,000 people in the southwest part of the state, Jason grew up in the shadow of his grandfather’s church. Papa Preacher, as he was known, was a fire and brimstone verse-thrower who would have been at home in the 1870s. He led the county revivals in a Save Your Soul from Satan telethon of services every Spring and Fall. Everyone showed up, or people’s names were trashed in the community.
Jason had heard since the time he could walk how homosexuals would be sent straight to the pits of Hell, with the gnashing of teeth, torture the likes never seen, and burning forever more. From birth, he was scared to believe everything his grandfather said was true.
When Jason began to get older and experienced puberty, his reactions to life differed from those of other teenage boys. His attraction to girls was nonexistent. He had no desire to look at a girl in a way that would be sexual. He had many girls who were friends, but he never wanted to date one or have any relationship other than friendship with any of them. However, when it came to his male friends and older classmates, that was a different story—one he didn’t understand. Jason had never known a person who was gay. He had never been around any books, magazines, or pamphlets that contained gay content. Nor had Jason watched any movies concerning gays. The only thing he knew about gays or the LGBTQI+ Community was that they slept with the same sex and were going to Hell forever!
Now, he was having intense feelings for other young men, and it was showing. In gym class, he began showing up late or not going at all to avoid going to the locker room. He got roughed up when showering once when he got an erection, and he didn’t mean to. He thought it was difficult enough just trying to hide his excitement walking through the hallways between classes. At least he could use his school books to cover up any problems that could arise.
What Jason couldn’t cover up was the summer vacation when a foreign exchange student from Germany was staying with a local family, and he was discovered by the local police necking and nearly nude while parked in Jason’s four-wheel drive. They were both in college and of legal age to make their own decisions, but the local police ensured Jason’s grandfather heard about it. The officer then went to the local coffee shop and told the local crowd about it, and soon, the whole town was talking. The foreign exchange student didn’t understand what the big deal was after all, to him, it was well-accepted where he came from, and this upset was so uncalled for. But for Jason, it was the end of his life as he knew it. And, he began to shut down. He was withdrawing and ending communications with everyone. He holed up at home for weeks, sleeping nearly all the time. Then, he began staying awake for days at a time. Finally, he had established a plan to say goodbye.
Jason sat in his dimly lit living room, the world’s weight pressing down on him. The gun in his hand felt heavy, not just physically but emotionally. His eyes, red from hours of crying, stared at the floor. The only sound was the steady ticking of the old grandfather clock in the corner, a reminder of the seconds slipping away.
He had tried an hour earlier. As he pulled the trigger, his body betrayed him, flinching just enough to send the bullet harmlessly through the open window. He had cursed himself for his cowardice, not knowing that his hesitation had saved a life outside. In the quiet street beyond, a small dog had narrowly missed getting hit, the sound of the shot startling it but not injuring it.
Now, Jason sat there, lost in his thoughts. He had tried to change, to conform to the expectations of his family, church, and society. But he couldn’t change who he was. The rejection, the whispers, the outright hostility—they had all taken their toll. He felt alone, unloved, and hopeless.
Unbeknownst to Jason, the small dog he had unknowingly spared was wandering through the neighborhood. The dog, a scruffy terrier mix with a keen sense of empathy, was drawn to the house. Jason left the door slightly ajar, leaving it open in desperation and distraction. The dog slipped inside, its little paws padding softly on the wooden floor.
Jason didn’t notice the dog at first. He, too, was wrapped up in his sorrow, the cold metal of the gun pressed against his temple. It wasn’t until he felt a soft nudge against his leg that he looked down. Sitting in front of him was the scruffy terrier, its eyes wide and filled with a kind of unconditional love that Jason had never experienced before.
The dog wagged its tail, its eyes never leaving Jason’s. It was as if the dog understood his pain and wanted to offer comfort. Jason lowered the gun, his hand trembling. He reached out hesitantly, and the dog nuzzled his hand, licking his fingers gently.
Tears welled up in Jason’s eyes. He hadn’t felt such warmth in so long. The dog climbed into his lap, curling up as if it was fate to find him in his darkest moment. Jason hugged the dog tightly, sobbing into its fur. The presence of the small, warm creature gave him a glimmer of hope, a reason to hold on.
Hours went by as Jason sat there with the dog in his arms. The sun began to rise, casting a gentle glow through the windows. The new day felt like a second chance, a new beginning. He didn’t know what the future held, but he knew he couldn’t give up.
The dog had saved him in more ways than one. It had given him a reason to keep going, a reminder that love and hope could come from the most unexpected places. Jason decided to name the dog Chance for the second chance it had given him. They would face whatever came next, knowing they had each other together.
In the following days, Jason began to reach out for help, reconnecting with supportive friends and finding solace in a community that accepted him for who he was. And through it all, Chance was by his side, a loyal companion who had come into his life when he needed it most. The love and companionship of his furry friend reminded him daily that he was worthy of love and happiness, just as he was.
That evening, Jason turned his television off, the only channel he had been told he could watch and remain a good Christian and child of God. While flipping to another TV station, he came across a public service announcement about PFLAG and went to their website out of curiosity to learn more. It was there that Jason heard about the Trevor Project and The Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender National Hotline. He reached out for direction and soon became part of the most prominent family he knew. And he grew to be the happiest he ever had in life. Today – Jason isn’t going through Hell on Earth trying to stay out of a place many people question. And he wakes up with a rainbow in his life every day!
Ethan Ryder Is Set Free From A Lifetime Of Pain And Rensentments…
Ethan Ryder had not set foot in Blare, Arkansas, for nearly twenty years. The dusty roads, the sunbaked fields, and the distant hum of cicadas were all etched into his memory, though the town held little warmth for him. The old farm, once a place of life and growth, now symbolized the past he was finally ready to confront. His parents had passed, leaving the property to him, and with a heavy heart, he decided it was time to sell and settle the lingering ghosts of his youth
. The farmhouse loomed at the end of the dirt road, its paint peeling and windows cloudy with neglect. Ethan took a deep breath, the scent of earth and decay mingling. Memories flooded back—memories of long, lonely days working the fields, of whispered slurs and judgmental glances from the townsfolk, and of the dark, sleepless nights filled with fear and self-loathing.
Ethan’s childhood had been a series of silent battles, trying to reconcile who he was with who the town expected him to be. As a teenager, he had realized he was gay, a revelation that brought a storm of confusion and dread. Blare was not the type of place where locals embraced this kind of difference. The town was small, its people set in their ways, and the intolerance he faced left deep scars.
He walked through the creaking door, the house’s interior almost unchanged. Dusty furniture stood as it had been for decades, and the old family photographs still lined the walls. Ethan ran a finger along the mantle, picking up a thick layer of dust. The house felt like a time capsule, a reminder of a life he had fought hard to leave behind. It was in the kitchen that Ethan found a tangible connection to his past: an old, weathered cookbook that had belonged to his mother. She was the one person who had always accepted him, even if she didn’t fully understand. Ethan could still hear her soft, comforting voice as she tried to console him during his darkest moments, a voice that brought him solace even in her absence. Ethan’s father, on the other hand, was a stern man bound by the town’s rigid expectations. When Ethan came out to him, the silence was more painful than any words could have been. The distance between them had grown insurmountable, and this rift had driven Ethan to leave Blare as soon as he could.
As he explored the farm, Ethan’s steps led him to the barn. This old structure, once his sanctuary, was where he could escape the harsh realities of Blare and dream of a life where he could be himself. Pushing open the heavy doors, he was greeted by the familiar scents of hay and leather, triggering a flood of memories. In this very barn, he had shared his first kiss with another boy, a moment that had both terrified and exhilarated him, marking the beginning of his journey toward self-acceptance.
Standing in the barn, Ethan felt a profound sense of closure. The fear and pain of his youth no longer held him captive. He had built a life far from Blare, surrounded by people who loved and accepted him for who he was. He had found happiness, a concept he had once deemed unattainable, and it was a feeling that washed over him, bringing a sense of peace and relief. With renewed determination, Ethan began sorting through his parents’ belongings, deciding what to keep and let go. Among the keepsakes was a small wooden box he had never seen before. Inside, Ethan found dozens of letters, all addressed to him. They were from his mother and written after he left. In them, she spoke of her regret for not being able to protect him better, her pride in his courage, and her unwavering love.
As Ethan read his mother’s letters, tears welled up in his eyes. Her words were a soothing balm to his wounded soul, healing the scars of a painful past. Even in her absence, he felt a deep connection to her, a connection that brought him peace and a renewed sense of self. Her letters were not just words on a page, but a testament to her love and understanding, a final gift of closure and acceptance.
By the time Ethan was ready to leave, the farmhouse felt less like a place of pain and more like a chapter that had finally ended. He had faced his past, laid his ghosts to rest, and was ready to move forward. As Ethan drove away from Blare for the last time, the sun setting behind him, Ethan felt a lightness in his heart. He was free.
Sergeant Bill Johnson, 45, served in the patrol division of the Dalfton Police Department and held the position of Range Master at the department’s shooting range for the last twenty years. Dalfton was a small Oklahoma City metro area department, and the officers often assisted other departments.
Officer Johnson was single and also secretly transgender; that is, he is living his birth sexuality but slowly dying to live his real identity. The trouble being in his life, Johnson can’t bring himself to do so until his parents die. When he turned 46, his father and mother both passed away of old age within days of one another. Following their funerals and while on bereavement leave, Johnson takes an extended leave for more than one year. During that time, Bill went to another state and underwent the necessary procedures to become the person he always felt his body called him to be.
Her return to duty after turning 48 as Billie Johnson surprised many, especially because she was female. However, her colleagues had a mixed acceptance. Officers she had worked with for over twenty years, backed up in the most dangerous situations, gave her a cold shoulder. She had explained to her Chief of Police that she wouldn’t be alive another year if this didn’t happen. She had barely managed to live the life she had, saying each day it was torture to exist in a man’s body. But, to have tried to change while her parents were alive would have killed them because of their strict religious views, so she lived a tortured life until they died only for them. Now, thanks to their passing, she is freed from their prison; love has set her free.
Sargent Billie Johnson returned to duty with a mixture of anticipation and trepidation. As the Range Master, she had built a reputation for her expertise and dedication, but now she faced a different challenge. The Dalfton Police Department, though small, was a tight-knit community, and Billie knew that acceptance would vary widely among her colleagues.
On her first day back, Billie entered the station, her heart pounding. Chief Parker was first to greet her. He had always been a staunch supporter of her.
“Welcome back, Billie,”
He said warmly, shaking her hand firmly.
“It’s good to have you here.”
Billie smiled, appreciating the genuine welcome. She took a deep breath and made her way to her office, passing by officers who gave her nods, smiles, and the occasional curious glance. She noticed some of her colleagues whispering among themselves, but she chose to focus on the supportive faces around her.
Her first real test came during her first day at the shooting range. She gathered the officers for a mandatory training session, a duty she had performed countless times before. This time, however, she could feel the tension in the air. Some officers were visibly uncomfortable, while others were neutral or encouraging.
Billie addressed the group with confidence.
“I know this is a change for all of us,” she began. “But my commitment to this department and to each of you has not changed. Let’s focus on what we do best—keeping our skills sharp and supporting each other.”
Throughout the session, Billie demonstrated her usual precision and expertise. Gradually, she noticed that the focus shifted from her identity to the training itself. Officer Morales, one of her long-time colleagues, approached her after the session.
“Hey, Billie,”
Morales said, his tone friendly.
“I just wanted to say that it’s good to have you back. You’ve always been a great Range Master, and that hasn’t changed.”
Billie felt a wave of relief.
“Thanks, Morales. That means a lot.”
Over the next few months, Billie worked tirelessly to prove herself as the skilled officer she had always been and as a supportive and reliable colleague. Slowly but surely, the initial tension began to fade. Some officers, Like Morales, were quick to accept her, while others took more time. A few remained distant, but Billie focused on building bridges where she could.
The turning point came during a high-stakes operation in collaboration with neighboring departments. Billie played a crucial role in planning and executing the operation, showcasing her leadership and tactical skills. The operation was a success, and her colleagues began to see her as Billie Johnson and as the capable and dedicated officer she had always been. In the aftermath, Officer Simmons, one of the more skeptical officers, approached Billie.
“I have to admit, I had my doubts,”
Simmons said candidly.
“But you’ve proved you’re the same person—if not more vital. I respect that.”
Billie nodded, feeling a sense of accomplishment.
“Thanks, Simmons. We’re all in this together.”
As the months turned into years, Billie became a symbol of resilience and strength within the department. She continued to shine in her assignment, earning respect and admiration from those around her. While there were always challenges, Billie faced them head-on, knowing that living her truth had strengthened her.
Her journey inspired others in the department and the wider community. Billie began to advocate for greater awareness and support for transgender individuals within law enforcement and beyond. Her story became one of courage, acceptance, and the power of living authentically.
Sargent Billie Johnson, now 50, stood tall, proud of her journey and the person she had become. She knew that while the road had been difficult, it was worth every step. She had found her true self and, in doing so, had made a lasting impact on those around her.
Lemi stood at the threshold of his tidy apartment, staring at the email that had just ended his decade-long tenure at the executive office. He had been a critical player with innovative ideas and unmatched dedication. But the corporate world had no room for loyalty when profits wavered. The company’s polite yet impersonal farewell words blurred as he fought back the rising tide of emotions. The sense of loss and betrayal was overwhelming, and he found himself questioning his worth and identity. Yet, amidst the turmoil, a flicker of hope began to emerge, a whisper that maybe, just maybe, this was an opportunity for something new and fulfilling.
At first, Lemi saw it as a temporary measure. He printed flyers, set up a simple website, and spread the word. His first clients were mostly friends and acquaintances, curious and supportive of his new venture. The physical work starkly contrasted his former desk job, but he found unexpected satisfaction in transforming spaces from dusty and cluttered to spotless and serene.
The next few days were a whirlwind of updating resumes, connecting with old contacts, and browsing job boards. But as the days turned into weeks, the stress of bills and dwindling savings forced Lemi to confront a stark reality: he needed an immediate source of income. Yet, in the midst of this uncertainty, a flicker of hope ignited. He had always found a strange solace in cleaning, a control over chaos that was missing in his current life. And thus, Clean Slate Services was born, a testament to his resilience and adaptability.
One sunny afternoon, Lemi arrived at the grand home of his new client, Daniel. The man who opened the door was effortlessly handsome, with a warm smile that lit up his face. As Lemi introduced himself and got to work, he couldn’t help but notice Daniel’s frequent, friendly visits to the rooms he was cleaning. They chatted about everything from the latest books to favorite travel destinations. There was an undeniable spark, a twist in the tale that Lemi tried to dismiss as mere friendliness, but couldn’t ignore.
Days turned into weeks, and Lemi looked forward to his sessions at Daniel’s home more than any other. The routine of cleaning became almost secondary to their growing friendship. One day, as Lemi was packing up his supplies, Daniel invited him to stay for coffee. They sat on the patio, the afternoon sun casting a warm glow around them.
“Lemi, I’ve been meaning to tell you,”
Daniel started, hesitant yet sincere.
“I admire what you’re doing here. Not just the cleaning, but how you’ve turned things around after –– well, you know.”
Lemi felt a warmth spread through him at Daniel’s words.
“Thank you, Daniel. It’s been quite a journey, but it’s been more rewarding than I ever expected.”
Their eyes met, and the world seemed still for a moment. Lemi’s heart raced as he realized the depth of his feelings. But alongside this, a new realization dawned: he genuinely loved what he was doing. The satisfaction of making things clean and bright, the connections he was forming, and the control over his destiny were things he had never found in his corporate job. This realization filled him with a sense of fulfillment and contentment he had long been searching for.
As he drove home that evening, Lemi thought about the path ahead. He had always seen Clean Slate Services as a stopgap, but now he wondered if it was something more. The pride he felt in his work, the joy of seeing his clients happy, and the possibility of exploring his feelings for Daniel combined to create a new vision for his future.
A few days later, Lemi met with an old colleague for lunch. The conversation inevitably turned to job openings in the executive world. As his colleague spoke, Lemi felt a strange detachment. The allure of high-powered meetings and corporate ladders no longer enticed him. He thanked his friend for the information but politely declined to pursue any leads. He had found a new path, a path that was more aligned with his values and brought him true satisfaction. The corporate world, with its politics and pressures, no longer held the same appeal.
Returning home, Lemi sat at his desk, staring at the Clean Slate Services logo he had hastily designed months ago. He lifted up his cell phone and texted Daniel, inviting him to dinner. He felt a new sense of purpose, a feeling that he was precisely where he needed to be.
Lemi had found his true calling—not in the towering office buildings of the corporate world but in the simple, honest work of cleaning homes and the unexpected love blossoming with a kind-hearted client. Looking around his spotless apartment, he knew now was the time to embrace a new chapter with an open mind, arms, and heart.
Robella, a woman with physical differences, was born into a world that seemed to reject her. Her hair grew out long and kinky on one side and short and stubby on the other, and she was nearly bald in the back. Her left leg was shorter than the right. The elbow on her right arm is three inches higher than the left. Her nose had a long mole on end, which, when she was in school, all the children nicknamed her ‘witchy-pooh.’ Her body had grown misshaped, and she had to wear specially-made clothes that she made since her parents had distanced themselves from her for being so embarrassing.
Robella, often misunderstood and feared, would rummage the town’s alleys for whatever she could find. She would growl feverishly at anyone who said hello to her or offered to help her, a response born out of years of rejection. However, even this didn’t stop the town’s nicest people from trying to help her. Mrs. Meyers, who ran the bakery, would make a point to set a hot loaf of bread out on the back steps of her store every Monday, knowing that Robella would soon be looking for items the store owners had discarded. Robella would rummage through the cans and junk in the alley until she got to the bread, every week she would sniff it and say out loud,
“Mrs. Myers Bakery always forgets and leaves a loaf of bread in the oven over the weekend. My gain!”
She proceeded down the alley, finding other items that store owners had carefully placed for her, knowing where she would look for them. Robella would find the goods, and she would let out a grunt and laugh and proceed on.
One cold winter day, as Robella made her usual rounds through the alley, she stumbled upon something unexpected. There was a small, wrapped package with a note attached among the carefully placed items. Curiosity piqued, and she hesitated before picking it up.
The note read:
“To Robella, You are special and loved just as you are. Please join us at the town square tonight for a surprise.
With love, Your Neighbors”
Robella frowned and grumbled to herself, unsure what to make of it. Despite her mistrust, a flicker of curiosity and hope stirred within her. She decided to see what kind of joke the townspeople might be playing on her.
As the evening approached, Robella made her way to the town square, staying in the shadows so she would not be seen. To her surprise, the square was transformed into a magical wonderland, filled with lights and decorations. The townspeople had gathered, and a large table was set with all kinds of delicious food. At the center of it all stood Mrs. Meyers, holding a beautifully decorated cake.
“Robella, we’ve been waiting for you,”
Mrs. Meyers called warmly, spotting her in the shadows. The crowd turned, and they all smiled at her, to her amazement.
“Come, join us, “ one of the townspeople said, extending a hand towards her.
“We’ve prepared a feast in your honor.”
Robella hesitated, unsure of what to make of this unexpected show of kindness. But Mrs. Meyers, sensing her hesitation, walked over and gently took her hand, leading her to the center of the square.
“This is for you, dear. We want you to know that we see you, we care about you, and we want you to be part of our community. Your differences are what make you special, and we celebrate them.”
Tears welled up in Robella’s eyes. For so long, she had felt nothing but rejection and loneliness. Now, faced with genuine kindness and acceptance, her hardened exterior began to crack. She felt a mix of emotions-disbelief, gratitude, and a glimmer of hope. Could it be that she was finally finding a place where she belonged?
“But I’m so different,” she whispered, looking down.
“And that makes you unique and wonderful,” Mrs. Meyers replied.
“We all have our differences, which makes our community rich and beautiful.”
The townspeople came forward one by one, each offering a word of kindness or a small gift. They shared stories of their struggles and how they had overcome them with the support of each other. Robella listened, her heart slowly warming with each tale.
As the night went on, Robella felt something she hadn’t felt in years: a sense of belonging. She realized that she didn’t have to be alone or angry anymore. These people truly cared for her, and they wanted her to be a part of their lives. Their kindness, their acceptance, had the power to transform her life.
From that day forward, Robella became an integral part of the community. She used her skills to help others, sewing clothes for those in need and sharing her resourcefulness. The townspeople, in turn, included her in their daily lives, and she formed deep, meaningful friendships. It was the collective acceptance and kindness of the community that had transformed her life, showing her that she was not alone and that her differences were not a barrier to belonging.
Robella’s heart softened, and her once harsh demeanor transformed into one of kindness and warmth. She learned to smile and laugh genuinely, and the townspeople celebrated her unique qualities, seeing the beauty in her differences. She became an integral part of the community, using her skills to help others, sewing clothes for those in need and sharing her resourcefulness. The townspeople, in turn, included her in their daily lives, and she formed deep, meaningful friendships.
Once upon a time, in a picturesque countryside, set between rolling hills and verdant fields, there was a farm known as Maplewood. This farm was home to various animals, each with unique charm, but none were as spirited and curious as a little piglet named Weiner. The air was always filled with the sweet scent of hay, and the sound of chirping birds and rustling leaves was a constant backdrop to their lives.
Weiner was a tiny, rosy piglet with a button nose and twinkling eyes that sparkled with mischief and curiosity. He lived in a cozy style with his mother and siblings, who were a mix of different farm animals. The farm was a bustling place, with chickens clucking, cows mooing, and sheep baaing. Unlike his siblings, who were content with their daily routine, Weiner always dreamt of adventure. He would often sneak out to explore the farm, befriending every animal he met, from the clucking chickens to the gentle cows. One sunny morning, while Weiner was innocently frolicking near the edge of the farm, he noticed something unusual. The air felt different, and there was a faint smell of smoke. His tiny heart began to race as he trotted closer to the source. To his horror, he saw a small fire spreading near the barn, where all the hay was stored. The entire farm, his home, could be in grave danger if it reached the barn.
Weiner knew he had to act fast. He dashed back towards the farmhouse, his tiny hooves kicking up dust as he ran. Reaching the farmhouse, he found Farmer Brown sitting on the porch, sipping his morning coffee.
“Oink! Oink!” Weiner squealed frantically, tugging at Farmer Brown’s pant leg. His eyes were wide with fear, and his little body was trembling.
Farmer Brown looked down, puzzled. “What’s the matter, little Weiner?” Weiner kept squealing and pulled harder, trying to convey the urgency. He was scared, but he knew he had to do something. Sensing something was wrong, Farmer Brown set down his coffee and followed the piglet. As they neared the barn, the smell of smoke became unmistakable.
“Oh no! The barn’s on fire!”
Farmer Brown exclaimed.
He quickly ran to the water pump and started filling buckets. Weiner, thinking swiftly, dashed off again, this time towards the duck pond. There, he found his friend, Daisy, the duck, a wise and gentle creature, and explained the situation in frantic oinks and quacks.
Daisy, understanding the urgency, rallied her duck friends. Together, they formed a line from the pond to the barn, each duck passing water in their beaks. Weiner joined the line, using his snout to help splash water on the flames. The ducks’ feathers glistened in the sunlight as they worked, and Weiner’s tiny hooves splashed in the water, creating a rhythmic sound.
The commotion attracted the attention of the other animals. The cows used their strength to push heavy water troughs closer while the chickens flapped their wings to fan the flames away from the barn. The sheep, not wanting to be left out, used their woolly bodies to smother smaller fire patches. It was a true display of teamwork and unity.
The farm was a flurry of activity. Thanks to Weiner’s quick thinking and the cooperation of all the animals, the fire was soon under control. The flames were extinguished before they could reach the barn, saving the precious hay and the farm itself from disaster. It was a moment of triumph and relief for everyone.
Farmer Brown, covered in soot but immensely grateful, gathered all the animals around. “Thank you, everyone, for your help. But especially you, Weiner. If it wasn’t for your bravery and quick thinking, we could have lost everything.”
Weiner blushed under his pink fur, happy to have helped save his home. From that day on, Weiner was known as the hero of Maplewood Farm. The other animals looked up to him, and he became a symbol of courage and teamwork. Though he still loved to explore, Weiner did so with a new purpose, knowing that sometimes, even the smallest piglet could make the most significant difference.
Maplewood Farm continued to thrive, with Weiner’s tale of heroism becoming a cherished story passed down through the generations. The little piglet who saved the farm had shown everyone that anything was possible with bravery and a little teamwork.
Eleanor’s father sent her to spend two months one summer with her grandmother and two Aunts in the countryside of GoatsManor. Her Aunts, Lilly and Lula, were very precise about how they liked to have the table settings placed each evening. Her Grandmother, Lola, insisted she wears a summer dress to tea at 2 O’clock exactly each afternoon. The ladies explained to Eleanor that she had specific criteria for becoming a lady.
Eleanor was a tomboy turning 14 to 15 years old, and she wished she could still play softball with the youth back in her neighborhood in Boston. Her father, Walter, had become a widower after Eleanor’s mother, Leanne, passed away from cancer two years ago. He was concerned that Elly, as she was known to the neighborhood boys, was becoming less of a lady and more of a roughhouse bar room gal—something he didn’t want for his little girl. So he had called his wife’s mother and aunts and arranged for a summer at GoatsManner.
The first week at GoatsManor was a whirlwind of rules and routines. Eleanor, a tomboy at heart, found herself suffocating in the frilly dresses and precise manners. Her mind often wandered to the dusty baseball diamond and her friends back home. Despite her resistance, her grandmother and aunts persisted, believing that structure and propriety would mold her into a proper young lady.
One hot afternoon, after another tedious tea session, Eleanor wandered into the sprawling fields behind the manor. She needed to clear her head and escape the suffocating expectations. As she walked, she stumbled upon an old barn, its red paint peeling and roof sagging. Curiosity got the better of her, and she pushed open the creaky door.
That was the day, Eleanor stumbled upon a hidden treasure: an old, dusty trunk filled with what appeared to be her mother’s childhood belongings. Among the items were a well-worn softball glove, a collection of vintage baseball cards, and a photograph of her mother, Leanne, in a baseball uniform, grinning widely with a bat slung over her shoulder.
Eleanor’s heart raced with excitement and a newfound connection to her mother. She spent hours in the barn, trying on the glove and imagining her mother playing the sport she loved. It was in this dusty sanctuary that Eleanor felt a surge of joy and freedom, a feeling she hadn’t experienced since her mother’s passing. The barn became her refuge, where she could be herself without judgment.
Over the next few weeks, Eleanor made it a habit to visit the barn whenever possible. She practiced throwing and catching, feeling a sense of freedom and joy she hadn’t felt since her mother’s passing. The barn became her refuge, where she could be herself without judgment. One day, as Eleanor practiced her pitches, she heard a soft applause behind her. She turned to find her grandmother, Lola, watching her with a gentle smile. Eleanor froze, expecting a reprimand, but Lola’s expression was kind.
“I used to watch your mother play out here,” Lola said softly. “She was quite the athlete, just like you.” Eleanor’s eyes widened in surprise. “You mean Mom played softball too?”
Lola nodded. “Oh, yes. She loved it dearly. She found joy and strength in the game. It’s part of who she was.” Tears welled up in Eleanor’s eyes as she realized that her mother had shared her passion for softball. She felt a deep connection and renewed sense of purpose to her mother.
From that day on, Lola and Eleanor spent their afternoons in the barn, practicing together. Lola, who had once been a skilled player, taught Eleanor new techniques and shared stories of her mother’s adventures on the field. The bond between grandmother and granddaughter grew stronger with each passing day.
Eleanor still attended the afternoon teas and followed the table-setting rules, but her perspective had shifted. No longer did she feel confined by them. She had found a balance between GoatsManor’s expectations and her own identity. By the summer’s end, Eleanor had become more poised and confident and embraced her love for softball, knowing it was a cherished part of her mother’s legacy.
When it was time to return to Boston, Eleanor left GoatsManor with a newfound sense of self and a heart full of cherished memories. She knew she could be both a lady and a fierce athlete, carrying forward the best of both worlds.
As the sun rose over the small town of Oakwood, its warm rays illuminated the rows of white headstones in the Oakwood Cemetery. The city, steeped in a rich history of honoring fallen soldiers, had always observed Memorial Day with solemn pride. This day, originally known as Decoration Day, was established after the Civil War to commemorate the Union and Confederate soldiers who died in the war. It has since evolved to honor all Americans who have died in military service.
Sarah Thompson stood at the cemetery’s gate, holding a bouquet of red, white, and blue flowers. She was in her late thirties, her eyes reflecting sorrow and strength. Visiting the cemetery was her yearly ritual—a pilgrimage to visit the grave of her brother, Daniel, who had died in Afghanistan a decade ago.
As Sarah walked along the gravel path, she remembered the day they received the news. It had been a bright summer afternoon, much like today. Daniel had always been a source of light and joy in their family, with his infectious laughter and boundless energy. The knock on the door that day had shattered their world.
Sarah reached Daniel’s grave and knelt, gently placing the flowers in front of the headstone. She traced her fingers over his name etched in the cold stone and whispered a prayer. Memories flooded back—playing tag in the backyard, late-night talks about their dreams, and the tearful goodbye when he left for his final deployment.
The cemetery, a place of collective grief and remembrance, began to fill with others who had come to pay their respects. Families, friends, and fellow veterans moved among the graves, their shared sorrow palpable in the air. Some walked in silence, their thoughts a private tribute, while others shared stories, their voices a collective echo of the lives lost.
A familiar voice broke Sarah’s reverie. “Hey, Sarah.”
She turned to see Tom, one of Daniel’s best friends from high school, standing nearby. He held a small American flag, which he placed at the base of the headstone. Tom had served alongside Daniel and had been with him during his last moments.
“It’s good to see you, Tom,” Sarah said, her voice soft.
Tom nodded, his eyes filled with shared grief. “I come here every year. Feels like the least I can do.”
They stood in silence for a moment, their hearts heavy with the weight of their loss. Each lost in their thoughts, memories of Daniel flooding their minds. Then Tom began to speak, his voice steady but emotional, his words a testament to the bravery and selflessness of their fallen friend. ‘Daniel was the bravest person I knew,’ he said, his voice breaking with emotion. ‘He always put others before himself. Even in the end, he worried more about us than his safety.’
Sarah smiled through her tears. “That sounds like him.”
The morning wore on, and more people arrived, each carrying their own memories and gratitude. A group of children from the local school, accompanied by their teachers, placed flags on the graves of all the fallen soldiers, a symbol of their respect and understanding of the sacrifices made. The town’s mayor gave a short speech, his words echoing with the collective gratitude and remembrance of the community. A local choir sang ‘America the Beautiful,’ their voices a poignant reminder of the unity and strength that comes from shared values. The collective remembrance was a powerful testament to the sacrifices made by so many.
As the ceremony ended, Sarah and Tom lingered by Daniel’s grave a little longer. They shared stories, laughed, and cried, finding comfort in each other’s company.
“Thank you for being here,” Sarah said as they prepared to leave.
“Always,” Tom replied. “He was my brother, too.”
They returned to the cemetery gate together, the sun now high in the sky. As Sarah looked back one last time at the sea of white headstones, she felt a sense of peace. Memorial Day was not just about remembering the fallen; it was about celebrating their lives and the values they stood for.
Driving home, Sarah contemplated the significance of this day and how she would pass on its importance to her children. She understood that as long as they remembered, Daniel’s spirit would continue to live on. Every Memorial Day, she would return to this hallowed ground, ensuring that the memory of her brother and all those who had made the ultimate sacrifice for their country would never fade.
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In the small, forgotten town of Solstice Hollow, days bled into each other with the relentless monotony of time. The sun hung heavy and perpetually on the horizon, a blazing sphere casting an otherworldly glow over the desolate streets. It was always twilight here, neither night nor day, as if the town existed in a pocket of suspended reality.
The alley in the photograph was known as Whispering Lane, a narrow pathway flanked by crumbling buildings that seemed to sigh with the weight of their own history. Shadows stretched long and lean across the cracked pavement, and the air was thick with the scent of old wood and dust. At the intersection of the lane and Main Street stood an old house, its paint peeling and windows dark, a silent sentinel in this forgotten part of the world.
On the roof of this house sat a black cat, its eyes glinting like emeralds in the perpetual twilight. The cat, known to the townsfolk as Midnight, had been there for as long as anyone could remember. Legend had it that Midnight was not an ordinary cat, but a guardian of secrets, a keeper of the town’s strange and sorrowful tales.
One such tale was that of Eleanor Weaver, a young woman who had lived in Solstice Hollow many decades ago. Eleanor was a spirited and curious soul, always wandering the boundaries of the town, seeking something beyond the endless dusk. She was fascinated by Whispering Lane, drawn to its eerie silence and the whispers that seemed to emanate from the very walls.
One evening, Eleanor ventured further down the lane than ever before. The sun, fixed in its eternal descent, bathed the alley in a warm, golden hue, casting long shadows that seemed to beckon her forward. As she walked, she heard faint murmurs, indistinct yet strangely comforting, as if the lane itself were sharing its secrets with her.
At the end of the lane, where the shadows were deepest, Eleanor discovered a hidden door set into the side of an old brick building. The door was ancient and weathered, its surface etched with cryptic symbols. With a mixture of trepidation and excitement, she pushed it open and stepped inside.
What Eleanor found beyond the door was a realm beyond her wildest imaginings—a place where time flowed differently, and the laws of reality were mere suggestions. She wandered through dreamlike landscapes, met beings of light and shadow, and learned the true nature of Solstice Hollow. She discovered that the town was a sanctuary, a refuge for those who had lost their way in the world. The perpetual twilight was a barrier, a protective veil that kept the town hidden from the rest of existence.
Days turned into weeks, and weeks into months, yet Eleanor felt no urge to return. She had found her place, her purpose, in this otherworldly dimension. But as with all who ventured too far into the unknown, a time came when she had to make a choice: remain in the dreamscape forever, or return to the world she had left behind.
Eleanor chose to return, carrying with her the knowledge and serenity she had gained. She emerged from the hidden door, back into the eternal twilight of Whispering Lane. The townsfolk noticed a change in her—a quiet wisdom in her eyes, a sense of peace that seemed to radiate from her very being. She never spoke of what she had seen, but Midnight, the ever-watchful cat, seemed to understand.
Years passed, and Eleanor’s tale became part of the whispered legends of Solstice Hollow. The hidden door was never found again, and some began to doubt it had ever existed. Yet, on still evenings when the sun cast its golden glow over Whispering Lane, the whispers could still be heard, faint but persistent, as if the alley itself remembered.
Midnight remained on the rooftop, a silent guardian, watching over the town and its secrets. And in the timeless twilight of Solstice Hollow, life continued, a delicate dance between reality and the unknown.
George was a happy-go-lucky sort of kid. His father raised quarter horses, and together, they were buddies. They go nearly everywhere together. George and his father’s friend Maynord, an older gentleman, probably a few years older than George’s father, spoiled George, treating him especially grandly. George didn’t emphasize the letter ‘s’ in some of his words, and some words he would say might need to be clarified. His father was known as a horseman and stern man, yet respected by most people, eyebrows raised to the bible-toting folks.
Maynord had a grown daughter who had already left home, but he and his wife had never had a son. With George, Maynord had the time of his life. As did George. The two were better buddies than Maynord, and George’s father became. But George would never say that to his father. Maynord treated George to parades, cheeseburgers, and ice cream cones and even got him a dog. George named the pooch, Ryder after Maynord’s last name.
The two looked forward to Friday and Saturday nights. That is when George’s dad would take George and Maynord to auction barns in nearby cities where horses were sold. There, they would watch the many horses come through the sale ring, and the owners talk them up, saying how great of an animal the horse is, and try to sell it for top dollar. Of course, George’s father had always arrived before the auction to watch the horses lead in so he could see how they handled it and whether they were challenging to work with in getting to holding pens. He could also see if any auction workers tried to ride the horses before entering the sale ring and if the horses handled well. There were always little mishaps in the sale ring, a rider losing his grip and falling off, or a horse doing what the owner said it would not do. Or donkeys would be brought in, which always made George and Maynord laugh. They would jokingly suggest George’s father buy several to go with his quarter horses. The biggest thrill of the sales barn adventures was the cafe located within; that is where, halfway through, George and Maynord would slip away and eat cheeseburgers and drink soda pop.
The horse sales, as George and his father referred to them, caused the problem. Maynord didn’t help with the situation because he referred to the auctions as horse sales. And he had never referred to the auctioning of horses as anything else.
It was in the classroom one Monday morning when the third-grade teacher asked the class for each student to stand and say what the most fun activity they took part in over the weekend was. The town had just had a fair, and the teacher expected the students to explain their actions while visiting the celebration. And that is what the students did until coming to George.
George stood and said –––
“My dad and our friend Maynord took me to the city horse sale, and my dad bought two.
While George was speaking about horses, the teacher heard ‘whore sale.’
The teacher said –––
“George, you went where, and your dad what?”
George replied –––
“My dad took me to a horse sale and bought two. His friend Maynord helped with one of them. They made me watch from the pickup.”
The teacher, turning pale, said –
“George, stop talking; that is enough! Class, that is enough of what we enjoyed this weekend. I will have George explain what he did to the principal.”
George was perplexed. Hasn’t anyone ever watched a horse being sold and loaded into a livestock trailer? Why would the principal need to hear about it? Indeed, he knows about people selling horses.
In the office, the principal was being informed by the teacher about what she had heard and how terrible it was that this father and his friend had taken an 8-year-old boy to whore house and had him watch the goings on with two women. The principal then asked George what exactly did you say to your teacher?
Which George explained –––
“I just told her ––– My dad, Maynord, and I went to a horse sale, where my dad bought two horses. They made me get in the pickup and watch them while loading the horses so I wouldn’t get hurt or in the way. There have been days, I have even held on to some guys horse when he had too many to handle. But I didn’t get to explain it in such detail because the teacher told me to stop talking before I could tell more about what I was talking about. We go to horse sales every weekend. I don’t know what the big deal is!”
The principal and now the school’s superintendent were both in the office. Their faces were beet red, and they were trying to keep from laughing. The teacher, now understanding the situation, felt overreactive and apologizing.
Meanwhile, George is confused and asks everyone in the room –––
“Haven’t you all ever heard of horse sales? Horse sales? Horse Sales! A Place where a man can sell his horse? My dad, Maynord and I go to them every Friday and Saturday night, you should come with us and see what it is all about. If you get bored with the horse sale, you can get a cheeseburger, as I sometimes do. I don’t understand what this is all about just because I told my story about going to the horse sale with my dad and Maynord.”
George’s dad, the town barber, was called and told of the situation. He later held court in his barber’s chair with his shop’s regulars. There, they had the bursts of laughter the school officials experienced.
Leaving the office, it was the loudest laughter George can ever remember hearing to this date. It wasn’t until he was older did he understand the rhyming of the words between horse and whores and how it could sound to others when saying to them –––
“You are headed to a horse sale to see what you can find.”
In the quiet corners of her home, Sarah sat her mind adrift in a sea of conflicting emotions. Her mother, once vibrant and robust, now frail and in need of constant care, sat in the living room, a mere shadow of her former self. It had been a long and arduous journey, filled with sleepless nights and endless worry. But now, Sarah faced the most challenging decision of all – the decision to place her mother in a nursing home.
“Mom, I need to talk to you about something important!”
“What is it Dear” Her Mother Asked?
The idea had lingered in Sarah’s mind for months, whispered in hushed tones by concerned family members and well-meaning friends. Each time, she pushed it away, unwilling to confront the reality of the situwation. But as her mother’s needs grew more demanding, Sarah knew she could no longer ignore the inevitable.
With a heavy heart, Sarah approached her mother, her hands trembling with uncertainty. “Mom,” she began softly, “I need to talk to you about something important.”
Her mother looked up, her eyes clouded with confusion. “What is it, dear?” she asked, her voice tinged with worry.
Taking a deep breath, Sarah explained the situation as gently as possible. She spoke of the challenges they faced and the toll it was taking on them. She spoke of the nursing home – a place where her mother could receive the round-the-clock care she needed, where she would be safe and well looked after.
Her mother listened quietly, her expression unreadable. When Sarah finished, there was a long silence, broken only by the clock ticking on the wall.
Finally, her mother spoke, her voice barely above a whisper. “I understand, dear,” she said, her words heavy with resignation. “I know you’re doing what’s best for me.”
Tears welled up in Sarah’s eyes as she embraced her mother tightly. “I love you, Mom,” she whispered, her voice choked with emotion.
“I love you too, dear,” her mother replied, returning the embrace with feeble arms.
In the following days, Sarah worked tirelessly to find the perfect nursing home for her mother. She visited countless facilities, asking questions, taking notes, and carefully weighing her options. When she finally found the right one—a place that felt warm and inviting, with caring staff and a peaceful atmosphere—she knew she had made the right choice.
On the day of the move, Sarah held her mother’s hand tightly as they walked through the doors of the nursing home together. There were tears and moments of doubt, but through it all, Sarah remained steadfast in her decision.
As she watched her mother settle into her new surroundings, Sarah felt a sense of relief wash over her. It wasn’t an easy decision, nor one she had ever imagined having to make, but in the end, it was the right one – for both her and her mother.
And as she kissed her mother goodbye, promising to visit often and never forget her, Sarah knew that, even though their journey had taken an unexpected turn, they would face it together, with love and understanding guiding their way.
A new neighbor moved down the road. His name was George. He had two strong mules that could pull a plow, a milk cow, and a rooster, but no hens. It looked like he had just taken up living in an old hut abandoned by old farmers who once lived in the area and had gone on. Bill and Nora lived down the road, and further up the hill lived John and his wife, Laura.
Bill, on his horse, was on his way to check on John and Laura when he passed George’s new living setup. Seeing George’s farming efforts, Bill decided to stop and extend a warm welcome. He introduced George to the rest of the neighbors, John, Laura, and his wife, Nora, and invited him to visit anytime. Bill emphasized the mutual reliance of neighbors and assured George that their door was always open, fostering a sense of community and support.
Bill, after his brief encounter with George, continued his journey to John and Laura’s home. He shared the news of their new neighbor, George, and they all agreed on a plan. They decided to reach out to George and invite him for a warm community dinner on Sunday, a gesture that would help him feel welcomed to their little community.
That night, Bill fed his animals on his farm and locked his barn. He and his wife settled down in their home with a cozy fire flickering in the fireplace. They sat and thought about how lucky they were to have their little farm and life. It was to be a cool night but not cold, and Nora left their bedroom window cracked to let fresh air in as they slept. It must’ve been after midnight when Bill and Nora’s dog “Blue” started barking, and Bill yelled for him to lay down and go to sleep, saying to Blue,
“We’ll go hunting tomorrow, dog!”
The dog, looking miffed, he had heard something unusual but obeyed Bill and lay down, all the while staring out the door, watching for something to move.
The following day, Bill went out to feed his livestock and noticed hay, corn, and other items had gone missing from his barn. The back barn door swung open –– Bill recalled –– it had not been the night before. He saddled his horse and rode to John’s, and they, too, had been missing several things: pots and pans, a chicken, and a piece of meat from their smokehouse. Bill told John not to say anything to George until they knew the new neighbor had anything to do with the missing items. Just because George was new to the area didn’t mean he had taken anything.
On his way home, Bill stopped by to check on George. But, it looked like George was still asleep, and his wife, whom Bill hadn’t met, was timid and only waved through the door. So Bill rode his horse back home.
When he got home, Bill had a hunch and got some stiff bailing wire used to bundle hay. He stuck it into his corn cobs, which he stored in his feed storage bins. He then slid a small band onto a few of his best hens’ legs. That night, Bill and Nora went to bed and again had their window cracked open, and Blue was guarding them next to the bed. Sometime after midnight, Blue began barking and scratching at the door. And again, Bill told him to lie down. But this time, Bill knew why Blue was barking.
The following day, Bill went to his barn, and sure enough, the corncobs he had placed the wire on were gone. Some hay and the hens he had slipped the bans on their legs were gone. Bill returned to the house, had breakfast, and told Nora he was going over to Georges. When he arrived, the neighbor was out in his yard, and the two men met. And Bill asked George if he could see George’s mules. As they were looking at the mules, George saw a corncob and broke it open, and there was a wire. The wire he had stuck in it the night before.
Bill turned to George and said,
“George, this corncob is mine. I put this wire in there last night. I will find the same thing if I break open a few more corncobs. And, I have seen several hens you have today that you didn’t have yesterday, and they have a ban on their legs. I know because I placed it on them last night as well. John is also missing some meat and old pots and pans up the road, and I’ve heard talk from other neighbors about missing things around. We don’t do such things around here!”
George apologized and said that he would bring the items he took back before the day’s end.
At sundown the following day, Bill and John were talking, and they had not heard from George but knew he was at home. George had not returned anything. Other men who were missing items met Bill, and they said ––
“we need to teach George we don’t steal.”
They all agreed. The men went and hitched a team of horses up to a wagon and put an old whiskey barrel and some rope in it. They then went to George’s. When he came out onto his porch, the men surrounded him, tied him up, and put him in the wagon. Some of the men’s wives came to stay with George’s wife while the men took him out in the wagon.
They climbed a tall, steep mountain that was clear of trees on one side. When they got to the top, they set the whiskey barrel out and told George to get inside. He did. Then they tacked on the top. George could only see one small hole in the side of the barrel.
The men told “George, this is your punishment for stealing from us. You are to be in this barrel overnight”, but they were interrupted.
A big ole bear came sniffing out of the woods, and the men jumped on the wagon and took off. Looking out of the hole, George couldn’t see what was going on, but the bear backed up to the barrel, sticking its tail in the hole. When it did, George grabbed it and scared the bear, causing it to run down the mountainside. As it did, the barrel rolled, banged, thumped, jumped, flew, hit, and jarred the barrel. Causing to fall to pieces when it hit the bottom of the mountain. George was beaten and bruised but alive, and the neighbor men in the wagon were all waiting on him. Two of them got on each side of him and helped him into the wagon; another handed him a jar of salve, telling him it would take care of every scratch on him. When he healed, the other men told him to hitch his mules up to his wagon and come by their place, and they’d have some items to help him start farming and set up a house with his wife. Bill and John told him that he never had to steal again in his life. All he had to do was be a good neighbor and help others when they needed it, and others in the community would help him. Bill said, “If you are having trouble, don’t starve. We’ll help you out, just like you will help us out when we need it.”
If you are having trouble, don’t starve. We’ll help you out, just like you will help us out when we need it.
Then, all the farmers and people who lived in the area came together on a sunny afternoon and celebrated having new neighbors, George and Bessie. There was food, games and their fellowship built lifetime bonds. From then on George was the best neighbor and went on to pass on the lessons he learned from Bill and John and the other farmers and neighbors who had turned him away from stealing.
This election isn’t about pitting the young against the old. It’s about ensuring that Gen Z and Millennials, who constitute a significant third of our nation’s population, have representation that mirrors their presence.
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Although remembered as older, numerous influential leaders initiated their activism in their youth. We aim to support these leaders—like John Lewis, who embarked on a mission for vital change at a young age and became one of our country’s most pivotal and influential leaders.
Our goal is straightforward: elect more youthful leaders capable of introducing fresh perspectives into our government.
Numerous barriers have historically prevented young people from entering public service and achieving the representation they deserve. Those who support America for all should make every effort to assist young candidates in overcoming these obstacles.
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After the setbacks of 2016, the 2018 blue wave brought the Democratic Party a renewed recognition of the influence young voters wield. In 2020, Joe Biden’s election, which was largely driven by the substantial turnout from Millennial and Gen Z voters, showcased the power of youthful participation. Your voice matters, and your vote can shape the course of our nation.
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In 2022, young voters reaffirmed their electoral influence, thwarting the anticipated “red wave.” Emerging young leaders like Justin Jones in Tennessee and Maxwell Frost in Florida gained prominence. Groups like “Leaders We Deserve” also celebrated their first endorsement success with Nadarius Clark’s election in Virginia.
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The benefits of electing young leaders extend beyond Gen Z and Millennials; they enrich the nation and shape our future. Commencing political involvement at a young age capitalizes on time, making it a potent political ally. Gen Z’s potential longevity in Capitol Hill eclipses many, underscoring the urgency of their ascent to power. The time to act is now.
If you resonate with a mission and aspire to bolster the election of deserving leaders in 2024 and beyond, please act to support feasible campaigns like “Leaders We Deserve” to support their endeavors or find a campaign that will help elect a Democratic Candidate to office.
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My household has always maintained a relatively liberal understanding of the country’s homeless situation. We disagree with outlawing their right to exist and have a place to live and shelter. They are, after all, doing the best they can with the current housing, employment, transportation, or other issues they face. Let them be!
That is what our stance has been all along, until we went out to breakfast this past weekend and the police department was herding a group along the main boulevard we take to our restaurant. They appeared to be the characters you don’t want to run into in a dark alley at night—or daytime, for that matter. For Christ’s sake, were they planning to put roots down behind our neighborhood. We have a wall around the place, but salespeople always jump in and try to knock on doors. We have security but are not the type that can handle these characters. Every winter, we have a homeless troupe that typically arrives and camps near a river, but they are the same people every year, and they are like the snowbirds who flow in and out of the area from the north. These new homeless characters were of a family we never experienced before.
And that is what is scaring so many in America. The police found a suitable place for the troupe to travel on to, and there were no more sights of them after that initial spotting. But that is different for many in the country. These homeless populations inundate their communities, and it is an issue they have never before had to face. What if they are following suit? How many more will come? What problems will they bring with them? Will the property values deflate wherever they plant a stake? Jesus, are they diseased?
California has spent billions of dollars trying to fix its homeless problem and has failed to find a solution. The issue is greater there now than ever. Affordable housing remains unobtainable to those needing it. California is asking people to build tiny homes in their backyards, garages, wherever there is space, and make them available to house people. The problem is, if folks don’t want them in their alleys, will they want them in their garages?
Locally in Phoenix, Arizona. My husband hired an unhoused person years ago and knew she was, although she had not disclosed so on her introduction form. He worked with her schedule to make sure she kept her employment, and within six months, she was able to get a studio apartment, moving from her car. She then told him. He said he knew all along, and that is why he had worked so hard to keep her going, and she turned out to be one of the best employees. Such an example may not be the case with every person, but it is an example of how we can attribute ourselves to improving the situation one person at a time.
While feeling uneasy about sudden changes in your community is natural, it’s important to remember that homelessness is not a choice for many people. They often face a variety of challenges, including mental health issues, substance abuse, lack of affordable housing, and unemployment, which can contribute to their situation.
As for the broader issue of homelessness, it’s clear that a comprehensive and compassionate approach is needed to address the root causes and provide effective solutions. This approach may include increasing access to affordable housing, expanding mental health and addiction services, and providing job training and employment opportunities for homeless individuals.
The Supreme Court now has the issue, and the Lord only knows what they will come up with. But no doubt Texas will pass a law ordering the execution of all homeless people after 30 days of being homeless.
Indeed, the economic conditions at the end of Trump’s term were challenging due to the pandemic, and Biden inherited an economy facing significant headwinds. The pandemic’s impact on the economy was unprecedented, affecting employment, consumption, and global demand.
However, public perception and political narratives often prioritize certain aspects of an administration’s performance while downplaying others. People’s opinions become shaped by various factors, including media coverage, partisan affiliation, personal experiences, and messaging from political leaders.
Trump had shut down the United States of America, a fact that nearly every American forgets today. They need to remember the closed stores, the empty shelves, the closed restaurants, the doctor’s office that had to refuse patients, hospitals that were so full no one could visit, and nursing homes where loved ones had to stand outside and wave to loved ones from the street, and Funeral Homes so full they were using rental refrigerator trucks to store bodies—the toilet paper shortages. That was Trump’s Administration. Biden had to clean it up. He received much blame for what must occur to get the nation back on track. But he got to work, and the country got back to life.
Here are a few points to consider when thinking about why public opinion might differ between Trump and Biden regarding the economy:
Partisan Bias: Political affiliations can heavily influence people’s views on the economy. Republicans may be more inclined to credit Trump for positive economic developments during his term and blame external factors like the pandemic for any downturns. Conversely, Democrats may be more critical of Trump’s handling of the economy and more forgiving of the challenges Biden faced upon taking office.
Messaging and Framing: Political leaders and media outlets shape public opinion. How economic data and policies get reported can influence people’s perceptions of the economy’s performance. Trump was known for touting positive economic indicators during his term, influencing public perception despite the broader challenges.
Another significant factor that shapes public opinion on the economy is personal experience. People’s direct economic situations, such as job loss, financial hardship, or financial gains, can profoundly impact their views. For instance, someone who experienced a job loss or financial hardship during Trump’s term might have a negative view of his economic policies. Conversely, if someone benefited from tax cuts or saw their investments grow, they might have a more positive perception. Complexity of Economic Issues: Economic conditions are influenced by a multitude of factors, including global trends, monetary policy, fiscal policy, and more. It can be challenging for the average person to parse through these complexities and assign credit or blame to a particular administration accurately.
In conclusion, public opinion on the economy is multifaceted, and partisan biases could dominate messaging, personal experiences, and the complexity of economic issues. While the data presented paints a challenging economic picture at the end of Trump’s term, public perception is by broader factors. And it is conveniently forgotten!
Billy Idol was doing a cover of “Mony Mony“…a song written and performed originally by Tommy James and the Shondells in 1968. The meaning of MonyMony is simply…Mutual of New York Insurance Company. M-O-N-Y.
Tommy James explained in an interview: “Originally, we did the track without a song. And the idea was to create a party rock record; in 1968 that was pretty much of a throwback to the early ’60s. Nobody was making party rock records really in 1968, those big-drum-California-sun-what-I-sing-money-type songs. And so I wanted to do a party rock record.
And we went in the studio, and we pasted this thing together out of drums here, and a guitar riff here. It was called sound surgery, and we finally put it together in probably a month. We had most of the words to the song, but we still had no title. And it’s just driving us nuts, because we’re looking for like a ‘Sloopy’ or some crazy name – it had to be a two-syllable girl’s name that was memorable and silly and kind of stupid sounding. So we knew what kind of a word we had, it’s just that everything we came up with sounded so bad. So Ritchie Cordell, my songwriting partner and I, are up in my apartment up at 888 Eighth Avenue in New York. And finally we get disgusted, we throw our guitars down, we go out on the terrace, we light up a cigarette, and we look up into the sky. And the first thing our eyes fall on is the Mutual of New York Insurance Company. M-O-N-Y. True story. With a dollar sign in the middle of the O, and it gave you the time and the temperature.
I had looked at this thing for years, and it was sitting there looking me right in the face. We saw this at the same time, and we both just started laughing. We said, ‘That’s perfect! What could be more perfect than that?’ Mony, M-O-N-Y, Mutual of New York. And so we must have laughed for about ten minutes, and that became the title of the song.”
The Story Of My Grandparents May Hold Guiding Strengths For Us Today
(gifted clock)
The story of my grandparents’ union goes back to August 10th, 1910. They wed on the Caddo and Washita County Line near where SH-152 is today, West of Cobb Creek. On that day, my grandfather, Benjamin Harrison Groff I., known as “Pop,” and my grandmother, Florence Lula McElroy, known as “Mom,” received a clock from Pop’s brother-in-law and sister, John and Laura Alice Groff Dowty. A piece of further history, Pop’s father was born in Switzerland, and Mom’s Father came into the world in Louisianna before its statehood.
It was in 1908 that Florence traveled with some of her siblings to the area to visit her brother Jim, who had married into the McLemore family. While visiting, she met Benjamin and fell in love; in those days, Ben was to ask her father for a hand in marriage before asking the bride. But Florence’s father was in that 3-state area of Texas, Oklahoma, and Arkansas and unable to travel due to his age. Economically, the to-be groom could not travel to the area. So, the agreement was that the bride’s oldest brother, John, would come to Eakly and consider Benjamin’s request for her hand in marriage. And John rode a horse from far southeast Oklahoma to Eakly, Oklahoma, for the request. The answer must have been yes because they wed.
Mom’s family lived in Southwest Arkansas, Southeast Oklahoma, and parts of Northeast Texas. They were within rock-throwing distance, and they never knew which state they were in. Her father was a Baptist preacher who led a fire and brimstone ministry and led by strict rule. He had fought in the Civil War, but on which side I never knew. The only answer I ever got was, “he fought on the right side.” There were twelve kids in the McElroy family. Some of them were dead by old age when I was born in 1963.
Groff BARN
The Groff family migrated from Illinois, where Pop’s father was a farmer. He was known for having a huge barn in the community. It is one of the only to have been built by his sons and stands without a single piece of iron or nail. The Groff Barn built by Ulrich Groff and his sons remained put together using carpentry skills Ulrich Groff’s father taught him from the old land as late as 2000.
Above a rowdy bunch together the Groff Brothers who built the all wood barn in Illinois, in the 1800s.
OTIS GROFF
in 1905 two sons, Otis and Benjamin, took advantage of the opening of land in Oklahoma and claimed property west of Cobb Creek, north of SH-152 and Highway 58. It was then known as 41 Highway and Alfalfa Road. The brothers built two homes; Benjamin’s was on the property where, over sixty-five years later, the baseball player from Eakly, Michael Moore, and his family would live. It is the same home where the couple, Mom and Pop, would later raise three children and adopt another unofficially, taking in others in need. The father of the boys, Ulrich, came to Oklahoma, but word was he was afraid of being attacked by Indians, so he went back to Illinois.
(Mom & Pop Wedding Day)
On the day of their wedding, sitting in a buggy along a dirt road west of Cobb Creek, a photographer was on hand to record an image of the couple, and then John Dowty handed them a new clock he had bought from a hardware store in Eakly. To keep their love from running out of time. The clock remained in their home, ticking every day since.
The couple had three children: Bennie Ulridge, Dortha Eliouse, and JD.
JD GROFF 14YOA. 1936
My dad, JD, is named after John Dowty. But the Mom and Pop wished to honor a man known as either Big John Dowty or Uncle John Dowty by using just the two initials, without an abbreviation. It sometimes appeared as a curse for my dad because he would go through life telling people who placed periods with J and D that they had incorrectly spelled his name. I have heard him say, “It’s two letters, and you mess it up!”
Ben H. ‘Pop’ Groff I
The Clock: Even after retiring from their farm and moving to town, they took the clock, which remained essential to their lives. It remained running, being cleaned at a clock repair once, only when Mom and Pop watched over the repair man like hawks. When they passed, it came to my parent’s home, where it sat on the fireplace mantel and went silent. When the day came for our family to sell our homeplace, I retrieved the clock and brought it to Arizona. My first task was to clean it. It keeps time great. It is picky and must be balanced, and its ticker has to be ‘set’ at just the right spot, or it will stop. It is picky about the key turning the spring up tight. The springs are old. So it is like an old violin and has to be handled with kid gloves. The wood is brittle and old, and the design is very ornate. It may not be to the liking of every modern setting. But, it is over one hundred years old and dear. And it holds many hours of memories of sitting at my grandparents, hearing its tick-tock, listening to their stories, worries, and hopes for the day.
Mom & Pop Groff
The older people were our glue. They would hold yearly family reunions after the harvest had ended. Celebrate every holiday grandly and make weekends and summers the most incredible escapes. Plus, they oozed with class and style. The character and morals they possessed are qualities sorely missed and that are needed today as we try to soar in this world of divided opinions.
When Good Guys And Gals Still Finished First. They Were Made To.
JD Groff & his Horse My Molly’s Reed
My dad was known for doing such things unselfishly. He had a reputation throughout Western Oklahoma as a trustworthy horseman and businessman. I found this article while going through clippings. I discovered that it had been stored in an attic at my parent’s home after my mother sold it to move in with relatives due to her age. I was born in 1963 and have never heard this story. I had listened to my grandmother speak of a story in national newspapers about my dad helping a man, but I thought it had something to do with his being in World War II. He never spoke much of the past and only looked to the future. Something that I became used to and have often found myself doing until I found boxes of memories that took me into the lives of my parents and grandparents and a life that I am proud of bragging about.
(The following piece was first presented on Quora when a question was poised by a Trump supporter.)
I’m a little perplexed by your attitude here – why does it need to be so adversarial?
Let’s be straight here, though: Democrats don’t want to stop you voting for whoever you please. That’s the nature of a democracy: everybody gets a voice, and you can use that voice as you see fit. If you want to vote for Donald Trump, go right ahead – just know that you’re telling us quite a bit about yourself when you make that choice, and it’s not a positive one.
This is the part, I suspect, that some Republicans don’t understand. Democrats largely wouldn’t want to stop you from voting, although we can’t say the same for Republicans, because they do want to stop people voting, judging by all the state-level attempts at voter suppression. What we want is for you to stop making such god-awful decisions when you do vote. We want you to pick someone that raises your aspirations and wants something better for you, rather than the lowest common denominator.
We get it: you want to “own the libs”, and you want someone that will aggressively go after those people who don’t agree with you. I can understand that: you guys don’t like your lifestyle or beliefs being challenged, and when you feel that way, you probably feel under threat, and the response some will take in that situation is to lash out. You’re letting people like Donald Trump do that on your behalf.
Problem is, when you make decisions like that, you’re only thinking about yourself or your local bubble, rather than what’s best for everyone. The United States isn’t a religious, social or political monoculture: it’s an inclusive society that has a diverse range of beliefs, opinions and choices. Any effective government exists not to promote just the well-being of a single group (e.g. white ‘conservative’ Christians), but rather to promote what’s best for everybody.
Your choices aren’t something I’d consider laudable: I won’t stop you making them, because you have to let people make mistakes in order to learn from them. But you’re out of your mind if you don’t think I won’t advocate better choices, or at least encourage you to see your mistakes for what they are.
So, by all means, vote for Donald Trump if you must, but recognise that I’ll disagree with your choice, and encourage you to make better ones. When I look at who to vote for, I’ll always aim for the person who has higher aspirations for the country, for who has a clear desire to break past partisan bickering and legislative logjam, and aim to do what’s best for everyone, including you. You and I both know that Donald Trump is mostly out there to do what’s best for himself, and that you’re okay with that provided he hurts those you don’t agree with.
Just remember that these things have a way of backfiring. You put an aggressive, adversarial and ignorant President into office, particularly one known for cheating, philandering and lying his ass off, and it’s only a matter of time before he turns against you, particularly if he doesn’t feel the need for you anymore.
I think you can do better. Actually, I think you must do better. That’s what being a “true American” is all about, after all: striving towards something that was better than what came before it. It’s rather worrying that too many Americans have forgotten that.
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About Gays And Why Laws, Book Bans, School Boards, And Other Restrictions Attempting To Bash And Attempted Genocide Against Queer Peoples Won’t Stop More People From Increasing The Populations In The LGBTQI Community!
We all remember that day. It may be a Spring afternoon following a light rain shower, with flowers peaking from beneath their winter hiding place for a first glimpse of the season’s sun. There we sit. We were pondering between the two choices. Will we be straight or gay? Surely everyone remembers that day, for if it is a choice, everyone faces the same options. You can choose both, they say. That needs to be clarified.
To be or not to be, when we were teens, first discovering who we were, for some, it was challenging to accept, and it took years for those who grew up in communities that were closed-minded and set to one way of life to finally get into their head that they were who they are and not who others expected them to be. They had tried to take the path of least resistance and attempted to take the straight route, not given another choice. But every piece of their biological body screamed at them, telling them something wasn’t right. They were misleading others, lying every minute of their life, and never being their true selves. They either had to leave and be their authentic self or die. Some tried to marry, but after a period, the inner madness kept them from carrying on, and their either killed themselves, came out and took the hell and damnation from the small communities in which they lived, or packed up and disappeared. Many may have turned to alcohol or drugs, appearing to believe it was better to be an addict than what they felt was their true self. If they were lucky, they met their soul mate and were rescued from the prison that so many are forced into by a society that is cruel and judgmental of others. Fortunately for others, they meet their lifemates just out of high school. They seem to know how to manage the world around them and find a world to live and operate in a life they would have otherwise missed out on, creating long-term relationships and being grateful things turned out as they do. They would not have wished to miss on so much love and so many adventures.
Forty-one years later, another couple still see simple rights afforded to their neighbors, rights that are threatened to be stripped from them by bigoted and power-hungry maga-republicans. So a question is asked to these groups suggesting they can kill off the gays. When did they choose to be straight? And, why is allowing this couple to live in peace so bad?
All the books, movies, and internet sites in the world may get banned; however, that will not stop the same amount of new homosexual and bisexual men and women from populating the earth each year. Some evil act does not make them. They are born, just like the couple you are reading about.Just like you!
One couple originates from small towns in Western Oklahoma. Growing up, they were never acquainted with gay anything. Both were church-attending, straight-laced lads all the way. Still, each began slowly dying from living in a suppressive community that had conditioned them to believe they were the worst people on the earth and were going to Hell. That worked until they met after high school and finally began to breathe life through one another. It took a lifetime to overcome the damage God-fearing sermons placed on them. They chose to move to a larger city and begin to grow privately, not making themselves the center attraction of life, but their community knew they coupled. As life continued, so did their love and energy, and now they live in a retirement community. But their rights are under threat daily. Because their property, retirement, and physical and fiscal security are in danger by daily threats of changing laws and bigotry. Research has discovered there should be signs on every front door of any religious establishment reading “for entertainment purposes only, because it does not produce a benefit for the community as a whole, just for the few!”
So When Did You Choose Your Sexual Preference?
And To Screw With It Would Cause Extinction!
This passionate talk from Dr. James O’Keefe, MD, gives us a deeply personal and fascinating insight into why homosexuality is a necessary and instrumental cog in nature’s perfection.
Research shows those making up the LGBTQI Communities are responsible for keeping the human race alive.
So When Did You Decide? When Did You Make Your Decision On Who To Be?
LGBTQI? It Is Natures Response To Maintaining The Magic Balance In Life – And To Screw With It Would Cause Extinction.
Maintaining The Magic Balance In Life
For those desiring more proof that the existence of gays is “born” to history and that the members of the LGBTQI Community do not simply choose to be Gay, this history lesson may help if you are an individual with a mind with enough room to learn new and factual information.
Another way to arrive at the understanding of whether LGBTQI members are born or are made of people choosing a lifestyle, ask yourself when you decided to be heterosexual (straight). What day did you choose between the options available and determine what life you wanted? Then consider who would ever pick a life where their being would face prejudices, denial of employment, housing, and services if they had a choice not to have to face the constant bigotry bashing them daily.
If you believe in a Higher Authority, a God. If this is your premise and you still object to these beings walking the earth, take it up with Him. When you do, if you believe scripture, consider Genesis 1:26-28, which announces that human beings are unique and all are in the image of God.
§Then God said, 'Let us make man in our image, according to our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the sky and the cattle and over all the earth. Genesis 1:26-28
IF HE IS TRUE. AND THERE IS AN ALMIGHTY. AND HE DID SOMETHING WRONG IN DESIGNING CERTAIN INDIVIDUALS TO BE DIFFERENT. THEN YOU SHOULD TELL HIM HE IS WRONG!
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If you are God Fearing, then this message is for you!–Our supposed sins will not send you to Hell. But God will ask about yours, i.e., judging others, planting seeds of strife. So the sins you commit are the only ones you should be concerned with. We are fine in answering to the top, should there be anything to comment on. You take care of your side of the street. We will tend to ours!
A poster of Demi Lovato wearing a black colored bondage-style outfit and lying on a crucifix-shaped bed is being banished for causing offenseiveness to Christians.
The title of the singer’s new album clearly alluded to a swear word and, together with the image, linked sexuality to a sacred symbol, the UK’s advertising watchdog found.
Polydor Records said it was artwork designed to promote the album and did not believe it to be offensive.
The poster received four complaints. And, now days that is all it takes!
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Now as I turn life a page To the land of the great Osage In those Oklahoma hills where I was born, While the black oil it rolls and flows And the snow-white cotton grows In those Oklahoma hills where I was born.
There is an old song called Oklahoma Hills that can carry me home before I have finished my first cup of coffee. It brings back the oak and blackjack trees, the open country, and that prairie breeze.
Although whoever called it a breeze must have been standing indoors.
I remember that Oklahoma wind well. I wore enough of it on my face to develop chapped lips, and I carried enough of the countryside home in my clothes that somebody probably should have checked me for property taxes.
Some of my strongest memories come from working in the peanut fields as a teenager. But the work began long before that. By eleven, I was helping my dad, driving either a tractor or a truck. When you weren’t in school, there was usually something that needed doing.
Looking back, that was a lot of responsibility for a boy that age. At the time, though, we didn’t spend much time discussing it. It took all of us to make it, and everybody had a part.
When I wasn’t helping Dad, I might be with my brother-in-law, moving irrigation pipe in the summer, feeding cattle, or sacking peanuts in the fall. When I first started filling those sacks, a full one nearly weighed as much as I did.
And it was dirty work.
The wind blew across those fields as though somebody had left a gate open clear up to Kansas. By ten in the morning, it seemed we could depend on a thirty-mile-an-hour breeze. By afternoon, forty or more.
At least that is how I remember it. I was the one standing out there getting sandblasted.
I tried everything I could think of to get out of that wind. I would use the tractor to move the peanut bins around so they would give me a little protection from the southwest. About the time I got settled, the wind would swing around and come straight out of the west.
So I would move things again.
Then it would blow from the south.
I began to suspect it was watching me.
If you have ever driven through western Oklahoma, you may have noticed trees that look as though they have spent their entire lives trying to get to the northeast. The southwest wind had worked on some of ours for so long that they simply grew that way.
Even the trees had learned there wasn’t much point arguing.
I would come home at night with grit in my mouth, dirt in my hair, and sand in places that had been fully covered all day. Sometimes getting clean required two baths.
The first was to rinse off the field.
The second was to take a bath in water that didn’t have the field floating in it.
Somewhere between moving those peanut bins and emptying that bathtub, I swore I would someday find a way out of that wind.
It took Steve and me several years after we met, but eventually we did move away. Family remained back home, so there were still reasons to return. Leaving a place doesn’t mean you stop belonging to the people there.
Besides, there was an airline out of Texas called Southwest. I always figured the Oklahoma wind had blown it down there.
I have traveled many miles since those days. The houses we once called home are gone now. I can still picture them, though, and remember what it felt like to arrive at the end of a long, dirty day.
I wanted out of those fields badly enough when I was young. I won’t pretend I was standing there admiring the scenery while the wind filled my mouth with sand. I was probably wondering how much longer we had to work.
But I remember my dad. I remember working alongside my brother-in-law. I remember being small enough that a sack of peanuts was a serious opponent, yet old enough to be counted on to help.
And I’m glad I can still remember.
That old song brings all of it back—the people, the work, the homes that are no longer standing, and a boy who was certain there had to be somewhere the wind didn’t blow quite so hard.
What a time it was, growing up in those Oklahoma hills.
Now, pass the coffee. If I’m going to sit here remembering those peanut fields, I’ll need something to wash the grit out of my mouth. Wait a minute, that might have been a peanut.
Tomorrow is Halloween, and I imagine some of you are ready for the scary movies to disappear from the television schedule. We have had enough haunted houses, rattling chains, and people investigating strange noises in basements they had no business entering.
Personally, I would have put the house up for sale during the opening credits.
But even after the Halloween movies retreat into storage, we will still have those political advertisements.
Apparently, some horrors have a larger advertising budget.
We are four days away from the United States midterm elections on Tuesday, November 3. Four more days of ominous music, unflattering photographs, and a voice warning us that somebody running for office intends to destroy everything we hold dear.
By now, I am surprised the candidates have not been accused of stealing Halloween candy directly from the mouths of children.
Give it another commercial break.
Before we get to Tuesday, though, there is another observance I try to acknowledge every year. Halloween, October 31, is All Hallows’ Eve—the evening before All Saints’ Day on November 1.
Beyond the costumes and candy, there is room in this season for remembrance. For thinking about those who came before us, the lives they lived, and what they left in our care.
I think about that responsibility when I consider what we are leaving for the people coming after us.
What will they learn from watching us? How to disagree? How to recognize the truth? How to accept an outcome we did not want?
Or simply how to shout louder?
One of my frustrations with political advertising is how much responsibility falls on the person sitting at home trying to sort through it. The Federal Trade Commission, which oversees truth in much commercial advertising, does not have jurisdiction over political advertisements. The FCC does not verify the accuracy of political claims before they air, either.
That does not make every accusation legally consequence-free. But it certainly leaves voters with a considerable amount of homework.
And most of us were only trying to watch a movie.
You hear an accusation. Then a denial. Then another advertisement explaining why the denial cannot be trusted. Somewhere in the middle, an actual voting record or statement may be buried beneath enough dramatic music to launch a horror franchise.
Sometimes the words are real, but the context has disappeared. Sometimes a vote against a bill becomes an accusation that someone opposed every worthwhile thing tucked inside it.
And sometimes a candidate says something troubling in plain language, only for supporters to spend the next week explaining why we should not believe our own ears.
Meanwhile, an unsupported accusation about the opponent travels around the neighborhood before the correction has its shoes on.
That is what wears people down. Eventually, some folks stop asking what is true and settle for whatever sounds right coming from their side.
I understand being tired. I am tired, too. But exhaustion is a poor reason to hand somebody else the responsibility for deciding what we believe.
My worry is that Tuesday will bring relief from the advertisements without bringing relief from the accusations.
I expect that if Democrats win close races, we will hear familiar claims from some Republicans that the election was stolen. That is my expectation, not a result we can know in advance. But I have grown weary of the suggestion that an election is trustworthy only when it produces the preferred winner.
A close race may warrant a recount under the applicable rules. An allegation of wrongdoing deserves examination when there is evidence behind it.
Disappointment alone proves nothing.
And counting ballots carefully takes time. We may go to bed Tuesday without knowing the outcome of every race. I would rather wait for an accurate count than demand a hurried answer simply because the television panel has run out of things to say.
So, as we move from Halloween into All Saints’ Day and then toward Election Day, perhaps we could give a little thought to what deserves our fear—and what deserves our attention.
Remember those who helped shape your life. Enjoy the children in their costumes. Save a little candy for yourself.
Then take your vote seriously enough to look beyond the commercial.
I am ready for the scary movies to end and the political advertisements to follow them out the door.
After that, I would appreciate one quiet morning when the most alarming thing on television is the price of a new refrigerator.
For me, one of those voices belonged to Roy Rodrick, calling horses through an auction ring long after most sensible people would have gone home to bed.
My dad wasn’t one of those sensible people.
Neither was I, apparently. I was usually sitting beside him.
Colonel Roy Leon Rodrick, known affectionately as “Dutch,” passed away October 26, 2026, in Lawton, Oklahoma. He was 95.
Reading about his passing brought back the sale barns in Anadarko and Mountain View, the familiar faces in the seats, and those long nights when Dad insisted we stay until the very last horse came through.
There was always the possibility that the next one would be the horse he had been waiting for.
And you certainly couldn’t leave before finding out.
Roy was born April 28, 1931, in Hobart, Oklahoma, to Harold and Mattie Rodrick. He grew up in the Carnegie area and attended Prairie Vale Public School. Over the years, he worked at several occupations, but auctioneering was the work that became his calling.
He spent more than fifty years at it.
That is a lot of horses, a lot of bidders, and a remarkable amount of talking.
Roy had the voice for it—and the staying power.
Dad and I bought many a head of horses at Anadarko and Mountain View. During the years Roy and Lois operated the Mountain View horse sale, Saturday nights meant a gathering of people who came to buy, sell, visit, or simply see what might come through the ring.
Dad generally managed to do all four.
He would bring a collection of friends along, settle into his seat, and make himself comfortable. We might be there until nearly sunrise, but if horses were still coming through, we were still watching.
And Roy was still calling.
I can remember being tired enough to wonder whether morning would arrive before we got home. Dad, meanwhile, seemed perfectly willing to wait out the whole business.
Somewhere among the horses still waiting their turn might be a good mare, a promising cutting horse, or a bargain he couldn’t reasonably be expected to leave behind.
At least that was the general philosophy.
Those nights became part of my education. I watched the horses, listened to the bids, and paid attention to the people who knew what they were looking at. There was plenty to learn if a boy could sit still long enough to notice.
I found some of the best mares and cutting horses I ever owned at those sales.
And if Roy gave his word from the auction ring that a horse was sound, you could count on it.
His word meant something to us. When you were spending money on a horse you expected to ride, work, or bring home to your family, that mattered.
Roy understood horses. He also understood the people buying them.
He traveled throughout Oklahoma and Texas, buying, selling, and trading. From the accounts of those who knew him, there wasn’t much he wouldn’t consider trading for, and he rarely passed up an opportunity to make a deal.
I suspect Dad appreciated that about him.
The two of them certainly shared an interest in seeing what might be available.
One Christmas, Dad and I left a family gathering in Sentinel and somehow ended up in Mountain View looking at horses.
I cannot tell you exactly how a Christmas visit turned into a horse-shopping expedition. With Dad, those changes in direction didn’t require much explanation.
Roy came out and showed the horses to us.
That simple visit has stayed with me all these years. I remember being there with Dad, looking at horses, and Roy taking the time to show them.
Looking back, I’m grateful for those ordinary hours. At the time, I had no reason to think I would still be remembering them more than half a century later.
On June 27, 1978, Roy married Minnie Lois McLemore in Wichita Falls, Texas. Together, they shared many years, operated the Mountain View horse sale, and eventually made their home in Cordell.
Lois was related to my father through the McLemore family. In our part of Oklahoma, family connections had a way of turning up wherever you went. Follow a name far enough, and somebody would explain how you were related.
Sometimes the explanation took longer than the drive home.
Roy also enjoyed visiting and telling stories. His family’s remembrance describes a man who could strike up a conversation with just about anyone, whether they had known him for years or had only just met him.
That seems fitting for someone who spent so much of his life bringing people together around an auction ring.
People came for the horses, but they came back for the company, too. Over time, those Saturday nights became a regular part of their lives. You knew where you were going, who you might see, and whose voice would be waiting when you got there.
For many of us, that voice was Roy’s.
He leaves behind a large family, including children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren, along with the many people who knew him through his years in the horse business.
Each will have a different story to tell.
Mine includes a pickup ride with Dad, a seat at the sale barn, and a long night watching horses come through the ring.
Roy Rodrick kept calling.
Dad kept watching.
And I was fortunate enough to be there beside him.
Rest well, Roy. Thank you for the good horses, the time you gave us, and the memories that have lasted all these years.
Find stories about horse sales by Benjamin and how they affected his life by searching here…some may truly surprise. At the auction barn Dutch was calling most of the sales!
As I began this morning’s edition, a notice came in warning about young people and cigarette smoking. It got me thinking about the strange appeal of anything somebody tells you not to do.
Every generation tests the boundaries. Put up a fence, and somebody wants to see what’s on the other side. Put up a sign saying “Keep Out,” and now you’ve given them somewhere to go Saturday night.
Sometimes I wonder whether we’ve been approaching things backward. Tell young people not to eat anything healthy, and perhaps they’ll sneak off somewhere with a salad. Tell them they’re forbidden to come home before midnight, and they might be sitting on the couch by ten.
I wouldn’t build a parenting manual around that theory. But I have seen worse ideas put into practice.
I had five older siblings. All of them had curfews. Usually, they broke them. And usually, there were consequences severe enough that you would have thought the next one might learn something.
Apparently, each preferred to conduct an independent investigation.
By the time I reached the age when my siblings had begun campaigning for their freedom, my parents didn’t set a curfew for me.
The people most upset about this were my adult siblings.
They didn’t think it was fair.
I explained that I wasn’t out doing the things they had been doing.
That did very little to improve their attitude toward my freedom.
To this day, I don’t know why my parents were more relaxed with me. Maybe they trusted me. Maybe they were tired. Maybe, after raising the first five, they looked at the sixth and thought, “What’s the use?”
I preferred the trust explanation. My siblings probably had other theories.
There was another little difference between my childhood and theirs. I had been an uncle since I was five years old. My parents were already grandparents while they still had a young child of their own to raise.
That family arithmetic entertained me considerably.
As I got older, I enjoyed reminding them that, depending on how quickly the next generations got started, they could conceivably become great-great-grandparents before I turned twenty-five.
I thought that was a remarkable possibility, deserving of thoughtful discussion.
After leaving home my greatest Halloween – Trick or Treat, was getting Steven. But I never tell him that. Forty four years later, I still want him to think he got me…
Forty-Four Years Later, He’s Still Sitting Next to Me
Forty-four years ago, Steve and I sat in a movie theater together for the first time, not knowing that someday we would be sitting next to one another in Phoenix, Arizona, listening to a doctor tell us we needed to balance our A1C.
Back then, we were more concerned about surviving the movie.
It was Halloween III: Season of the Witch, and it was new. So were we, although we weren’t actually a “we” just yet.
Being a bit of a rube, I screamed at things that probably wouldn’t interrupt our hound dog’s nap today. But what the movie lacked in lasting terror, I apparently supplied for the folks sitting in front of us. My sudden outbursts sent them scrambling out of their seats.
They had paid to be frightened by something on the screen. I was providing additional services from behind.
Steve says that was when he fell in love with me.
He didn’t anything about me yet. Apparently, the screaming made an impression. Some people catch someone’s eye across a crowded room. I startled an entire section of a theater. Because of that. And, the laughter it created, Steve and I meandered back to our hotel talking about how I wasn’t prepared for the shows gimmicks.
Then hours later, it was Joan Rivers with The Tonight Show on television. In a full sized single bed at a Holiday Inn off Interstate 40 and Meridian in Oklahoma City. That was where the fellow from the theater became someone, who had come to see if the haunting of the theater was over? And if I needed somone to protect me? I being naturally curious as an investigator. I had to decide, if it is someone I wanted to know better? Which I had already decided it was.
Forty-four years later, I suppose you could say that worked out.
I begin here because this is the story folks ask us about around Halloween. Most couples have a romantic song that takes them back to the beginning. Something tender. Something you could slow dance to without anyone questioning your judgment.
Somewhere, there are couples celebrating their beginnings with candlelight and a beautiful love song. We hear that little Halloween tune, and I remember frightening strangers while my future husband apparently decided I had possibilities.
It does explain a few things about us.
Which brings us to the Halloween photograph accompanying this story. A pumpkin stretched across the garage door seems appropriate for a household whose love story began with Halloween III. Other folks can put out a tasteful wreath. We have a history to live up to.
Besides, after forty-four years, Halloween has some competition in the frightening department. There are medical appointments, lab results, and conversations about whether something has too much sugar in it.
We have reached the age when the candy comes with a discussion.
Still, there is something wonderful about looking at the person sitting beside you and remembering him when all of this was ahead of you. Before you knew the ordinary routines you would share. Before the moves, the dogs, the laughter, and the difficult days when having someone beside you would matter more than you could have understood in that theater.
I couldn’t have imagined our life in Arizona. I certainly wasn’t thinking about A1C.
I was trying to get through the movie.
And Steve, for reasons he has had forty-four years to reconsider, wanted to meet the fellow doing all that screaming.
I’m glad he did.
Happy Halloween, folks. If you hear a scream coming from our direction, it could be another scary movie.
Two people can share a home, a life, and a deep love without sharing every opinion. Making room for honest disagreement—and listening when it gets uncomfortable—can help us understand the person sitting across the kitchen table. Or not!
Good morning, coffee drinkers, orange juice squeezers, and milk lovers! Whatever is in your cup, pull up a chair. This morning, we might disagree about something.
And that might be perfectly all right.
Photo by Mikhail Nilov on Pexels.com. “Don’t Go Breaking My Heart…I Couldn’t If I Tried…”
I have long believed that a loving relationship needs room for a civilized argument now and then. Two people can love each other deeply and still look at the same situation and wonder how on earth the other person arrived at that conclusion.
You share a home. You share a life. That doesn’t mean you share a brain.
One of you sees an opportunity. The other sees a bill coming. One thinks a decision is perfectly reasonable. The other would have appreciated hearing about it before it became a decision.
Then come those familiar words:
“You did what?”
Suddenly, whatever was on television has lost its audience.
Sometimes it starts with an innocent mistake. Something forgotten. A message misunderstood. An errand that somehow required three explanations and still came home wrong.
Other times, the matter is serious. Money spent without discussion. A promise broken. A decision made by one person that affects both.
Whatever started it, there comes a moment when the conversation can go in several directions. We can explain ourselves. We can listen. Or we can begin preparing a declaration of war over the kitchen counter.
It is remarkably easy to choose that last one when our feelings are hurt.
We stop discussing what happened and begin presenting evidence about the person who did it. “You forgot”
“You forgot”
becomes “You never think about anybody but yourself.”
“You never think about anybody but yourself.”
Before long, an incident from years ago has been called to testify.
Now we have two arguments going: the one about the original problem and the one about what we just said to each other.
I think this is where the civilized part takes some work.
Being angry doesn’t excuse being cruel. And loving someone doesn’t require agreeing with everything they say. There ought to be room to say, “That hurt me,” or “I think you made a mistake,”
“That hurt me,” or “I think you made a mistake,”
without either person having to wonder whether the whole relationship is about to be put on trial.
There also has to be room for an answer.
That can be the difficult part. We may be so busy defending what we meant that we never hear what the other person experienced.
“I didn’t mean it that way”
“I didn’t mean it that way” might be true. So might “Well, that is how it felt.”
“Well, that is how it felt.”
Both deserve a hearing.
An innocent mistake may need an explanation, an apology, and a little grace. A serious breach of trust may require changed behavior and time. We cannot settle every disagreement by deciding that nobody meant any harm and putting another pot of coffee on.
But we cannot settle much if nobody is allowed to speak, either.
A quiet house can be peaceful. It can also hold two people who have given up trying to be heard. Sometimes the subject we keep avoiding is the very conversation we need to have.
Perhaps we need to say,
“I am too upset to talk about this properly right now. Let’s come back to it after supper.”
Then we need to come back after supper.
That pause ought to give us time to find our words, with enough care left in them to remember who will be listening.
I don’t believe couples need to manufacture arguments to keep a relationship healthy. Life supplies enough differences without our help. I do believe we need to be able to disagree honestly when those differences arrive.
Sometimes that means admitting we were wrong. Sometimes it means accepting that the other person has a point we would rather they hadn’t thought of.
And sometimes, even after a good conversation, we still see things differently. At least now we understand a little more about why.
When Steve and I moved to Arizona, we were fairly certain we had left most of the crazy weather behind us.
After Oklahoma and Kansas, sunshine and desert scenery sounded like a reasonable trade. I knew Arizona had its own weather problems. But somewhere in my thinking was the comforting notion that tornado country was now behind us.
More than two decades later, watching reports from Heber-Overgaard, that comfort has taken a considerable beating.
The community suffered substantial damage during a suspected tornado Wednesday evening, October 21. Reports described damaged buildings, fallen trees, downed power lines, and residents suddenly facing the work of putting their lives back together.
For those folks, the storm is already much more than a question waiting for an official answer.
During my years in law enforcement, I watched storms develop over the Oklahoma prairie. I have seen threatening clouds begin to rotate, watched funnels descend, and seen what happens when that circulation reaches the ground and starts tearing the daylights out of whatever stands in its way.
Those experiences stay with you.
When I look at storm damage now, I look for a story in what was left behind. Where did the debris travel? Which direction did the trees fall? Does the destruction follow a narrow track? Why did one building suffer so much while another nearby escaped?
Those questions matter. But experience also means recognizing that the first explanation is not always the complete explanation.
Powerful downbursts can produce damage that resembles tornado damage. Survey teams examine the broader pattern, including debris direction, structural damage, radar records, and witness accounts, to determine what happened. That work establishes both the cause and the strength of the winds.
Waiting for that determination can be frustrating, especially when the pictures look convincing. Still, the survey involves more than deciding whether to attach an EF1 or EF2 rating to an obvious tornado.
There is another distinction worth making. A tornado does not destroy a house simply by creating a vacuum. Violent winds, flying debris, and the failure of parts of a building cause the destruction. A collapsed roof, by itself, cannot settle the question of what kind of wind struck it.
Radar has its own limits. A hook echo can indicate a rotating storm with conditions favorable for tornado development. It does not, by itself, establish that a tornado is on the ground.
That does not make the danger any less real. It means the evidence deserves careful interpretation.
I also had to reconsider something about my adopted home: tornadoes are unusual here, but they are not new. The National Weather Service describes the October 2010 outbreak as the largest in Arizona history. We had already been living here for years when it happened.
Apparently, moving away from tornado country did not come with the guarantee I thought it did.
Climate change belongs in the larger conversation, too. But connecting a particular tornado to global warming requires more than pointing to an unusual storm.
45/47 TREETOPLER We*The RADARX With cutbacks by the Trump Administration weather forecasting may see budget reduced to primative restrictions.
NOAA identificatioin continuing is still a uncertainty about how climate change affects tornado activity. We can take a warming world seriously while being precise about what any single event tells us.
What concerns me most is how easily unfamiliar weather becomes weather we dismiss.
Folks prepare for what they remember. When a threat seems to belong somewhere else, it is easy to believe there must be some mistake when it arrives at your door.
I understand that thinking. I brought a little of it to Arizona myself.
The families cleaning up in Heber-Overgaard deserve answers, assistance, and time to recover. Their experience also deserves our attention long after the storm footage disappears from television.
We can choose where we live. We can decide which weather we prefer.
The weather, unfortunately, has never agreed to honor the arrangement. In recent day the National Weather Service has confirmed the storm that hit Heber-Overgaard did produce a EF-1 Tornado resulting in the areas damage to property. The report states it was rated an EF1. The tornado touched down and stayed on the ground for 9.25 miles and 11 minutes. This tornado was about 350 yards wide. Officials said one person was injured. That wasn’t the conclusion of the report.
On Wednesday morning at 7:32 a.m., officials said an EF1 tornado touched down near Prescott with max winds of 105 mph. It stayed on the ground for 8 miles and 14 minutes. It was about 300 yards wide. No injuries were reported.
Based on the Enhanced Fujita (EF) Scale, which rates tornadoes by estimated wind speed on a 0-5 scale, both tornadoes were rated EF1.
Arizona recorded at least 15 tornado warnings this week, according to the National Weather Service.
“That’s a large number for Arizona,” said meteorologist Mark O’Malley with the National Weather Service’s Phoenix office.
On Wednesday, it was the first time two tornados had touched down doing significant damage in two Arizona communities ever on the same day, in the history of weather record keeping. That is concerning to officials studying the changing effects on weather patterns in Arizona.
The damage reports may continue to be reviewed. But it appears that Arizona may not have seen the last of its unwelcome weather.
Does anyone have any information about the weather year round in Costa Rica?
Go-go boots, a stack of 45s, and a living room turned dance floor. My sisters did the dancing. I kept the records spinning. Who knew “It’s My Party” would give me a philosophy to carry through life? Pour a cup, folks. There’s another record waiting to drop.
Good morning, coffee drinkers! Have you ever heard an old song and suddenly remembered an entire room?
Not just the music. The furniture. The people. Even what they were wearing.
For me, it’s my sisters in their go-go boots, dancing across the living room like they had landed a spot on one of those groovy television shows. Meanwhile, I had an important job: keeping the records playing.
Our record player lived inside a gigantic piece of furniture that also housed the speakers and an AM-FM radio. It took up enough room that you might have expected it to sleep overnight guests.
It played three speeds—33⅓, 45, and 78—but the numbers weren’t what interested me. I wanted to load the automatic changer and watch it work. One record finished, another dropped into place, and the show continued.
There were records belonging to my parents and an uncle who lived with us. I never knew exactly whose were whose. Once the grown-ups were gone and we were home from school, ownership became less important than what we wanted to hear next.
My sisters provided the dancing. I provided the entertainment. Whether they appreciated my musical judgment is another story.
There was “L.A. International Airport,” with those big jet engines, and “Galveston” when the mood settled down a little. “Judy’s Turn to Cry” and “Runaway” had their turns, too.
But the one that stuck with me was “It’s My Party.”
I wasn’t particularly concerned with the romantic trouble unfolding in the song. I liked the declaration: it was your party, and if you wanted to cry, you could.
That sounded like a useful policy.
Even as a kid, I could imagine occasions when somebody might really tick me off and I would need to explain that my feelings were my own business. Here was a record doing the explaining for me. All I had to do was put it on.
Of course, childhood gives you only a small preview of the occasions when you might want to invoke that rule.
Life eventually supplies the rest.
Plans fall apart. People disappoint you. Something you thought would last forever ends before you’re ready. And sometimes you’re simply having a rotten afternoon without the energy to pretend otherwise.
On those days, that old song still makes a reasonable argument.
You can have your cry. You can let the record play through. Nobody says you have to be ready to dance just because everybody else is.
What stays with me most, though, is that living room: my sisters dancing, another record waiting to drop, and me enjoying my position as the person in charge of what came next.
I couldn’t have known how often those songs would follow me through life—or how differently I would hear them later.
Fortunately, my Johnny always came back to me.
But now I’m getting into “Judy’s Turn to Cry,” and that’s another record altogether.
Have another sip, folks. I’ll see what’s next on the stack.
Good morning, coffee drinkers! Have you ever lost something that mattered to you? Or screwed up so badly that even your dog wanted a little distance? And if you’re a cat person, did your cat refuse to look at you for a whole week?
Of course, with cats, it can be hard to tell whether you’ve disappointed them or they’re just keeping regular office hours.
Perhaps it was someone you loved, a friendship you depended on, or work you believed would carry you into the future. Sometimes a loss leaves an empty place where certainty used to be.
We encounter these moments at different stages of life, often before we feel prepared for them. A child losing a dear friend discovers something no child should have to learn so soon. The unexpected death of a grandparent can change the familiar comfort of childhood. Years later, losing a parent may bring grief that takes longer to understand than we first realize.
Over time, we may become more familiar with loss. Familiarity does not make it easy, but experience can help us find our footing. We begin to understand that making peace with an absence does not mean forgetting what someone meant to us.
Other losses are harder to name. There may be no funeral, no farewell, and no clear moment when everyone recognizes that something has ended. A career changes direction. A purpose is interrupted. Work we believed mattered remains unfinished, along with questions that may never be answered.
Those endings can be difficult to accept because their consequences may reach beyond the person who experienced them. Others may have depended on that work or benefited from what it might have accomplished. We cannot know everything that would have followed, but we can recognize the value of giving worthwhile efforts a fair chance.
Perhaps part of finding peace is accepting that some chapters will remain unfinished. We can acknowledge what was lost, remember why it mattered, and carry that sense of purpose into whatever we still have the opportunity to do.
Good morning Coffee Drinkers. And if you are grandchildren, or children of pipe smoking folks, or maybe fathers and grandfathers. I had a flashback the other day. And it is a great way to start the day. It takes me back to the 1960s and early 1970s.
I was having a difficult time getting past writer’s block until The Other, the 1972 movie, came on. I’ve seen it numerous times, though I’m not exactly sure why. Usually, I’m doing something else while it plays in the background. Yet here it was again—and today, a familiar sound caught my attention.
The rattle of a Prince Albert tobacco can.
That sound took me straight back to childhood. My grandfather would hand me his empty cans, and I would fill them with all the necessities a child could find. Treasures, mostly. Then I’d run across the yard carrying them, announcing every step.
You could not sneak up on a sibling, a friend hiding from you, or the family pet. A Prince Albert can gave you away every time.
It wasn’t much help when you were hiding from your parents after some disastrous deed, either. Mom or Dad could follow that rattle as though they had sonar. Especially if you were trying to sit perfectly still but were shaking, scared to death.
Those cans had a scent all their own. The tobacco aroma faded over time, leaving the smell of an old tin, but you never quite stopped lifting the flap and poking your nose inside for another whiff. And somewhere along the way, you wondered just what Albert had done to become a prince.
An empty can could keep you occupied for hours. When you were little, it helped keep you out of trouble. As you got older, Prince Albert offered another opportunity.
Prank phone calls.
I couldn’t tell you how many times we called the local grocer and asked,
“Do you have Prince Albert in a can?”
“Yes, we do.”
“Well, you’d better let him out! He’s going to suffocate!”
Then we’d hang up, convinced we had pulled off something brilliant.
There was no caller ID to announce which kid was responsible. Looking back, the grocer probably heard that same joke ten times a day and patiently humored every one of us. We thought we were fooling him. I suspect he knew more than we gave him credit for.
That was about the extent of the mischief in my little world. No threats. No settling scores. Just a familiar joke, a patient grocer, and children who could find an afternoon’s entertainment in an empty tobacco can.
I hope others were lucky enough to know something like it.
And today, all these years later, that little can found one more use: it rattled a memory loose and gave me something to write about.
For the record Prince Albert was born a prince as the second son of Ernest I, Duke of Saxe-Coburg-Gotha (in Germany), and later received his formal British title of Prince Consort when Queen Victoria formally designated him as such in 1857.Prince Albert tobacco ended up on a can because R.J. Reynolds named the brand after Edward VII, who was known as Prince Albert before he became King of the United Kingdom.
Pull up a chair. If you’re on your second cup, you’re in good company. If you’re on your third, we may need you to chair the meeting.
This morning, I’ve been thinking about what keeps people going. Especially during those stretches when the news is exhausting, the future looks uncertain, and even the coffee seems to be taking its sweet time doing its job.
I keep coming back to the folks who make room for somebody else.
A chair pulled out. A phone call answered. Someone saying, “Sit down a minute. Tell me what’s going on.”
Small things, until you need them.
When we look back at history, we usually remember the people whose names made it into the books. Presidents, inventors, leaders, and the brave souls who stood before crowds and demanded something better.
But behind those moments were people making sandwiches, arranging rides, watching children, and opening their homes. Someone stayed late to clean up. Someone brought an extra coat. Someone made sure the person who had spoken so courageously didn’t have to walk home alone.
We ought to remember those folks, too.
Their contributions remind me that you don’t have to command an audience to help change somebody’s life. Sometimes you just have to notice who’s having a hard time getting through the day.
Of course, looking back requires some honesty. The old days held kindness, but they also held closed doors. Plenty of people were expected to remain quiet, stay out of sight, or accept whatever place somebody else had assigned them.
Some of us remember that part quite well.
And yet, people kept finding one another. They built friendships, communities, and families. They stood beside someone when doing so could cost them something. Slowly, through effort and setbacks, they opened doors that others would eventually walk through.
That gives me hope for what comes next.
I can’t tell you what the world will look like twenty years from now. I’m still trying to figure out why every device in this house needs an update just when I’ve learned how to use it.
But I do wonder what people will remember about us.
Will they remember that we listened? That we checked on someone? That when a person was being pushed aside, we moved over and made room?
We have some say in those answers today.
We can disagree and still care whether someone gets home safely. We can be tired and still offer a kind word. We can admit we don’t have a solution and stay long enough to hear the problem.
So, folks, as we finish our coffee, perhaps we can think of one person who could use a little company. Send the message. Make the call. Pull out the chair.
Someday, this morning will belong to the past, too.
Good morning, coffee drinkers. Pour yourself a cup and take a breath. This morning, I’m thinking about change—the kind that begins within us, sometimes with the uncomfortable realization that we might have something wrong.
One of the biggest misconceptions we carry through life is that other people must see the world as we do—especially when it comes to the subjects that divide us most.
Someone once told me, “Everyone else has to believe as I do, or the whole world is screwed.” I was just out of high school and impressionable. That thought stayed with me—a little too well.
I wouldn’t say I fully embraced it, but I had firm ideas about right and wrong. In those days, the world looked pretty black and white to me. I hadn’t yet learned how much could exist between the two. Apparently, I thought I had life figured out before I had done much living.
Life has a way of correcting that.
Over the years, I have learned that no one has to agree with me for the world to be okay. People arrive at their beliefs through experiences I may never have had, just as my experiences have shaped me. Sometimes, we are looking at the same situation from very different places.
That doesn’t mean I’ve stopped caring about right and wrong. Some things deserve a firm stand. But being certain and being right are not always the same thing, and listening can teach us more than insisting ever will.
There is more gray in life than I once allowed myself to see. Not every question has a simple yes-or-no answer. Sometimes, what seems obvious becomes less so when we learn what we didn’t know—or finally hear someone we hadn’t bothered to understand.
My perspectives have grown. I have not mastered them. I still catch myself reconsidering situations I thought I had settled in my mind. An old opinion will come marching out, full of confidence, and I have to stop and ask whether it still deserves the floor.
I’m not perfect. That is probably the most useful thing I can admit over this morning’s coffee.
Folks, we can give ourselves a little room to breathe. We can take a belief we’ve held tightly and loosen our grip long enough to examine it. Where did it come from? What supports it? Have we learned anything that ought to change it? Are we holding on because it still makes sense, or because we’ve held it so long that letting go feels uncomfortable?
If it holds up, keep it. If it needs adjusting, adjust it. And if it no longer holds up, we can let it go without treating every year we believed it as something we must defend.
I have done that, and it has made me a happier person. I spend less energy needing agreement and more time trying to understand. I hope that makes life a little easier for the people around me, too.
We cannot make everyone change. But we can start with the person holding our coffee cup.
Not every Western needs John Wayne as Rooster Cogburn, Lorne Greene as Ben Cartwright, or Roy Rogers and Dale Evans riding into the sunset. Some, like Virginia City, are so loaded with familiar faces you could shake the cast like a family tree and still wonder who might fall out next.
Good morning, coffee drinkers! Pull up a chair and bring your cup. I already have my chair—and lately, I have been getting considerably more use out of it than I intended.
Another unexpected gift from this bum leg arrived this week when Virginia City showed up on my television screen. My traveling remains limited, but Hollywood graciously arranged a trip out West without requiring me to get up.
And what a traveling party they provided.
This 1940 Western, directed by Michael Curtiz, serves up a whole salad of old-school movie stars: Errol Flynn, Miriam Hopkins, Randolph Scott, and Humphrey Bogart as the bandit John Murrell. Alan Hale and Guinn “Big Boy” Williams add even more familiar faces to the company.
Bogart even comes with a mustache. That alone might make you set down your coffee and take a second look.
The story follows a Union officer, played by Flynn, who escapes from a Confederate prison and becomes involved in stopping a shipment of five million dollars in gold intended to help keep the Confederacy fighting. Scott plays his former prison commander, who is working to get that gold through. Naturally, other people have their own ideas about where five million dollars ought to go.
You can imagine how peacefully everyone settles their differences.
There is enough action here to shake a stick at twice, provided nobody shoots the stick out of your hand first. A prison escape, stagecoach excitement, robbery, and competing loyalties keep things moving. Just when you think someone might have a quiet moment to explain themselves, another complication comes along.
But the cast is what held my attention.
Watching this collection of performers, I kept wondering how one movie could accommodate so many personalities. Any one of them could command a scene. Put them together, and you find yourself watching the exchanges as closely as the action.
A look. A pause. A line delivered with just enough bite. Somebody standing perfectly still while another actor does the talking—and somehow remaining just as interesting.
That is a pleasure I find in these older movies. I enjoy watching actors work off one another, letting the tension build through their voices, expressions, and timing. The stars may draw you in, but the way they play a scene together keeps you there.
And yes, there are some handsome faces in this picture. Errol Flynn was hardly hired because he looked like somebody’s weather-beaten fence post. But the appeal goes well beyond appearances. These folks know how to hold your attention.
Virginia City gave me more than another afternoon of cowboys riding across the television. It gave me a chance to appreciate familiar performers in different company, especially Bogart, whose presence in this Western kept catching my eye.
Do not expect me to spend the morning swooning over a Southern belle and waiting for a “Frankly, my dear” farewell. I was too busy wondering who would get the gold, who could be trusted, and who would make it through the next scrape. There are other suggestions on how men settle their rage in the wild west.
That is one small consolation of being temporarily parked in a chair. You have time to let a movie unfold. You notice a supporting player. You pay attention to an exchange you might otherwise have missed while heading into the kitchen.
I would still prefer a working leg. Let us be clear about that.
But this week, the television delivered a little adventure and a whole gathering of familiar faces. For a while, I stopped thinking about what I could not get up and do.
So, folks, if Virginia City wanders across your screen, give it a little of your time. Pour another cup and settle in.
I managed a trip out West without leaving my chair. Considering my current transportation arrangements, that is a pretty good morning.
One of my favorite bloggers, WrookieSchU, shared his answers to four questions this week. His posts always give me something to enjoy or think about. Take a look at his profile when you have a moment. I’ll share his responses following this post, but first, I thought I’d offer my own.
Apparently, borrowing a conversation starter is something we older folks do. I heard that at an AARP meeting. Well, it wasn’t an official AARP meeting. It was a bunch of neighbors sitting around drinking coffee. There were enough of us eligible for membership that I figured it counted.
1. What is your favorite season?
At our age, every season is our favorite. After sixty, getting to the next one starts to feel like a milestone. You look forward to the next solstice with the same anticipation you once reserved for your senior prom—with more sensible shoes and considerably less concern about who’s taking you.
2. Would you like to live by the seaside or in the country?
Yes. Either would be fine. The important word in that question is live.
The seaside sounds lovely, provided I’m far enough from the water to stay dry. I can’t run as fast—or as straight—as I used to. If the ocean decides to move into the living room, I’d like sufficient notice.
The country would be fine, too, as long as I don’t wander off and get lost. I prefer trails that make a circle and bring me back to where I started. Ideally, near a chair and a fresh pot of coffee.
3. When was the last time you used the bus?
It must have been the early nineties, coming down from Aspen toward Glenwood Springs around two in the morning, after the bars had closed.
I couldn’t help it. I had to!
Enough time has passed that I feel comfortable admitting it. Let’s leave it there before this turns into an entirely different Morning Coffee.
4. If you took a walk, would it be in the woods, to the shops, with the dog, to a park, or somewhere else?
Right now, if I took a walk, there’s a fair chance I’d fall down. I have one good leg, and I’m trying to keep it that way.
Once both legs are back in business, that’s another story. I’ve walked enough places in my life that a destination needs to make a pretty convincing case before I put my shoes on.
But honestly, with everything the world is facing today, I’d like my steps to do some good. Whether that means helping a neighbor, standing up for someone, or simply showing up when I’m needed, that would be a walk worth taking.
Gratitude
This morning, I’m grateful for folks who give us something to think about, neighbors who keep the coffee conversation going, and Steve, who has kept dinner coming while I offer instructions from my chair.
He still isn’t listening. Judging by dinner, he may be onto something.
Below are the questions as answered by WrookieShu. Click on his name to view his site or click here!
I used to love summer in Ireland as it was a real novelty to have some sort of sunshine. If we had 2 weeks of summer a year, we were doing really well. Now in Sydney, summer is way too hot and humid so I will say spring is my favourite season. You’re happy for the cold to leave and warmer weather to have arrived. However, I do appreciate all seasons for various reasons and I feel lucky to experience all of them, whether it be in Ireland or here in Australia.
2. Would you like to live by the seaside or in the country?
I would love to live by the sea for the beautiful beach walks. I really enjoy hearing the waves, it’s just so therapeutic. I have experienced both, living by the sea and in the country and have really enjoyed both.
We used to live near Bronte beach and I would take the walk along here on a near daily basis We also lived in a country village where we would walk the forest park at least once a day
3. When was the last time you used the bus?
I never really take a bus unless the trains aren’t working and they have replacement buses. Sadly this was pretty frequent when living in the Shire as the trains were always having track work. I think they said there has been 11 weekends so far this year where there was track work. It becomes very frustrating and I guess that was one reason we moved closer to the city. So I will say maybe a couple of months ago I was on a bus.
4. If you took a walk, would it be in the woods, to the shops, walk the dog, to a park, or somewhere else?
Into the woods sounds good, as long as it’s during the day!!!
Pour a cup, folks. Today’s Morning Coffee is about what happens when life makes you sit down while the world keeps moving. What is one small thing that made you smile recently?
Apparently, the world does not stop just because you break your leg. I find that inconsiderate.
Good morning, coffee drinkers! Pull up a chair. I already have mine, and lately we have become inseparable.
Steve made dinner Monday evening using a recipe he found online. I never use recipes, but I have to admit—his turned out delightful. He’s been doing the cooking ever since I broke my ankle and leg. I’ve been supervising from my chair and offering helpful instructions. He hasn’t been listening. Apparently, dinner is coming along just fine anyway.
With a cast on my leg, I have had plenty of time to observe life from a seated position. My television provides the entertainment. My MacBook provides the distractions. My phone provides distractions from those distractions.
Then my Apple Watch tells when me to stand. Sometimes, I even pay attention to it.
There ought to be a button that says, “Please discuss this with my surgeon.”
Meanwhile, Otis, our Jack Russell Terrier, continues racing through the house as though someone has announced that squirrels are taking over the government. Steve keeps things moving, and I supervise from my chair—a position for which I have discovered considerable natural talent.
But somewhere between the television, the notifications, and watching Otis break the household land-speed record, a thought occurred to me.
How much of our lives do we spend feeling behind?
Otis Guarding The House
Behind on the bills. Behind on the housework. Behind on returning messages. Behind on whatever we meant to accomplish before lunch, before Friday, or before we turned a certain age.
Even sitting still can feel like something we ought to be doing more efficiently.
Watch a movie? Certainly. But answer three messages, check the news, and figure out dinner while you are at it.
By the time the credits roll, we need someone to explain the movie we just watched.
I suspect some of you know exactly what I mean.
Somewhere today, somebody is drinking coffee before a shift they would rather not work. Somebody is caring for a person they love. Somebody is looking at an empty chair. Somebody is starting over, quietly, without an audience to applaud the effort.
And somebody is simply trying to get through their version of a Monday. Without saying something that requires an apology on a Tuesday. Or a Wednesday, or a Thursday. Or whatever day of the week it may be.
There is room for all of you at this table.
You do not need an impressive story to belong here. Tell me about the dog who stole your breakfast. The person you miss. The song that took you back forty years before your coffee had time to cool.
Those are the things I enjoy hearing. They give us something to recognize in one another.
My broken leg has certainly rearranged my days. I would have preferred a less dramatic reason to sit down. But since I am here, I might as well pay attention.
There is coffee to enjoy. There are old movies to revisit. There is Steve to talk with and Otis to watch—preferably before he launches himself across the furniture.
Otis and Benjamin
And there are folks on the other side of this screen, living lives I would like to hear about.
What is one small thing that made you smile recently?
Tell me in the comments. It does not have to be extraordinary. Around here, a good story can begin with a cup of coffee and a dog behaving badly.
With a cast on my leg, I have been glued to my chair. Naturally, that has left me glued to the television while also glued to the screen of my Apple MacBook Pro, swiping through my iPhone, and tapping my Apple Watch to see what it has to tell me.
Usually, it tells me something the other two devices have already announced.
I have an entire electronic staff keeping me informed, and apparently none of them communicate well enough to realize the position has already been filled.
My watch reminds me to stand. My leg reminds me that we need to discuss that first.
Somewhere between notifications, I remember to change the television channel, arrange a trip to the bathroom, and remind Steve that dinner will eventually be necessary. He may prepare it or call it in. His choice. I am trying to be an agreeable patient.
You would have to ask him how that is going.
Meanwhile, Otis, our Jack Russell Terror—excuse me, Terrier—is tearing through the house with enough energy to power all these devices. Doppler radar would struggle to track him. By the time it registered his location, he would have completed another lap and accused somebody of sitting in his chair.
If you know, you know.
One unexpected benefit of this enforced sitting has been a fresh look at movies I have watched many times before.
During some of those earlier viewings, I rolled my eyes. I knew the dialogue, the entrances, the misunderstandings, and what was coming next. Quite often, I was watching alongside a sick relative during the final stretch of their life. Those familiar movies seemed to offer comfort, and we let them play.
At the time, I thought I was simply keeping somebody company.
Looking back, there was more to it. A familiar voice on the television. A story that asked very little of us. The quiet reassurance of another person sitting nearby.
Now Steve is beside me while I recover, and there is something familiar about that arrangement. Thankfully, I expect to get out of this chair eventually. Steve probably expects that even more enthusiastically.
For now, I have a cast on my leg and have developed a renewed appreciation for the cast on the screen.
Today’s selection was Arsenic and Old Lace, with Cary Grant, whom I have long admired. He was quite a catch then. As far as I am concerned, he would be quite a catch today.
Grant plays Mortimer Brewster, a drama critic whose outspoken objections to marriage have become somewhat inconvenient: he has just married Elaine, played by Priscilla Lane.
That should be enough excitement for one afternoon. Unfortunately, he has relatives.
His aunts, Abby and Martha, played by Josephine Hull and Jean Adair, are sweet, gracious, and devoted to making lonely gentlemen comfortable.
A little too permanently comfortable.
Their hospitality involves elderberry wine with ingredients you would not want included in the family cookbook.
Then there is Mortimer’s brother Teddy, played by John Alexander, who believes he is Theodore Roosevelt. Most families have somebody who dominates a gathering. The Brewsters have somebody prepared to lead a charge through it.
And just when Mortimer’s afternoon seems sufficiently complicated, his brother Jonathan arrives, played by Raymond Massey, accompanied by Peter Lorre as Dr. Einstein.
Jonathan is the sort of relative whose arrival makes you wish you had left for your honeymoon several hours earlier.
The whole thing is wonderfully frantic and ghoulishly delightful, especially this time of year. Cary Grant spends much of it trying to bring reason into a household where reason apparently moved out years ago.
Watching it again, I found myself enjoying the expressions, the timing, and the sheer absurdity of it all. Knowing what happens next gives you time to notice how beautifully they get you there.
Perhaps that is part of the pleasure of returning to an old movie. We bring a different day, a different mood, and a few more years of living to the same familiar story.
This time, I brought a cast, several opinionated Apple devices, a husband on dinner duty, and a dog traveling at the speed of poor judgment.
The Brewster household suddenly seemed almost manageable.
So pour yourself another cup, folks. There is still plenty of enjoyment to be found in an old picture and the company beside you.
But if somebody offers you homemade elderberry wine, you might ask to see the recipe.
I’ll stick with coffee.
The taglines as posted from reviews in newspapers in the 1940s read:
She Passed Out On Cary ! No Wonder . . . She’s just discovered his favorite aunts have poisoned their 13th gentleman friend !
I’ll knock your block off, you big stiff! You’re a bum!
Strike. You’re out!
WARNER SHOW OF THE YEAR! BEATS THE STAGE PLAY BY 500 LAUGHS AND 5000 SHIVERS! (Print Ad- New York Sun, ((New York, NY)) 31 August 1944)
HERE IS A LAFF RIOT IF EVER THERE WAS ONE (Print Ad- Philadelphia Inquirer, ((Philadelphia, Penna.)) 28 January 1945)
YOU Don’t SCREAM You Just ROAR! (Print Ad- Evening Recorder, ((Amsterdam, NY)) 1 December 1944)
Something Screwy IS GOING ON! Cary and Priscilla are aghast when Aunts Abby and Martha prepare to slip arsenic into the wine of their 13th victim! (Print Ad-Warsaw Daily Union, ((Warsaw, Ind.)) 24 February 1945)
Now if reviews on my own content would just measure up!
When news of Dolly Parton’s death began circulating, Steve was at a client’s place of business. He called me and asked, “Have you heard the news about Dolly?”
I didn’t want to believe what he was about to tell me. Friends had called him with the news, but I wanted confirmation before accepting it. Then came the recorded announcement from her nephew.
When Steve and I spoke again, I said, “Well, let the family fights begin.”
Steve believed she would have arranged her affairs carefully enough to prevent that.
“They’re human,” I told him.
That was a cynical response, I admit. But I’ve lived long enough to know that careful planning and peaceful agreement are two different things.
In the weeks afterward, reports emerged of a legal dispute between the company managing Dolly’s business interests and her nephew. That does not establish that the whole family was fighting over an inheritance. It did, however, bring me back to a subject that reaches far beyond famous people and fortunes: what happens when grief meets money.
Some families come together after a death. They comfort one another, honor the person they’ve lost, and handle what remains with care. Others discover that the funeral flowers have barely wilted before someone starts keeping score.
Who got the watch? Who was promised the car? Who has the keys to the house? And why did somebody else receive more?
Suddenly, years of family history are being entered into evidence over a dining room table.
“I was always there.”
“You already got your share.”
“Mother told me I could have that.”
Mother, unfortunately, is no longer available to clarify the conversation.
And it doesn’t take a fortune. A modest bank account, a house on the edge of town, or an old piece of furniture can become the center of a battle that costs more—in money and relationships—than the thing itself is worth.
Sometimes the object matters because it holds a memory. I understand that. A watch can carry the memory of the hand that wore it. A chair can remind you of someone who sat there every evening. Those feelings deserve tenderness.
But tenderness can disappear quickly when “I would love to have that” becomes “That belongs to me.”
A will or a trust may provide instructions, but paperwork cannot guarantee good behavior. Nor does a disagreement automatically mean someone is greedy. There can be honest questions, mistakes, or genuine concerns about how an estate is handled.
Still, there is a difference between seeking an answer and refusing to accept any answer that doesn’t favor you.
That is the part that troubles me. At the very time people should be grieving and helping one another heal, they can become consumed with winning. The person who died gets pushed into the background while everyone argues over what that person left behind.
I was taught a simple rule: “If you didn’t earn it, it’s not yours.”
I think of that as a lesson in entitlement. An inheritance may become yours through someone’s wishes, but their possessions were never yours to demand while they were living. Their work, their savings, and their decisions belonged to them.
If they leave you something, receive it with gratitude. If they don’t, disappointment does not have to become a declaration of war.
I would rather remember someone for the life we shared than spend the rest of mine fighting over what was in their garage.
Drink your coffee, folks. And if someone leaves you the coffee pot, try to remember who used to fill it.
This morning’s coffee takes us back to a time long ago. If you remember it, good for you. For most of us, there are a few parts missing.
It was a time when the rules were more of a suggestion, and the law was applied with a light touch. I know. I was the one applying it.
So pour yourself a cup, folks. We’re going back to the Habana—where the drinks were strong, the characters were unforgettable, and the details sometimes depended on who was doing the remembering.
It was the early 1980s, and another celebration was underway at the Habana Inn in Oklahoma City. Around that place, it sometimes seemed as though there was something to celebrate every day.
Then came a bomb threat.
Calls went to the hotel and the police and fire departments. The caller provided enough detail to raise serious concerns, and the decision was made to evacuate the property. Shows were taking place that afternoon, and drag queens were everywhere. Hotel employees began directing guests toward a parking lot across from the northeast corner of the hotel.
The manager was a short, feisty man whose name I can no longer recall. He was of retirement age, and he expected people to listen when he spoke. That afternoon, he made his way around the property telling everyone to leave.
Behind the hotel, near the back swimming pool, he encountered a drag queen who wasn’t inclined to follow his instructions.
He explained that there had been a bomb threat and that she needed to evacuate. She refused. They exchanged words. Then the manager pulled out a can of mace and sprayed her.
Her makeup began running down her face, and her reaction left little doubt about how badly it burned. But she wasn’t backing down. She pulled off a high-heeled shoe and took off after him.
Across the street, KOCO-TV had a camera crew filming the evacuation for the evening news. Suddenly, through the hotel’s front entrance came the manager, running for all he was worth. Behind him came the drag queen, makeup ruined, shoe raised overhead, screaming and cussing.
The folks gathered across the street had plenty to say about that unexpected addition to the afternoon’s entertainment. I don’t remember every remark, but the scene hardly needed commentary.
As I recall, a group of bartenders from the Pipeline—which later became the Finish Line—intercepted her and helped the manager reach safety.
For those who witnessed it, that chase became one of the Habana stories that never quite faded. Among those still around to tell it, I imagine it remains as vivid as ever.
But the laughter is only one part of what I remember.
The manager continued working and living at the Habana until he was found dead one morning in Penthouse B, near the back swimming pool.
Questions circulated afterward. Had someone been with him? Had he suffered a heart attack? Had anything else contributed to his death? People offered theories, but I never learned a confirmed explanation.
His would not be the only death I came to associate with that room.
One of the others was a man I knew well: Larry. I keep the last name to preserve the privacy for the family.
Larry was a bail bondsman, a reserve deputy with the Oklahoma County Sheriff’s Office, and the owner of a pawnshop in Del City. You would have been hard-pressed to meet a nicer man.
He also struggled with the distance between who he was and who he believed the world expected him to be. We talked about that. From what I saw, liquor and drugs had become ways for him to cope.
Our friendship did not erase my responsibilities as a police officer. More than once, I told him plainly, “If I ever catch you with drugs, it’s going to be the slammer. I can’t look the other way.”
Then I would get off duty, and we would go browsing through secondhand stores, looking through other people’s discarded treasures.
I sat with him at the Finish Line and had drinks. I also visited him in Penthouse 7, directly above the nightclubs. When the crowds filled the Copa or the Finish Line, you could feel the music through the room: thump, thump, thump. The party downstairs made its presence known upstairs.
Later, Larry moved into Penthouse B.
That room already had a reputation. People said it was haunted, and I didn’t even like going near it. Between Larry’s struggles and my own uneasiness about that room, I feared something would happen. Looking back, that was fear—not knowledge of what lay ahead.
I had been away from the property for a few days. When I returned, the news was everywhere.
They had found Larry.
I was told it appeared he had died in his sleep. I never learned a confirmed cause.
When I think of him now, I remember the man who browsed secondhand stores with me, the conversations we shared, and the kindness that existed alongside his troubles.
There was much more to the Habana than its bars, parties, and penthouses.
Jungle Red was a novelty shop where you could buy gay merchandise, magazines, and items for more private interests. For people exploring a part of themselves they weren’t ready to discuss openly, it offered a place to browse without involving the U.S. Postal Service.
Up a few steps next to the Copa, was a dress shop. Apparently, every respectable gay establishment needed one, and this one offered some impressive selections. If something in the window caught your eye, you asked the attendant at Jungle Red.
Not everyone wanted the pounding music of a nightclub. For those who preferred a quieter evening, there was a martini and piano bar just off the front lobby. It was named the Ledo.
Beside it was a restaurant. Gusher’s. All relating to the Oklahoma Oil Boom. Not the activity taking place at the hotel. I remember the eatery as one of the finest around. On weekends, the place stayed packed well beyond its posted closing time, and it remained busy throughout the week.
A large plate-glass window in the dining room looked south toward the main swimming pool and the surrounding rooms. Guests could sit over a meal and watch people making their way along the walkways above and below.
Naturally, those walks acquired a name: “the walk of shame.”
At the Habana, people sometimes accused others of doing exactly what they had done themselves—at least once, and usually more than twice.
Love stories began there. Others ended there. Sometimes, both happened to the same couple.
It could also be the last place you expected to recognize the handsome athlete from your hometown, especially in circumstances he probably wouldn’t have wanted discussed back in Smallville.
People came out at the Habana. Some did so willingly. Others were recognized before they were ready.
Looking back, I remember the laughter, the music, the friendships, and the freedom people found within those walls. I also remember the loneliness some carried with them, even in the middle of a crowd.
For some, the Habana was a place to spend an evening. For others, it became a home.
And for a few, it was where their lives ended.
For many more, it was where they finally began living as themselves.
The Habana was known as the largest gay resort in the southwestern United States. Just off the property stood a bar originally called Saddle Tramps. Over the years, the name was shortened to Tramps, but I always preferred Saddle Tramps. You needed a saddle to ride out whatever you rounded up in there.
The drinks were usually liquor mixed with a drop of chaser. Ask for a whiskey and Coke, and you’d get three-quarters whiskey, a squirt of Coke, and then a little more whiskey—just in case the Coke had weakened it.
Within an hour and a half, every person in the joint was a ten.
The night wasn’t over. There was a dance club up the street called Angles where you could get your head cleared. Before going back to Saddle Tramps for another drink. Then you’d end the evening at the Finish Line or the Copa. At closing time everyone would spill over to the Lobby where they would either go to the restaurant or end up in the yard square and watch the walks of shame, if they were not walking it themselves. In all of this it was a peaceful event. If trouble makers showed up, a group of bears would take care of them. Escorting them off the property. Of course as security, we’d watch to make sure nothing got out of hand.
It was a different time and life was experiencing change. Today, the hotel has changed ownership. There is a book being written on this period. Which I have given written information about the times to the person writing it. I hope those memories live on. Because it was one hell of good time.
Documented errors & misleading claims in Republican advertising show why political loyalty should never replace verification.Yet, do Democratic advertisings fare any better?
An ominous voice. An unflattering photograph. A frightening accusation. Thirty seconds later, the commercial ends—and the impression remains.
But what happens when the photograph shows the wrong person? When an accusation leaves out the timeline? When the study cited in small print does not examine the policy the candidate actually supports?
Those questions deserve attention before the next campaign commercial tells us what to believe.
Who’s cheating whom? Who’s being true? The accusations fly, the crowd takes sides, and somewhere in the shouting, the truth gets drowned out. Folks, when we care more about who wins the argument than whether the accusation is true, we’re the ones being fooled.
Recent reporting by KJZZ and FactCheck.org documents factual errors and misleading presentations in Republican and Republican-aligned advertising across several states. Some involve outright inaccuracies. Others take genuine statements or events and leave out facts necessary to understand them.
These examples do not establish what candidates privately expected voters to believe or whether they anticipated voters checking their claims. My interpretation is that this kind of advertising gains an advantage when viewers accept its message without examining the evidence.
That is a temptation we should recognize in ourselves. When an accusation fits what we already believe about the other party, it can feel convincing before we have checked a single fact.
In Arizona, an attack ad supporting Republican Rep. Eli Crane targeted Democratic challenger Jonathan Nez. Yet the No Going Back PAC commercial twice displayed photographs of Myron Lizer, Nez’s former vice president—not Nez himself. Lizer is a Republican and Trump supporter.
KJZZ reported the error on October 10 and noted that the images were corrected. That correction matters. So does the fact that an advertisement seeking to discredit a candidate initially failed to identify him correctly. This reporting establishes the photograph error; it does not independently resolve the ad’s underlying spending allegation.
In North Carolina, No Going Back PAC accused Democratic Senate candidate Roy Cooper of allowing approximately 16,000 rape kits to remain untested.
The backlog was real. The presentation of responsibility was misleading.
FactCheck.org reported that the kits were held by hundreds of local law enforcement agencies and had not been submitted to the state laboratory Cooper oversaw as attorney general. A later statewide inventory established the extent of the problem. That leaves room to question whether officials at multiple levels should have done more. It does not justify presenting the evidence as though Cooper personally controlled thousands of kits awaiting testing.
The same advertisement connected Cooper’s pandemic prison settlement to a convicted sex offender who later committed murder. But Jimmie Speight Jr. had completed his prison term before the settlement. His subsequent reinstatement to post-release supervision counted under the agreement, explaining his appearance on its list.
That distinction changes the story. An advertisement about public safety owes voters an accurate timeline, especially when it uses a horrifying crime to assign political blame.
In Pennsylvania and Texas, hospital-closure warnings provided another example.
Congressional Leadership Fund attacked Democrat Janelle Stelson in Pennsylvania’s 10th District with a claim involving up to 25 rural hospital closures. MAGA Inc. attacked Texas Senate candidate James Talarico with a warning involving 30 hospitals.
Both relied on a study assuming a public insurance option would reimburse hospitals at existing Medicare rates. FactCheck.org found that neither candidate had proposed that specific design; Talarico expressly supported higher reimbursement rates.
A study can be real while its use in an advertisement is misleading. Citing research does not establish that its assumptions match the candidate’s proposal.
In Michigan, an NRSC advertisement alleged that Democratic Senate candidate Abdul El-Sayed had advocated abolishing prisons. FactCheck.org found that he had not.
Other attacks drew on genuine earlier statements about shifting police resources and reviewing prison sentences. Those positions are legitimate subjects for scrutiny. But voters also deserve their context and an accurate account of his current platform, which includes investment in law enforcement recruitment, retention and retirement.
These are specific failures by identifiable advertisers. Several ads came from outside political groups, so responsibility should be assigned to the sponsors rather than automatically to the candidates who benefited.
The criticism is straightforward: get the person right, preserve the timeline, represent the proposal accurately, and let the evidence support the accusation.
A party label cannot do that work.
Folks, the commercial that deserves our closest attention may be the one we find easiest to believe. Before repeating it, ask who paid for it, whether the original source says what the advertiser claims, and what information disappeared between the source and the screen.
We do not have to abandon our political convictions to demand honest advertising. We have to insist that those convictions survive contact with the facts.
The Fact Check Cannot Stop at Democratic Party
Democratic campaign advertising deserves the same scrutiny as Republican advertising—and recent examples show why.
It is easy to spot a questionable campaign commercial when it attacks someone we support. The harder test comes when it attacks someone we oppose.
The Fact Checkers Never Stop
That is when a frightening accusation can feel like confirmation. We recognize the party label, agree with the message, and move on without checking what was left out.
But an advertisement does not become accurate because it comes from our preferred side.
Recent investigations by FactCheck.org and PolitiFact identify false or misleading claims in advertisements from Democratic candidates and Democratic-aligned organizations in Maine, Iowa, Georgia, Texas and Ohio. The problems vary: an accusation contradicted by the record, a quotation stripped of context, a procedural vote presented without a later substantive vote, or a projection delivered without its qualifications.
These examples do not tell us what candidates privately expected voters to believe. My interpretation is that such advertising benefits when viewers accept a message that fits their political loyalties without examining its evidence.
In Maine, WinSenate, a super PAC supporting Democratic Senate candidates, accused Republican Sen. Susan Collins of helping conceal the Jeffrey Epstein files.
Collins did oppose an amendment attached to a defense bill. That is a real vote and a legitimate subject for criticism. But she subsequently supported the standalone disclosure legislation that passed the Senate by unanimous consent in November 2025.
FactCheck.org found that the advertisements misleadingly presented her record by leaving out that later support.
One ad also characterized a major donor to a pro-Collins super PAC as Epstein’s business partner. Its basis was that Stephen Schwarzman and Epstein were among the founding members of the same private club. That does not, by itself, establish the close business relationship the description suggests.
An advertiser owes voters more than an alarming name and an insinuation.
A separate Maine advertisement from Majority Forward claimed Collins did not believe insider trading should be illegal.
FactCheck.org found that claim false. Collins helped write and pass the 2012 STOCK Act, which affirmed that members of Congress are subject to insider-trading prohibitions.
She opposed a complete congressional stock-trading ban. Critics can challenge that position and the adequacy of existing enforcement. But opposing a blanket trading ban is different from supporting illegal insider trading.
The advertisement blurred that distinction to turn a policy disagreement into a more damaging accusation.
In Iowa, WinSenate attacked Republican Senate candidate Ashley Hinson over the Epstein files.
Hinson had opposed procedural efforts related to disclosure. Yet she voted for the Epstein Files Transparency Act in November 2025, when it passed the House 427–1.
PolitiFact rated the claim that she voted against releasing the files Mostly False because the advertisement omitted her later vote for release.
The advertising also emphasized donors whose names appeared in the files. A name appearing in those records does not, on its own, demonstrate wrongdoing or a close relationship with Epstein.
Voters deserve the complete voting record and evidence proportionate to the accusation.
In Georgia, Democratic Sen. Jon Ossoff’s television ads used a shortened recording of Republican challenger Mike Collins discussing Social Security and returning to the workforce.
The advertisements framed his remarks as a threat to retirees. But PolitiFact found that the full interview concerned making work more financially advantageous through lower taxes. Collins had not instructed retirees to surrender their benefits and get jobs.
There are substantive reasons to examine his policies: he supported measures that experts warned could threaten future benefits. Those concerns deserve accurate discussion.
They do not justify editing a quotation into a message its speaker did not deliver. PolitiFact rated the advertisement’s combined claim Mostly False.
In Texas, Democratic Senate candidate James Talarico’s campaign said Republican Ken Paxton voted to protect puppy abusers.
The underlying vote concerned a 2011 bill increasing the bond required when someone appealed a civil court’s finding of animal cruelty. The measure did not increase penalties for animal abuse itself.
Paxton did not explain his opposition. Other opponents raised concerns about procedural fairness and the cost of appeals.
PolitiFact rated Talarico’s claim Mostly False. A vote about appeal requirements can be criticized on its merits. It does not establish that the lawmaker intended to protect animal abusers.
Ohio supplies a more qualified example.
Democratic Senate candidate Sherrod Brown’s advertisement said Republican Sen. Jon Husted voted to remove 490,000 Ohioans from their healthcare coverage.
PolitiFact found the number broadly consistent with credible estimates of losses from Medicaid changes and the expiration of enhanced Affordable Care Act subsidies. But it was a projection over ten years, subject to implementation and other uncertainties—not a completed count of people already losing insurance.
Husted’s record also included a later proposal to extend the subsidies.
The claim received a Half True rating. It should not be lumped together with an invented accusation. The criticism here concerns missing qualifications and the presentation of uncertainty.
These findings establish specific advertising failures. They do not measure which party misleads more often, and they do not make every claim equally wrong.
Responsibility also matters. Ads purchased by WinSenate or Majority Forward should be attributed to those organizations rather than automatically to the Democratic candidates who might benefit.
The standard should remain consistent: preserve the context, explain the vote, distinguish estimates from established results, and support accusations with evidence.
Folks, our own side should not receive a discount on truth.
Before sharing the commercial that confirms everything we already believe, we should check the original statement, the complete record and the sponsor’s supporting evidence.
Our political convictions may guide our vote. They should never decide which facts we are willing to see.
Well, if you survived Monday, pour yourself a cup. Depending on your calendar and community, you may have called it Columbus Day, Indigenous Peoples’ Day, or Native American Day.
Whatever name you used, it got me thinking about the Oklahoma of my childhood.
When we played Cowboys and Indians on the playground, we had the real McCoys on both sides—kids from cowboy families and kids from Native families.
Sadly, the cowboys always seemed to win, and our Native friends went along with it. That was simply how we played. I don’t remember anyone questioning why the ending had already been decided.
Now that I am older, I realize how sad that was. Truly sad. Even in a childhood game, we were repeating the story we had been taught: who got to be the hero, who was expected to lose, and whose side of the story hardly mattered.
Had I understood then what I understand now, I would have wanted more victories for my friends—and a chance for them to tell the story their way.
But we had been programmed. Before we were old enough to question the script, we already knew our parts.
Growing up, we commonly used the word “Indian.” We also watched television westerns where Indians fought cowboys, and the script usually told us whom to cheer for before anyone fired a shot.
Looking back, television was doing a fair amount of our thinking for us.
I still have Native friends who call themselves Indians. That is their choice, and I respect it. People deserve to tell us who they are, rather than have the rest of us decide for them.
The Oklahoma I remember has changed. Tribal businesses and casinos became increasingly visible over the years, especially after I moved away. Places I associated with one chapter of my childhood began to look very different.
But seeing a changing landscape and understanding its history are two different things.
For years, I wondered how land purchased by a tribe became tribal land. I also confused that question with whether the land was sacred. Those are different matters: sacredness concerns religious and cultural significance, while trust status involves a legal process through which the federal government holds land for a tribe or an individual Native person.
Still, understanding that distinction leaves me with a larger question: How did we arrive at a place where Native nations sometimes have to buy back portions of the lands they lost?
That question stays with me longer than the explanations about deeds and boundaries.
What might this country look like if settlers and the governments that followed them had respected Native nations’ right to govern themselves? If agreements had been honored? If families had not been forced from their homes?
What if there had been no Trail of Tears?
Would we be better off today? Would our relationships with one another be different? What knowledge, traditions, and possibilities might have survived that were instead disrupted or lost?
I am not looking for an argument over my morning coffee. I am wondering about the distance between the history we inherited and the history we might have made.
We cannot know exactly how that other America would have turned out. But uncertainty about what might have been does not erase what actually happened.
Perhaps that is what this day brings to my table: a reason to look beyond the television westerns of my childhood and listen to the people whose histories those scripts so often pushed aside.
My coffee cannot change yesterday. But I can still learn something today.
The reference to forced removal and the Trail of Tears is supported by the National Park Service’s historical account. nps.gov
“They keep building the border wall. If nothing else, it gives politicians something to crow about. Though these days, you have to wonder whether anyone’s still asking for directions to get here.”
— Imagining Will Rogers weighing in from the grave…
A dispute over border wall construction in southern Arizona has become a disagreement over law enforcement responsibilities, public safety, and the resources available to a county sheriff’s office.
In an October 9 open letter, the Arizona Sheriffs’ Association raised concerns about allegedly unanswered requests for assistance during protests in Santa Cruz County. The association said federal and state officials had reported incidents involving alleged violence, threats, and property damage. It called for those allegations to be documented and investigated.
The letter also attributed to Sheriff David Hathaway a policy limiting deputies’ responses to protest-related calls to incidents involving violence. Whether particular requests involved criminal conduct, and how his office handled them, requires further examination. According to Arizona’s Family’s report, the sheriff’s office had not responded to the station’s request for comment.
The dispute follows an October 5 federal operation at a protest encampment near Lochiel. Arizona’s Family reported that video showed a protester being removed from a cottonwood tree using a cherry picker before the tree was cut down. Activists had occupied the site to oppose construction of a second border barrier. That confrontation is described here.
The public safety questions deserve attention. So does the capacity of the local agency being asked to respond.
Santa Cruz County covers approximately 1,236 square miles of land and had an estimated population of 50,020 in July 2025. The Border Sheriffs directory lists 39 sworn officers for its sheriff’s office, although that listing does not establish current staffing or the number available for patrol on any particular shift.
America has long welcomed people who came to do business—or simply escape winter for a little sunshine. This year, some businesses in those sunny destinations say fewer visitors are returning, and trade has slowed to a crawl. The sunshine is still here. The customers, it seems, are checking the forecast for more than the weather.
From my experience in law enforcement, an agency’s total sworn strength can give a misleading impression of its available manpower. Days off, training, leave, investigations, supervision, and other assignments affect how many officers can answer calls. A fair assessment should examine actual deployment and workload before drawing conclusions about available resources.
Staffing constraints do not erase a sheriff’s responsibilities. Arizona law requires sheriffs to preserve the peace and address public offenses and disturbances. Whether those duties were fulfilled here should be evaluated through dispatch records, incident reports, requests for assistance, and the sheriff’s explanation.
Federal agencies should also explain how they planned to manage demonstrations and coordinate with local authorities. Construction that draws sustained opposition requires clear arrangements for emergency response, protection of lawful protest, and investigation of alleged crimes.
The association has offered available assistance through the Arizona Department of Public Safety if requested. That offers a possible route toward cooperation while preserving the county sheriff’s independent authority.
My concern is whether the agencies involved have established a workable plan that protects residents, protesters, workers, and officers without leaving routine county services short of personnel. Answering that question requires documented facts, an opportunity for all sides to respond, and a realistic accounting of resources.
The National Weather Service has issued winter storm warnings for parts of the state through Monday morning. An earlier forecast called for 10 to 20 inches of snow in some areas, with isolated totals approaching 30 inches in the Bob Marshall Wilderness.
Thirty inches. That is considerably more wilderness than I require.
NBC Montana also reported that the Beartooth Highway’s closure was moved up to Friday because of the approaching winter weather. When even the highway is closing early, I consider that a fairly clear invitation to stay home.
Some folks see that forecast and think, “How beautiful! Let’s pack up and spend the winter there.”
I admire their enthusiasm. From Arizona.
Desert living suits Steve and me just fine. Give me a wide horizon, a warm afternoon, and a winter wardrobe that doesn’t require instructions.
Somewhere in my head, the Green Acres theme is playing while I compose my own little tribute to staying warm. Steve has probably heard enough of it already.
I have gone north in November. I was younger then. I didn’t know what I know now.
The sky would turn gray, and the weather forecaster would assure us that we were expecting wind and cold. Then we would wake up to waist-deep snow.
Apparently, the snow had neglected to attend the briefing.
I remember drifts deep enough for cattle to walk over barbed-wire fences and wander miles from where they belonged. Across that stretch of country—Texas, the Oklahoma Panhandle, southwestern Kansas, and into Colorado—winter could make a fence seem more like a suggestion.
The cattle weren’t respecting property lines. They were looking for somewhere better to stand.
I understood their position.
I have also gone into Wyoming in December, when the forecast called for “a dusting.”
A foot of snow later, I began to suspect that Wyoming used a different measuring system.
I was young enough to tolerate it then. Or at least young enough to claim I could. There may also have been a few questionable concoctions involved that improved my opinion of the situation without improving the weather.
They didn’t melt the snow. They merely made being trapped indoors seem briefly like something I had agreed to.
Meanwhile, the snow kept piling up outside, and the roofline began looking uncomfortably close to ground level.
These are experiences that build character. I believe I have accumulated enough character to remain in Mesa.
So, no, I won’t be meeting anyone in Montana on Monday. Not for snow, a sick moose, or a lost tourist. Send photographs. I will study them from a comfortable chair and express the appropriate concern.
I moved to the desert to stay warm, and that decision continues to hold up beautifully.
If I get too warm, I can daydream about lounging beside the pool, with my broken leg propped safely out of the proceedings. Otis will be looking at me as though I’m the household misfit.
This from a dog who considers running through the house at aircraft speed a reasonable afternoon activity.
In my version of the pool scene, he eventually joins me, dog-paddles back to his float, and settles beside a water bottle with a little umbrella attached.
He has no job, pays no bills, and somehow ends up on the better vacation.
That is life around here, folks.
Monday, October 12, 2026. I checked. It is Monday.
Mesa may have a few showers in the forecast, but nobody is predicting that I’ll need to shovel my way to breakfast.
This morning’s coffee comes with an eye-opener. I hadn’t planned to start the day this way, but the idea landed in my lap last week while I was lying around with a broken right ankle and leg. And—poof!—on came a flick I’ve seen so many times I can practically recite the dialogue: What Ever Happened to Baby Jane?
Apparently, a broken leg wasn’t enough to keep me uncomfortable. Bette Davis had to drop by and finish the job. I can tell you I know “What Ever Happened To Baby Jane!”
Joan Crawford as Blanche (left) Bette Davis as Baby Jane (right)
I have watched What Ever Happened to Baby Jane? so many times that I can almost recite the dialogue along with the actors.
I first discovered it late one night while caring for my ailing mother-in-law. I watched it again when my own mother was in similar circumstances, and recently returned to it while recovering from a broken leg. Somehow, this wonderfully unsettling film keeps finding me when I’m already confined to one spot.
Bette Davis plays Baby Jane to perfection. Her performance gets under my skin every time. Joan Crawford, as her sister Blanche, makes you feel the helplessness of being trapped upstairs and dependent on someone increasingly cruel and unpredictable. From the moment Jane claims Blanche’s bird has escaped through the window, you know something is terribly wrong. Before long, you’re worrying that anyone who gets too close—including the neighbors—might meet the same fate as the housekeeper, Elvira.
Then there is the singing. Davis’s strained, childlike rendition of “I’ve Written a Letter to Daddy” makes my skin crawl, yet I still want to hear it. For me, it has the same unsettling, irresistible quality as the Silver Shamrock jingle in Halloween III: Season of the Witch (which, by the way, is our anniversary song—Steve’s and mine) Once it gets into your head, it settles in and refuses to leave.
Although the story includes murder, its final scene relies on something more haunting than a bloody spectacle. That is part of what keeps bringing me back: the performances, the dread, and the feeling that even familiar scenes can still unsettle me.
But I’m left with one thoroughly impractical question: whatever happened to the Baby Jane doll? Can I get one—and, more importantly, will it sing that tune? Apparently, watching the film repeatedly hasn’t disturbed me quite enough.
I say bring it back for this years Christmas sales! Why not reconcile with a symbol of pure craziness. It is in style today. Isn’t it?
A memorial holds meaning beyond its concrete, marble, steel and glass. Its name tells future generations whom a nation chose to remember. Its halls preserve music, theater, ceremony and shared experience.
In my 63 years, America has traveled an extraordinary distance. Yet some shadows seem to follow us from one generation into another.
This mornings coffee is going to be layered. Get ready.
I was born in 1963, during the Kennedy presidency. His assassination belongs to the beginning of my life, even though it lies beyond my earliest memories. For Americans old enough to remember November 22 of that year, the news from Dallas became a dividing line: before, and after.
The Kennedy years had already brought their share of danger. In April 1961, the failed Bay of Pigs invasion—developed under the Eisenhower administration and authorized by Kennedy—became one of his earliest foreign-policy crises.
Then came Dallas.
Questions involving the Soviet Union quickly became part of the national conversation. Lee Harvey Oswald had lived there, married a Russian woman and visited the Soviet Embassy in Mexico City shortly before the assassination.
Those circumstances fed suspicion. Official investigations, however, did not establish Soviet involvement. The Warren Commission found no evidence that a foreign government had employed or encouraged Oswald to assassinate Kennedy. The House Select Committee on Assassinations later concluded, on the evidence available to it, that the Soviet government was not involved.
Still, the suspicion never entirely disappeared from the American imagination.
And America continued through a succession of moments that once seemed unimaginable.
On March 31, 1968, President Lyndon Baines Johnson announced that he would neither seek nor accept his party’s nomination for another term. The Vietnam War consumed the nation, and political divisions continued to deepen.
That June, Robert Kennedy was assassinated while campaigning for the Democratic presidential nomination.
Vietnam stretched across presidencies, taking American lives and leaving divisions that remained long after the troops came home.
Then came Watergate.
Richard Nixon resigned on August 9, 1974, as impeachment proceedings advanced against him. On September 8, President Gerald Ford granted him a pardon for federal offenses committed or potentially committed during his presidency.
The country moved forward, carrying another argument about power and accountability.
Then came the Iran hostage crisis.
Fifty-two Americans endured 444 days of captivity following the seizure of the U.S. Embassy in Tehran. Negotiations during the Carter administration produced the agreement securing their freedom. They were released on January 20, 1981, as Carter left office and Ronald Reagan became president.
During Reagan’s presidency came Iran-Contra: secret weapons sales to Iran and the diversion of proceeds to support the Contras in Nicaragua. Reagan initially denied trading arms for hostages, but later acknowledged that the initiative had deteriorated into precisely that.
Under George H. W. Bush, America went to war in the Persian Gulf after Iraq invaded Kuwait.
During the Clinton years, we witnessed the deadly conclusion of the Branch Davidian standoff near Waco, Texas.
Alfred P. Murrah Building Okc, Oklahoma.
Two years later, Timothy McVeigh, aided by Terry Nichols, carried out the Oklahoma City bombing. The attack killed 168 people, including 19 children. It remains the deadliest act of homegrown terrorism in American history.
Then came September 11, 2001.
During George W. Bush’s presidency, nineteen al-Qaeda terrorists hijacked four commercial airplanes. Nearly 3,000 people were killed in attacks that changed the country and the world.
A decade later, during the Obama administration, U.S. forces killed Osama bin Laden.
And still America continued.
Donald Trump became the 45th president. Joe Biden followed as the 46th. Trump returned as the 47th.
Russia again became entangled in an American presidency, under circumstances very different from the suspicions surrounding Kennedy’s assassination.
U.S. intelligence agencies concluded that Russia interfered in the 2016 election, an assessment upheld by the bipartisan Senate Intelligence Committee. The Mueller investigation documented numerous campaign contacts involving Russia, but did not establish that Trump campaign members conspired or coordinated with the Russian government in its election-interference activities.
These episodes do not establish a common conspiracy. They show how questions of foreign influence, presidential power and public trust can echo across generations.
Then, on July 1, 2024, the Supreme Court ruled that former presidents have absolute criminal immunity for conduct within their exclusive constitutional authority and at least presumptive immunity for other official acts. Unofficial acts receive no presidential immunity. The decision reshaped the legal boundaries of presidential accountability.
Now we find ourselves back at the Kennedy name.
Congress designated the John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts as a living memorial in 1964. In September 2026, a federal judge again blocked efforts to add Trump’s name without congressional authorization. The board then voted for an extended renovation closure. Trump said repairs would depend on approval of the naming proposal.
Management separately cited structural safety concerns for a temporary closure, while the board’s renovation decision remained under court scrutiny.
The dispute widened further when a judge required advance notice before demolition and bipartisan lawmakers proposed legislation requiring congressional approval before a presidential memorial could be demolished. As of October 2, that proposal had not become law. These developments do not establish that demolition has begun, but they give the question of preservation immediate importance.
For me, that brings these years into an unsettling circle.
A presidency ended in Dallas. A cultural institution was later dedicated to keeping that president’s memory alive.
Nearly 63 years after his death, Americans are arguing over what can be done to that memorial, whose name it may carry and who has the authority to decide.
A memorial holds meaning beyond its concrete, marble, steel and glass. Its name tells future generations whom a nation chose to remember. Its halls preserve music, theater, ceremony and shared experience.
Repairs deserve careful attention. So do the laws and public responsibilities attached to the place being repaired.
Who decides what name a national memorial carries?
How much authority should a sitting president have to reshape an institution dedicated by Congress to another?
And when does renovation become reinvention?
Those questions reach beyond the Kennedy Center.
Across my lifetime, I have watched presidents come and go, wars begin and end, and scandals shake institutions that once seemed beyond question. The country has endured pressures that appeared capable of breaking it.
Survival, however, does not settle every question. We must still decide what we carry forward.
Some things belong to the American people across generations. Each administration inherits responsibility for them. Each generation receives something it did not build alone.
That inheritance asks something of us.
What parts are ours to change—and what parts have we been entrusted to preserve for those who come after us?
His name survived on schools, highways, airports, a space center and one of America’s most important cultural institutions.
That is why the argument over the Kennedy Center reaches beyond performance halls and construction plans. It concerns the care we give to a memory entrusted to us.
Kennedy’s coffin was closed nearly 63 years ago.
The more unsettling question is what we will preserve of the legacy that remained above ground.
I was looking at the map showing where visits to benandsteve.com have come from, and something struck me: my words have been getting out more than I have.
Here I am in Arizona, putting together a few thoughts over coffee, while something I’ve written turns up halfway around the world.
Apparently, my stories don’t need a passport. They don’t even have to take their shoes off at the airport.
When I begin a piece, I usually have something fairly close to home in mind. A memory from Oklahoma. Something Steve said. An ordinary object that carries an extraordinary amount of history. Or a passing thought that refuses to leave until I give it a paragraph of its own.
I don’t generally sit down thinking, “I wonder how this will go over in Tanzania.”
Perhaps I should start.
In the recent figures I reviewed, approximately 45% of the recorded views came from China, while nearly 42% came from the United States. Canada accounted for about 5%, followed by the United Kingdom at roughly 2.5%.
The remaining views came from India, Pakistan, the Philippines, Tanzania, Tunisia, and the Netherlands. Together, those countries represented about 6% of the views in this snapshot.
That is quite a bit of traveling for thoughts that began here at home.
Visits to benandsteve.com from around the world
The shaded countries on the map made that reach visible in a way a column of figures never quite could. I found myself looking at places I hadn’t expected to appear and wondering how something I wrote had found its way there.
Of course, a map cannot tell me the whole story. It doesn’t tell me who stopped by, what brought them, or whether they stayed long enough to finish their coffee. But it does show recorded activity from parts of the world I never imagined would have any connection to my little corner of the internet.
And that gives me something to think about.
I grew up in a small Oklahoma town where you usually knew who was listening. Sometimes you knew their parents, their grandparents, and precisely who would hear about what you said before you made it home.
Writing online is a different experience. You put a story out there, and its next stop may be somewhere you’ve never been.
A recollection from my childhood might turn up in Canada. A bit of dry humor might make its way to the United Kingdom. Something about family, kindness, loss, or simply getting through the day might reach a place whose name I’ve known all my life without ever expecting my writing to arrive there.
I like that possibility.
So much of what I write begins with ordinary life. The details belong to me, but the feelings may be familiar to someone much farther away: missing a parent, remembering an old home, laughing at an aggravation, or finding comfort in a daily routine.
I cannot say what any particular visitor takes away. I can only hope that somewhere in these pages, they find something worth pausing over.
This map has reminded me that the circle around benandsteve.com may be wider than I realized. My stories are beginning to show up in regions I never expected them to reach, and I’m curious to see where they go next.
Wherever you happen to be reading this, thank you for stopping by.
Pull up a chair. There’s always room for another cup.
And if my words make it to your part of the world before I do, please tell them to behave themselves. I have a reputation to consider.
I read the other day that the First Dude had died. I stopped and looked at that headline twice.
The First Dude?
Was he somebody’s husband? A fellow who insisted on being first in line everywhere he went? Or one of those rascals who walks into a room as though he owns the place?
Was he one of the president’s kids? A former president’s brother? No, neither seemed quite right for a name like First Dude. I thought briefly of Doug Emhoff, Kamala Harris’s husband. He carried himself with enough quiet confidence to pull it off, but he already had a title: Second Gentleman.
The more I read, the more I thought I had him figured out. He was a Florida fellow with a remarkable social life. He had been quite the catch in his younger days and, from all appearances, remained popular for years. His family was enormous. There were 538 youngsters of racing age on the books, though I doubt he remembered every name.
And talk about a family making something of itself: 302 of them became winners. Together, his offspring earned nearly $30 million. That would give anybody at the coffee table something to brag about.
But the First Dude had earned his own reputation long before his children came along. He was a competitor who kept showing up among the best. In 2010, he finished second in the Preakness Stakes and third in the Belmont Stakes. He earned more than $1.4 million during his own racing career.
By now, you may have caught on. The First Dude was a horse.
First Dude, to give him his proper name, was a racehorse and later a stallion at Double Diamond Farm in Florida. He was named Florida Stallion of the Year in both 2017 and 2018. He died at 19.
First Dude was a Stud! A Horse’s, Horse!
I began reading with a chuckle over his name. I finished thinking about what it means to leave a mark. First Dude ran his own races, and then a whole new generation carried something of him onto the track.
So raise your coffee cup to the First Dude. He was quite a fellow. And, yes, he really did own a little piece of the place.
Based on reporting by Horse Racing Nation. Photo: Bob Mayberger / Eclipse Sportswire.
A while ago, I was having what I thought was a fairly general conversation about a story in the Bible. I mentioned how many of us grow up hearing about a snake, an apple, and the first sin.
Well! Apparently, I had wandered into the Garden of Eden without checking my vocabulary at the gate.
“It wasn’t a snake, and it wasn’t an apple,” the person quickly corrected me. “It was a serpent and forbidden fruit.”
I nearly asked, “Are we absolutely sure about the produce?”
But I held my tongue. The distinction clearly mattered to this person, and I could respect that.
Still, it got me thinking. If the apple isn’t identified in the original story, how did it become such a familiar part of the version many of us heard as children? Somewhere along the way, somebody supplied the illustration, and the apple has been carrying the blame ever since.
That is quite a reputation for something we now put in a lunchbox.
And then there is the serpent. Tell a three-year-old about a snake, and you may get a nod. Tell that same child about a serpent, and you may have opened a question session that lasts until supper.
“What’s a serpent?”
“A snake.”
“Then why didn’t you say snake?”
There goes your afternoon.
The forbidden fruit could be even more troublesome.
“What kind of fruit?”
“The story doesn’t say.”
“Then how do we know which one not to eat?”
Try explaining that while cutting up an apple for their snack.
Children have a wonderful way of finding the question adults have learned to step around. They haven’t yet developed our habit of nodding politely when an explanation raises three more questions than it answers.
They simply ask.
Why was the fruit forbidden? Why was the tree there? Why could the serpent talk? Can the snake in the backyard talk?
And if it can, should we let it finish before calling somebody?
Before long, you are trying to explain temptation, disobedience, and consequences to someone whose greatest temptation that morning was eating a crayon.
Yet we sometimes treat their questions as a problem. We rush to simplify the story, then become uncomfortable when they notice that the simplified version doesn’t quite add up.
Perhaps the difficulty isn’t always in what children can understand. Perhaps it is in what adults are willing to explain—or willing to admit they don’t know.
A child asking “Why?” hasn’t necessarily challenged anyone’s faith. That child may simply believe you know the answer.
What a compliment. And what a responsibility.
The part that troubles me reaches beyond the snake and the apple. Children ask questions before they learn which questions make a room uncomfortable. They can play happily with another child before an adult gives them a reason to notice differences, draw lines, or decide who belongs.
Then we call the process growing up.
Growing up ought to give us more understanding, more kindness, and better questions. But sometimes we hand children our grudges and prejudices along with our explanations, as though everything we inherited deserves to be passed along.
Perhaps we could leave a few of those things out of the lesson.
This morning, I’m raising my coffee cup to the little ones who keep asking. The ones who can turn a simple explanation into an afternoon’s work with a single word.
And perhaps, before we teach them to stop asking it, we ought to ask it ourselves.
What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?
I received this story suggestion while I was doodling, and it brought to mind a memory…
To tell this story, I have to rewind to my early days of adulthood, when I was continuing my education and my roommates were contributing generously to my spontaneity.
One night, while we were sitting around entertaining ourselves, somebody issued a challenge: Go stand on a corner in Winslow, Arizona.
The stop signs were posted across the street in this one town..
My buddy and I decided we had to go right then, dressed as we were. I had on shorts and a tank top. He had on jeans, a T-shirt, and tennis shoes. My pickup would provide the transportation. Planning would have to catch up with us somewhere along the road.
We left the south side of Oklahoma City at three in the morning. By six, we had reached the Texas state line. We kept stopping for things we had forgotten, and by noon we had made it to Amarillo. With speed limits around 55 miles an hour, the journey was giving us plenty of time to reconsider our decision.
Somewhere west of Amarillo, we pulled over and fell asleep. Four or maybe six hours later, we woke up and continued our mission.
At the New Mexico state line, a brightly lit welcome to the Land of Enchantment appeared ahead of us. Coming west across that wide stretch of country, it was something to behold. From a distance, I thought we might have to stop and check in. As we got closer, I discovered we could enter freely. Later, I learned we could leave freely, too, provided neither of us got arrested.
By the time we reached Albuquerque, it was rush hour. I remember feeling strangely lonely. I could change lanes without anybody honking at me.
West of the city, the road grew dark again. We made plenty of pit stops along the way. Out in those wide stretches of desert, we also spotted what looked like promising sites for a little roadside golf. Fortunately, we had forgotten the clubs along with nearly everything else.
In Arizona, we stopped at a store with a big totem out front and a Texaco sign. We had one credit card between us, so we charged every supply we thought we might need, packed the pickup, and headed for Winslow.
Finally, we saw the exit.
We found a corner with a little sign telling us we had reached the place. We parked, stepped out of the truck—I want to be clear that we did not hop out—and walked over. We tried to look like two men who stood on corners in Arizona all the time.
Then we sang about standing on a corner in Winslow.
As if on cue, a woman in a flatbed truck drove past, heading west. She did not slow down. She did not look at us. Apparently, the song had oversold that part.
We had traveled so far that we needed proof before we went home. I pulled into a nearby motel and asked for directions to the interstate, though I already knew where it was. I came away with a business card and a book of matches.
You’d have to go there to get those, I reasoned.
On the return trip, my right front headlight went out just as we approached a trooper waiting in the median. He listened to the story of our mission, watched me give the bumper a kick, and saw the headlight come back on. We laughed, and he sent us on our way.
We seemed to make better time heading home. I suggested we must have a tailwind and somehow be traveling in the jet stream. My buddy accepted that explanation without question.
Come to think of it, I’ve barely mentioned him in this story. I reached over once to make sure he was warm. He was. He also appeared to be breathing and moving, both encouraging signs.
A silent partner can be the best kind of traveling companion.
Especially when you’re driving hundreds of miles to stand on a corner and discover the girl in the flatbed truck has other plans.
A mention of Stevie Nicks took me from an Oklahoma peanut field before sunrise to three Fleetwood Mac concerts with Steve. Funny what a song can bring back.
Recently, I read a piece on KikiFikar’s blog about family, texting, and Fleetwood Mac. One mention of Stevie Nicks sent me somewhere I hadn’t expected to go: back to an Oklahoma peanut field before sunrise.
You Can Go Your Own Way…
Memory is a curious thing. Some days, a word I need won’t come when I call for it. Someone can ask me about an event I was part of, and I’ll have trouble finding it in my head. Then a song comes along, opens a door, and there I am, riding out to work with my brother-in-law and KOMA playing on the radio.
They played Fleetwood Mac and Elton John. I especially remember “Bennie and the Jets.” At that hour, I thought the music was moving a lot faster than I was. The sun wasn’t up yet. Some mornings, it seemed the moon had barely finished its own shift.
We were headed to the peanut fields to move irrigation pipe. I mean the kind you picked up and carried, section by section, across the length of a field. And yes, fields is plural. We didn’t have farmhands, unless you counted the ones at the ends of our arms. Those hands also hauled hay, fed cattle, trained horses, and built fence.
When the temperature climbed past 100, those same hands became very interested in holding a fishing pole. We called it bottom fishing. Whether we caught anything or not, sitting near the water sounded better than moving pipe.
Years later, Fleetwood Mac found its way back into my life through Steve.
When we moved to Phoenix in 2002, I made the mistake of telling him I’d heard Stevie Nicks had been spotted filling her car near one of my offices. From then on, my commute came with an assignment: report any Stevie sightings.
After enough days of having nothing to report, I told him she probably wore disguises. I may have added that I’d heard she dressed like a witch. Steve did not appreciate my investigative work.
To make up for it, I accompanied him to three Fleetwood Mac concerts. One gave me such a migraine that we stopped on the way home and bought what felt like the convenience store’s entire supply of pain relievers. At another, we took my cousin, who had enjoyed himself quite a bit before the show began and made sure everyone around us knew he was there. I think I enjoyed that concert most of all.
The surprising part is that, years before Steve met me, he would have been standing outside a Stevie Nicks concert. His grandfather was a Southern Baptist preacher, and Steve took what he’d been taught seriously. As a young man, he believed Stevie was a witch and Fleetwood Mac was evil. He once went to the Lloyd Noble Center in Norman with a Bible and a sign to protest one of her concerts.
I still find it remarkable that the young man outside the venue grew into the man beside me, hoping I might spot Stevie at a gas station. When he tells that story now, it reminds me how much a person can change. By the time we met, he had already begun finding his own way. We’ve both kept at it ever since.
So KikiFikar’s piece gave me more than a Fleetwood Mac memory. It brought back a dark drive to the peanut fields, my brother-in-law’s radio, a concert migraine, my cousin having the time of his life, and a younger Steve I never knew.
If a song takes you somewhere this morning, let it play. You might remember a person you miss, a day you can laugh about now, or just how far you’ve come since you first heard it. I’ll raise my coffee to that—and to whatever song KOMA was playing while we carried that last piece of pipe.
In their day, coffee was hot. It was waiting on the breakfast table, offered to anyone who stopped by, or kept brewing when someone had to stay awake all night. You took it black, with sugar, with cream, or with both. That was about the extent of the menu.
If my grandparents—or even my dad—could pull up to a coffee shop today, I think the menu would stop them in their tracks. Iced coffee? Coffee with foam? A drive-thru where people wait in line just to order a cup?
And then there was the ceremony of opening a fresh can of ground coffee. Someone would work the can opener around the lid and get the first breath of that rich aroma. If you were nearby, you leaned in for your turn. There was nothing quite like it. I’d recommend experiencing it once in your life, but once probably won’t be enough.
At home, we made coffee by the pot. You put the grounds in the maker, waited for the water to work its way through, and poured a cup when it was ready. I learned that when it was ready was an important part of the process. Pulling the carafe out too early could leave you cleaning up the counter before you’d had your first sip.
I still like sugar in mine. You may take yours black or with enough cream to change its color entirely. These days, you can have it poured over ice and topped with just about anything. My dad might have looked at that cup and asked when the coffee was coming.
But the part I remember best had little to do with how anyone ordered it. I remember waking to the sound of my parents or grandparents talking at the breakfast table while the smell of fresh coffee drifted through the house. Before I could make out what they were saying, I knew they were there and the day had begun.
That aroma can still take me back. Maybe you have a coffee memory like that, too. If you do, I hope your next cup brings it along for a visit.
By now, I expect to be in surgery or recovering afterward, possibly deeply sedated. Either way, someone else will be making the rounds this morning.
You see, I’ve done it again.
Somehow, I keep finding ways to get myself scheduled for repairs. Several times a year, somebody decides I need another adjustment. I’m beginning to think I should come with a maintenance manual.
This particular visit, however, was unplanned.
On Sunday, I was innocently walking across the den when my lights went out. No warning. No dramatic announcement. Just a sudden goodnight—and down I went.
In the process, I managed to break my leg and ankle and dislocate another bone in the ankle.
All of that, simply crossing the floor.
I didn’t trip over anything. I didn’t tumble down a staircase. I wasn’t attempting one of those athletic maneuvers that begins with “Watch this!” I fainted. Apparently, my landing had ambitions of its own.
Thanks to good insurance and the people arranging my care, I’m having surgery this morning to put things back where they belong.
Personally, I would have been happy with a Popsicle. The medical team felt a more substantial response was warranted.
The surgeon even postponed a trip out of town so he could stay and take care of me. That means a great deal. Knowing someone rearranged his own plans to help put me back together gives me something to be grateful for amid all this unexpected excitement.
I’m also grateful to having Steve there. He immediatedly heard me fall. Then notices something wasn’t right. My body was bent in a weird fold. He was my advocate in between my screaming. Then the rescuers who arrived at our home and carried me out. When your ordinary Sunday suddenly becomes an emergency, those folks become the most welcome people you’ve ever seen.
What still leaves me dumbfounded is how I managed so much damage in such a small space. I’ve had people demonstrate how they think I fell, and nobody else has come away with a broken leg or ankle.
I seem to have added something to the performance that cannot be reproduced.
In preparation for my absence, I’ve scheduled several weeks of Morning Coffee. There will still be a thought or two waiting here to help you begin your day, even while I’m busy following instructions about keeping my leg elevated.
During recovery, I plan to catch up on old episodes of South Park. I mean, educational programming about South America. We’ll see how convincing I sound after the medication wears off.
This was me in the Emergency Room Sunday night. I kept telling everyone “my eyes are up here!” They tried to reset it. Under full sedation, while unconscious, I screamed bloody murder. People could hear me out in the hallways adjacent to the emergency room. Patients who had been waiting for hours, got up and left. I was asked I could come back next week.
I do feel I owe you more. Perhaps a chance to sign my cast, if I get one. Or footage of the fire trucks and ambulance arriving. Some photographic evidence of this latest production would have been nice.
So far, I have only a photo of me in the emergency room. A photo of my foot.
All I can offer is the mystery of how a fellow walks across his own den, trips over absolutely nothing, and winds up needing surgical repairs.
Keep the coffee going, folks. I’m looking forward to updating you on the other side of surgery.
And next time somebody offers me a Popsicle, I’m taking it before the situation escalates.
I thought I’d throw a little English banter into today’s chatter. It seemed fitting while I sat here with a cup of coffee and a recording of Star Trek: Strange New Worlds playing in the background.
I record shows when they air and watch them when life gives me a moment. This morning, while the Enterprise traveled through space, my mind wandered back to the days when I was a young chap watching cowboys ride across the television screen.
There was Rawhide, Hopalong Cassidy, and Gene Autry singing his way through the West. I enjoyed them all. But even as a boy, I thought some of those fellows had an easy time of it. The cowboy I knew best had horses to feed, cattle to tend, and work waiting for him whether the cameras were rolling or not.
That cowboy was my dad.
I watched him care for our animals day after day. He was tough, capable, and steady. To me, he was the real thing. He was my hero from the beginning.
What I don’t know is whether I ever told him that clearly enough.
We sometimes assume the people we love already know what they mean to us. Maybe they do. But hearing it from us can still make a difference. A few honest words can stay with someone long after the morning is over.
So while you have your coffee today, think of someone who matters to you. Tell them what you admire about them. Thank them for something they taught you. Let them know that the ordinary things they do have never looked ordinary to you.
You don’t need a grand speech. You just need to say it while they’re here to hear it.
My dad never rode across a television screen. But after all these years, he is still the cowboy I remember best.
I don’t know whether it was an Oklahoma City thing or whether listeners elsewhere heard it, too. In the mid-1980s, I kept my patrol radio tuned to KATT, The Rock 1000. One of my favorite parts of the morning was a voice that came on with a greeting something like, “Hello, babysitters. This is Clarence, and this is the All My Children update.”
Clarence had a deep voice and a gift for recapping the previous day’s soap opera. He would run through the latest goings-on, slipping into impressions of the characters along the way. I could be miles into a patrol shift, carrying whatever the night had handed me, and that voice would give me a few minutes to laugh.
I needed those minutes. Some of the officers I worked with used enough starch in their underwear to stand at attention without getting out of the patrol car.
Around the station, I was known as the Lone Eagle. I worked the south district, and when I headed south, I soared. Some nights brought felony arrests. Other nights, I found a way to upset an elected city official who probably thought the hour made him unreachable.
Then there was Mildred.
Her husband was a city councilman, and the chief had agreed to put her on the reserve police force. How that arrangement came about, I couldn’t say. What I knew was that Mildred talked through an entire eight-hour shift without seeming to draw a breath. Riding with her was like attending a farm auction where the auctioneer never stopped and the hog never sold. Every so often, the hog would snort, and the bidding would begin again.
Somehow, no matter how the schedule was arranged, Mildred ended up in my unit. The other officers wouldn’t take her. I was the least senior officer on those nights, so I got the assignment.
One night, I lost my patience.
I asked Mildred if she had ever wondered why she always rode with me. She said she thought it was because I liked having her along. I told her that wasn’t it. I said it more harshly than I should have.
She looked genuinely surprised. She hadn’t noticed that other reserve officers got different assignments while she kept getting mine. I told her the others complained about riding with her. When she thought I was making it up, I played a mini-cassette recording of officers saying just that.
Mildred listened. Then she said, “Oh, Ben, you ought to hear what they say about you before you get to the station to pick me up.”
“I know,” I told her. “You don’t think this is the only tape I have, do you?”
I didn’t stop there. I said things about her husband and why I thought he wanted her out of the house. I had no proof of that. I was angry, and I wanted my words to land. I also told her what I expected to happen next: she would go home upset, her husband would complain to the chief, and sooner or later something would happen to me at work.
I drove back to police headquarters and gave her one sentence she could repeat.
“Get the hell out of my unit.”
That night may sound like a scene Clarence could have recapped the next morning: a councilman’s wife, a tape recorder, a patrol officer who finally said too much, and trouble waiting at the station. But there was nothing funny about what followed. Two matters did arise that left me feeling exposed and unable to defend myself as I might have at another time.
My father had died, and I was still crushed by it. I feared a public fight would hurt my family. A year later, I believe I would have fought with everything I had. At that moment, I pulled back.
When I think about those patrol mornings now, I still hear Clarence’s voice cutting through the radio. For a few minutes, his account of somebody else’s drama gave me room to breathe. I had no idea how much I would miss that little break when the drama became my own.
In the months that followed, a series of events unfolded. I’ve written about some of them. Others I’ve never told publicly. That changes in October, when I’ll share what happened and why it sent shock waves through our community and local law enforcement. Watch for the first installment of October Surprises.
Before I get too far into this story, I should tell you where I began retelling it: in an ambulance on the way to the emergency room.
The driver asked what had happened. I told him I had apparently performed the Groff Tenkiller Stunt again, nearly forty years after the original. Naturally, he asked what that meant. It was a fair question. He had no way of knowing that the answer involved a lake in Oklahoma, a cliff, a cooler of beer, and a group of friends operating under names like Sid Vicious, Johnny Rotten, and Red Foley.
There were seven or eight of us at Lake Tenkiller that weekend, depending on who you ask. Finest people you’ll ever meet, I told the driver. Depending on who you ask about that, too. We had escaped the cities for a little relief from our busy lives. Between our aliases, we sounded like the Sex Pistols had rented a boat with the cast of Gilligan’s Island. I must have been the slinger, because I spent much of that weekend slinging my body around.
I remember a rough night before our trip to the cliffs. At one point we were laughing about a helicopter landing so close to our camp that it might ruin our efforts to keep our identities mysterious. Then came word that Merle Haggard would be in nearby Muskogee. I announced that we ought to go. Surely Merle would let us in wherever he was. We hatched a plan, though calling it a plan gives it more credit than it deserves.
While that was taking shape, we took some beer to a cliff near the dam. The warnings against jumping were clear. We were young enough to believe we had plenty of time to worry about warnings later. My friends started diving. I watched from above, because I have always had a terrible fear of heights.
Then someone shouted that we were out of beer. I could help with that. Rob came with me to get another cooler from the truck. Somewhere along the path, I stepped off a rock that turned out to be more cliff than rock and injured my right ankle. I poured the only alcohol I had over it: beer. It was a poor attempt at first aid, but I was young and convinced I knew what I was doing.
As I limped back toward the water, I met a group of women carrying their own cooler. I invited them to join us and told them we were a rock-and-roll band enjoying a day off. Soon I was leading what I understood to be cheerleaders from the Muskogee area down to the cliffs.
My friends came up out of the water, shook out their ears, and stared. I had left to get beer and returned with an audience. I made one intentional cliff jump that afternoon and received a hero’s applause for bringing the party with me. I felt like Barney Fife after solving a crime.
The ankle was less impressed. Between the fall, my beer treatment, and the afternoon in the lake, it became badly infected. By the time I got home, I couldn’t get my uniform boot on. My doctor put me on antibiotics and pain medication and took me off duty for two weeks. As it happened, I had enough accumulated time from overtime that taking the leave kept me from eventually losing it.
That was the first Groff Tenkiller Stunt.
Nearly forty years later, on a Sunday afternoon in Arizona, I was walking from our bedroom toward the kitchen to finish preparing dinner. Something went dark. I turned, missed whatever I was trying to see, turned back, and tripped over myself. I blacked out and broke my leg and ankle in two places.
When I tried to stand, I fell forward. Steve came out of his recliner and told me not to move. I tried anyway. I went down like a dead mackerel.
I looked at my ankle, thought it was out of place, moved it, and told Steve, “See? That’s all it needed.” Then I tried to stand again. The pain proved my diagnosis was lacking. I screamed loudly enough to bring Otis to my side. He looked at me as though someone had tried to kill me.
“Good boy,”
I told him.
We tried the neighbors. Nobody was home. We even looked around our 55-plus community for a wheelchair someone might have left on a patio. No luck. I suggested I could scoot to the car. I made it about a cheek and a half before everything started going dark again.
It was four in the afternoon, but I felt as though night was closing in. Steve checked my blood pressure: 80 over 50, with a pulse around 90. I finally said what neither of us had wanted to say.
“I think this is the time we actually call 911.”
When the fire crew arrived, I was glad to see them, though I tried to keep a little dignity about it. Soon I was in the ambulance explaining the Groff Tenkiller Stunt to a driver who had only asked a simple question.
That’s how an old memory turned into a patrol story. Once I started talking about Oklahoma, I remembered the mornings I spent driving my district with KATT on the radio, waiting for Clarence and his All My Children update. For a few minutes each day, he could make somebody else’s troubles sound entertaining.
And then I remembered Mildred, the wife of a city councilman. Neither of us knew it yet, but we were about to change the course of each other’s lives.
I know. Some of you were getting along just fine until I reminded you.
Before we face the week, let’s settle an important matter: I like calling you folks. It’s a warm word. It leaves room for the people I know well, the people I’ve just met, and the person standing behind me at the coffee shop who can see that I still haven’t decided what I want.
“Friend” is different. Friendship takes time. We might get there, but if we’ve never met, please don’t greet me with “Hello, my friend” while reaching for my wallet or trying to sell me a new roof. I haven’t even had my coffee yet.
“Folks,” though? That works. It sounds like someone pulling out an extra chair at the table. No promises required. You can sit down, have a cup, and tell me how your weekend went. If Monday has already tested your patience, you can tell me that, too.
So good morning, folks. Pour the coffee. Find your shoes. Check that you have your keys before you close the door. We’ll get this Monday started together.
And if we become friends along the way, I’ll be glad to call you one.
Maybe you’re reading this over your first cup of coffee.
Maybe you’re on your way to work, letting someone’s voice read it aloud to you. I have no idea what I sound like on your end. Jimmy Stewart? Hank Hill? Cousin Itt? Perhaps Thing from The Addams Family is signing along. If it’s Bart Simpson?, please don’t let him drive.
Whatever voice you’ve given me, let me tell you about two fellows I saw at a convenience store.
The first was studying a basket of muffins. He leaned toward his friend and said,
“I could nab two of those, and nobody would even see me. I’m that quick.”
His friend said nothing. He just watched as the man slipped a muffin into each coat pocket.
I saw it. His friend saw it. The clerk did not.
Then the friend smiled.
“I can do better than that.”
He walked to the counter and asked the clerk,
“Would you like to see me make two of your freshest muffins disappear and then reappear?”
The clerk, curious now, handed him two muffins.
The man ate them both.
“Well,”
the clerk said,
“you made them disappear. How are you going to make them reappear?”
The man pointed across the store.
“Look in my friend’s coat pockets.”
I don’t know which of those two men walked out feeling cleverer. I do know the clerk ended up with quite a story to tell.
So take a sip of coffee, put a little spring in your step, and enjoy the start of your day. And if someone at the convenience store offers to show you a muffin trick, check your pockets first.
Some people need a cup of coffee to wake up. Others need a Loch Ness Monster.
Changing perspectives…
I heard a joke about a man who set out across Loch Ness to prove there was no monster. He was an atheist, too, and quite sure he knew what he would find: a lake, some water, and a good story somebody had made up.
Then his boat reached the middle of the lake. The sky darkened. The shoreline disappeared. And out of the water rose a creature towering over his boat.
“God, help me!” the man cried.
A voice came down from above. “That’s interesting. Five minutes ago, you didn’t believe in me.”
The man looked up and shouted, “Five minutes ago, I didn’t believe in the Loch Ness Monster, either!”
I have to give him that one. If a monster rose beside my boat, I would reconsider several things at once. I might even develop a sudden appreciation for life jackets, fast motors, and staying home.
Changing your mind when the facts change makes sense. But I have watched people change their views without a monster, a fact, or even a decent explanation in sight. An idea is terrible at breakfast, then brilliant by lunch because someone they admire said it out loud. The evidence hasn’t changed. The company has.
I suppose we have all done a little of that. Before the first cup of coffee, I can be certain I don’t need a second. Five minutes later, the pot starts looking mighty persuasive.
So today, if someone’s opinion changes in an instant, I may ask myself what appeared: new evidence, a new audience, or a creature rising out of the lake?
If it’s the creature, I’m changing my mind, too. And I’m taking my coffee to go.
The day may arrive all at once, but we can only live it one moment at a time. Begin with the coffee, take the next good step, and let the rest of the morning wait its turn.
I haven’t even placed my feet on the floor, yet my mind is standing beside the bed with a clipboard.
There are messages to answer, bills to remember, appointments to keep, stories to write, and several little things I promised myself I would do yesterday. Before I have poured my first cup of coffee, my brain has scheduled enough work to exhaust three people—and at least one of them should be younger than I am.
Just start counting the stress away 1…2…3…4…
That is the trouble with mornings. The day arrives all at once, even though we can only live it one moment at a time.
Coffee understands this.
It doesn’t leap from the container into the cup fully prepared. The water must heat. The grounds must be measured. The coffee must brew. Then comes the cream, sugar, or whatever little ceremony makes the cup your own.
Nobody stands beside the coffee maker shouting, “Hurry up! We have an entire day to finish!”
Well, perhaps somebody does. But that person should probably be sent back to bed.
Coffee takes the time coffee takes.
Maybe we should grant ourselves the same kindness.
We do not have to solve every problem before breakfast. We do not have to know how the entire day will unfold. We don’t even have to feel particularly enthusiastic about it. Sometimes our first accomplishment is simply getting out of bed. The next may be finding our glasses and remembering why we walked into the kitchen.
Progress is still progress, even when it arrives wearing slippers.
I have discovered that a day becomes much less intimidating when I stop carrying all twenty-four hours at once. I only need to carry this moment.
Drink the coffee.
Answer one message.
Make one decision.
Do the next decent thing.
Then do another.
Some days will still become tangled. Plans will change. Someone will call just as we sit down. Something we carefully placed where we would remember it will disappear into that mysterious dimension occupied by missing socks, reading glasses, and important pieces of paper.
That does not mean the day has been lost.
There is still time to do some Fall Cleaning. Remember -– This is the first week of Autumn and Fall cleaning is not only for closets and cupboards. Sometimes our memories need to be taken down, dusted off, and placed where we can see them again.
A good day does not have to be a perfect day. It only needs a few honest moments: a kindness offered, a responsibility met, a laugh we didn’t expect, or the decision to begin again after something went wrong.
So, if this morning already feels too heavy, set part of it down.
You were never expected to carry the entire day before breakfast.
Begin with the coffee. Let it warm your hands. Take a breath and allow the world to turn without your supervision for a minute or two.
The day will still be waiting.
But perhaps, after that first cup, it won’t look quite so large.
Go ahead get a another cup, and enjoy your morning!
Are you exhausted before your feet even reach the floor? Today’s Morning Coffee is a reminder that you don’t have to carry all twenty-four hours at once—and progress still counts when it arrives wearing slippers.
Motivation does not always arrive before the work begins. Sometimes we must take one small step, interrupt the stillness, and give it a chance to catch up with us.
Motivation has a habit of arriving after the work begins.
Good morning, folks.
There are mornings when determination charges through the front door, throws open the curtains, and announces, “Let’s get something done!”
Then there are mornings when determination apparently has the day off.
The coffee is brewing. The sun is rising. The clock is moving. But we are sitting there waiting for some grand burst of motivation to lift us from the chair and carry us into the day.
Unfortunately, motivation can be terribly unreliable.
If we wait until we feel completely prepared, confident, rested, organized, and inspired, we may still be sitting beside the coffee pot when lunchtime arrives.
Sometimes we must begin before we feel ready.
Put on the shoes.
Make the telephone call.
Write the first sentence.
Wash the first dish.
Open the door and step outside.
Sometimes when Fall arrives it seems that time is off. That the moment we are in is all backwards. The evening is offset. The clock is moving slower than it should. Then all of the sudden it is later than it should be. That is what happens when time Falls back. Whether the time changes or not. The sun sets earlier, comes up sooner, or moves across the sky at a different pace. Autumn begins to change the way you move.
The first movement may be small, but small movements have a way of waking up the rest of us. One completed task leads to another. Before long, the day that seemed determined to go nowhere has discovered a destination.
I have learned that life rarely sends a marching band to announce the proper moment to begin. There may be no drumroll, perfect weather, or encouraging voice from the heavens. Most beginnings arrive quietly, disguised as an ordinary decision:
“I suppose I had better get started.”
That sentence has launched more accomplishments than we will ever know.
You do not need to conquer the entire day before breakfast. You only need to interrupt the stillness. Give yourself one honest reason to rise, move forward, and show the world you have not surrendered your place in it.
The coffee cannot do everything.
It can warm your hands, clear a little fog from your mind, and perhaps make other people safer to be around. But eventually, you must set down the cup and take the first step.
So begin before you feel ready.
Motivation may be running late—but once it sees you moving, it usually hurries to catch up.
Until tomorrow, may your coffee stay warm, your memories stay close, and your hope stay strong…
—Benjamin Groff II Morning Coffee at benandsteve.com
