What many LGBTQ+ people say about discovering who they are.
This is not the LGBTQ+ community going door to door attempting to convert people.
In some small town, somewhere in America, a young teenager is struggling to understand who they are.
They have begun to realize they don’t quite fit in with their classmates. Somewhere between elementary school and junior high, something changed—or perhaps something that had always been there finally became impossible to ignore.
No one taught them this. No one recruited them. No one sat them down and instructed them to feel differently.
“People may choose what they do. They may choose what they say. They may choose whom they tell. But many would argue they never chose whom they were attracted to. They simply discovered who they were.”
They simply do.
For as long as they can remember, they felt different from many of the people around them. They couldn’t explain it. They didn’t have the words for it. But as they grew older, they found themselves admiring classmates, friends, or even television stars of the same sex rather than the opposite sex.
They don’t understand why.
Most spend years trying to understand themselves before anyone else ever discovers their secret. Many pray. Many bargain with God. Many try to ignore their feelings. Some throw themselves into sports, church, relationships, or anything else they hope will make those feelings disappear.
Yet for countless people, the feelings remain.
That is why attempts to force someone to change through shame, punishment, or so-called “conversion therapies” have been so controversial. For many LGBTQ+ people, these approaches are not introducing a struggle they have never faced. They are intensifying a struggle they have already been fighting alone.
And when a young person receives the message that the people they love most would rather change them than understand them, the consequences can be devastating.
One of the most persistent myths is the idea that there is an organized effort to “recruit” people into being gay. The claim ignores a simple question:
When did you decide to be straight?
Most heterosexual people cannot point to a day, an hour, or a moment when they consciously chose who they were attracted to. They simply discovered it as they grew up.
Many gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people describe their experiences in much the same way.
People can certainly choose how they live, how they express themselves, and what relationships they pursue. But attraction itself is often described as something discovered rather than selected.
There are, of course, individuals who describe themselves as “gay for pay”—people who engage in same-sex activity for financial reasons rather than because of their personal orientation. That is a different discussion entirely. Behavior and attraction are not always the same thing.
The larger question remains: If people are being recruited into being gay, where is the moment of recruitment?When did you choose who you were attracted to? For most people, the answer is the same.You didn't.
Can walking past a rainbow flag once a day create a legally recognized hostile work environment? That is the question central to a high-profile federal lawsuit rocking Los Angeles County.
Can a flag really cause that much stress? It’s wild to think that just looking at a symbol once a day can push someone to sue their employer.
Eric Batman, a senior civil engineer with 24 years of service at the Department of Public Works, has officially sued his employer. Represented by the Liberty Counsel—the conservative Christian legal group famous for representing Kentucky clerk Kim Davis—Batman argues that the county’s June Pride flag mandate violates his constitutional rights.
The Core of the Conflict
In 2023, the Los Angeles County Board of Supervisors passed a policy requiring the Progress Pride flag to fly outside many county buildings throughout the month of June.
For Batman, who works out of the department’s Alhambra headquarters, the flag is not a symbol of inclusion, but a confrontation. According to the lawsuit, Batman holds deeply rooted Christian beliefs regarding biblical marriage and human sexuality. He contends that forcing him to walk past the flag daily compels him to “celebrate, recognize, and solemnize” actions his faith deems sinful.
Denied Remote Work and the “Back Door” Suggestion
Hoping to avoid the display entirely, Batman requested to work from home for the month of June in both 2024 and 2025. He already splits his time as a partial remote worker, meaning the logistics for a temporary work-from-home stint were already established.
However, the county flatly denied his accommodation requests. According to the lawsuit, county supervisors stated that remote work conflicted with their commitment to a “welcoming environment for all”. Instead, management offered two alternatives:
Use the rear entrance: Enter and exit the Alhambra building through the back door to avoid looking at the front flagpole.
Seek mental health counseling: Utilize county-provided counseling if the flag caused him emotional or spiritual distress.
Batman rejected both offers, viewingly the suggestion of “counseling” for his religious convictions as an overtly hostile act by management.
The Legal Argument: A Clash of Rights
Filed in the U.S. District Court for the Central District of California (Eric Batman v. Los Angeles County et al.), the suit claims violations under:
Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 (Religious Discrimination)
The First Amendment (Free Exercise of Religion and Freedom from Compelled Speech)
The Fourteenth Amendment (Equal Protection)
California’s Fair Employment and Housing Act (FEHA)
Batman’s lawyers highlight a crucial point of comparison: the county has previously allowed Muslim employees temporary remote work flexibility during Ramadan. By denying Batman a similar one-month accommodation, his attorneys argue the county is engaging in selective, unconstitutional bias.
Furthermore, the legal team points to the 2023 Supreme Court precedent Groff v. DeJoy, which dictates that employers must grant religious accommodations unless doing so causes “substantial increased costs” to business operations. Batman’s lawyers argue that since his work record is exemplary and he already works remotely part-time, a one-month extension carries zero burden for the county.
The Public Backlash: Where is the Line?
The lawsuit has split public opinion, triggering intense online debate:
Critics of the lawsuit point out that the flag is government speech on a public flagpole, not a personal mandate. They argue that simply seeing a flag on a walk into an office does not restrict an individual’s personal faith or constitute a hostile work environment.
Supporters of the engineer argue that true inclusivity must include people of faith. They argue that forcing an employee to sneak through a back door or suggest they need therapy for their religious beliefs crosses a clear line into institutional bullying.
This is notably the second lawsuit L.A. County faces regarding this specific flag policy, following a 2024 suit by an evangelical county lifeguard who objected to being forced to open or manage facilities flying the banner.
As the case makes its way through federal court, it serves as a stark reminder of the ongoing culture wars shifting from the political stage directly into corporate and government office spaces.
Progress Flag Flying High Above In Opposition Of Confederate Flag At Capitol Building
BUT WHY DO PEOPLE LOOK AT A PIECE OF MATERIAL IN SUCH A WAY
Some conservative and religious critics draw this comparison to explain the depth of their objection.
From their perspective, the comparison is about how a symbol can represent a hostile ideology rather than a message of inclusion. However, historians, legal scholars, and social analysts point out that the two flags represent fundamentally different historical and structural concepts.
The comparison can be broken down into two distinct viewpoints:
1. The Perspective of Religious and Conservative Critics
For individuals who share the engineer’s viewpoint, the comparison is based on the emotional and cultural impact of the symbol:
Symbol of Exclusion: Critics argue that the Progress Pride flag has moved beyond a symbol of civil rights and now represents a specific political ideology that excludes traditional religious beliefs.
Perceived Hostility: From this viewpoint, seeing the flag flying on government property feels like an official endorsement of values that contradict their faith, creating a sense of being unwelcome or marginalized in their own workplace.
Compelled Culture: They view the widespread adoption of the flag by corporations and government agencies as a form of cultural dominance, similar to how marginalized groups view the dominant display of controversial historical symbols.
2. The Historical and Sociological Context
Scholars, civil rights advocates, and supporters of the Pride flag argue that comparing the two symbols is a false equivalence due to their origins and purposes:
Feature
The Progress Pride Flag
The Confederate Flag
Core Purpose
Symbolizes inclusion, equal rights, and protection for a historically marginalized minority group.
Symbolizes the Confederacy, a historical rebellion fought to maintain the institution of chattel slavery.
Historical Context
Emerged from grassroots civil rights movements (beginning with the 1978 Gilbert Baker flag) to advocate against discrimination and violence.
Used by a wartime government explicitly dedicated to white supremacy and the subjugation of Black Americans.
Modern Usage
Flown by institutions to signal a welcoming, diverse environment and compliance with anti-discrimination laws.
Frequently used by hate groups, white supremacists, and anti-government movements as a symbol of intimidation.
Summary
While a conservative employee may experience a genuine sense of personal or religious discomfort seeing the Pride flag—viewing it as a symbol of an ideology hostile to their faith—the comparison to the Confederate flag breaks down under historical and legal analysis. One symbol was created to advocate for the inclusion of a minority group, while the other was created to defend the systemic oppression of one.
When it comes down to it, the people against the “Progressive Flag” or “Gay Flag” say they suffer the same emotional suffering as those who suffer from emotional scars from the “Confederate Flag.”
The bottom line? At the heart of the debate is a simple question: Can a symbol cause emotional harm? Those who oppose the Progress Pride flag argue that it does. Those who oppose the Confederate flag have made a similar claim for years. The disagreement is not over whether symbols carry meaning, but over which meanings society chooses to embrace and which it chooses to reject.
When the world turns against you, what do you do? This question had boiled under Chester’s contempt for days. He had watched the nation he loved become the opposite of everything it had ever stood for. The people appeared powerless to stop the crazed leaders who were taking control of the institutions and destroying them.
Chester became so incensed that he quit his job. He took about three hundred dollars, bought as many canned food items as possible, and stored them in his home. Chester then purchased one hundred dollars’ worth of bottled water. He had planned for the loss of electricity and home heating petroleum. Chester had medical supplies he thought would handle any matter related to his health. Then, he went and nailed his doors and windows shut. He placed a sign on the outside of his home stating:
I AM HOME – ALIVE – I DO NOT WANT CONTACT WITH THE OUTSIDE WORLD OR ITS DISTURBING GOVERNMENT. THIS HOUSE IS OFF LIMITS TO EVERYONE. PLEASE DO NOT ENTER!
Then, in chalk, on a board that slid in and out from the interior of the home, it read:
DATE – 2-16-2025
Chester planned to update the date every night to let the outside world know he was still alive.
Chester planned to live without listening to what was happening around him. He believed it was the only way he survived. Chester wanted to help others but had no solution, power, or ability. For Chester, this was all he thought he would do.
His home was significant. It had five bedrooms, four bathrooms, two living areas, two kitchens, and a mother-in-law suite. He had inherited it from his parents after they passed. It was paid for, and he had taken control of their Trust. He didn’t have any financial issues.
Every morning, Chester would visit the mother-in-law’s suite. It offered a view of a once-lively park. The government has now abandoned the park. He often spotted young figures lurking behind the trees, their presence a haunting mystery. Why were they there? Why were they hiding? And most puzzling of all, why did they seem to have nowhere else to go?
One day, curiosity got the best of him. He grabbed his hammer. He pulled the nails out around the suite’s window. He cracked it open, trying to hear their conversations.
Two young girls and two young men were hiding behind a tree, whispering urgently. Chester leaned in closer and heard them say:
“Look, it won’t hurt, and we will be free of this world. If we stay any longer, it will only get worse. They will kill us if we don’t beat them to it!”
Chester’s blood ran cold. What in the world were they talking about? Was this some game? Or were they seriously considering group suicide? And was the government truly hunting these kids?
He had heard about new policies stripping rights from the LGBTQI+ community and disenfranchising people of color. But had it escalated to mass executions? Chester had to find out.
He rummaged through an old trunk in his father’s Hollywood memorabilia. It contained all sorts of disguises: wigs, glasses, vintage clothing. Chester dressed as an older, disheveled homeless man and prepared to venture outside for the first time in weeks.
What he would learn would be devastating.
The streets were eerily quiet, yet tension hung in the air like a brewing storm. Checkpoints had been set up at major intersections, where government enforcers—men in military gear with no insignias—patrolled with assault rifles.
Posters were plastered everywhere, declaring:
“FOR THE SAFETY OF OUR NATION, COMPLIANCE IS MANDATORY.”
Others simply stated:
“NON-CONFORMISTS WILL BE RELOCATED.”
Chester approached a group of homeless people warming their hands over a fire in a rusted oil drum. They regarded him warily but allowed him into their circle.
“What’s happening?”
Chester asked, playing the role of a lost drifter.
A man with hollowed-out cheeks and weary eyes responded,
“They’re rounding people up. Anyone who resists, anyone different. They disappear.”
Chester asked quickly,
“Disappear where?”
The man shook his head.
“No one knows. Some say camps. Others say execution sites.”
Chester’s stomach twisted into knots. The government wasn’t just oppressing people; it was actively erasing them. The kids in the park weren’t paranoid—they were running for their lives.
He couldn’t stay hidden anymore. He had to act.
That night, under the cover of darkness, Chester snuck back to his house and removed the sign from his door. He pried open his windows, unlocked the doors, and gathered supplies. With his home’s ample space and well-stocked provisions, he offered sanctuary to those with nowhere else to go.
The next day, he returned to the park and approached the young people cautiously.
“Come with me,” he whispered. “You don’t have to run anymore.”
At first, they hesitated, but the desperation in their eyes mirrored his determination. One by one, they followed him back to his home. Chester had spent weeks barricading himself from the world, convinced that isolation was the only way to survive. But now, he understood—survival was not just about enduring. It was about resisting.
And Chester was ready to fight back.
“LGBT people are some of the bravest and most potent change agents and leaders I have encountered. They are the most forceful defenders of the vulnerable and voiceless because they know what it’s like to be there.”
-–– Ronan Farrow -–– a journalist known for his investigative work with the New Yorker and member of the LGBTQI+ Community
While sedated during surgery, Mark, who has a yearning desire to be proud member of the LGBTQI+ Community, started drifting slowly to sleep as he counted backward from 100. Mark could remember getting to 92 before the lights went out. Finally, Mark thought he could get finally rest. But relaxing wasn’t in store for Mark. He had a propensity to get upset over the most minor things, and this time, when he discovered that he was only dreaming and had to go to work where coworkers would look at him with stares and give verbal undertones of name-calling, he knew some of them. I have to go hear these slurs and think about what they are saying about me.
Mark blurted out, “I wished to the Gods, Heavens, and Earth that I had never been born – it’s not fair to always suffer being someone you didn’t ask to be! A member of the LGBTQI+ Community, huh? I don’t know if I am all that big of a member, the way I have to hide who I am from my family!” His voice trembled with a mix of anger and sadness, the weight of his secret becoming unbearable.
It was the beginning of Spring, and it so happened. Mark was Irish and had some luck in his corner; the powers of Gods, Heavens, and Earth joined together to help Mark never be born, something that they had arranged before to help people who had momentarily lost their way.
Mark was rushing around when he heard a knock at the door. He stopped, wondering who it could be. No one ever came to visit. Mark thought it could be a family member but then ruled that out; not a single person from his family ever asked where Mark lived, so how could they find him?
The knock came again; it couldn’t be someone he knew from town; he never brought anyone back to his place for any reason. There was no reason for someone to knock on his door. So he slowly eased up to the door and looked out of the peephole but didn’t see anyone. As he was looking – a swift KNOCK KNOCK KNOCK, it happened again! Which scared Mark nearly to death. His heart raced, his palms grew sweaty, and a knot formed in his stomach.
Who the hell could be out there? He swung the door open and in walked a little person. The person was no taller than Mark’s waist, with a mischievous twinkle in his eyes and a knowing smile on his face.
“Hi Ya Mark”
He said,
“My name is Charley, and I am here to talk about your never being born,”
he said, his voice calm and reassuring.
Mark’s mouth dropped open, and they stood in shock, not sure what to say. Other than to say ––
Did someone put you up to this?
Charley told him no one had put him up to anything and that he was there to show him the world without Mark. Mark blinked, still trying to process the bizarre situation unfolding before him. The small man named Charley stood confidently in the doorway, his eyes twinkling with a strange, knowing light.
“I must be dreaming,”
Mark muttered to himself, shaking his head.
“You’re not,”
Charley replied, stepping into the room.
“Close the door, Mark. We’ve got a lot to cover and not much time.”
Reluctantly, Mark shut the door, curiosity and fear mingling in his chest. He gestured for Charley to sit, and they both settled into the living room.
“Alright, Charley,”
Mark said, crossing his arms.
“Explain this whole ‘never being born’ thing.”
Charley nodded.
“Mark, you’ve been carrying a heavy burden for a long time. Feeling out of place, misunderstood, and unloved can make anyone wish they were never born. But before you decide that the world would be better off without you, let me show you what that world would look like.”
With a wave of his hand, Charley transformed the living room. The walls melted away, revealing a bustling small town square. The air was crisp, and the sound of children’s laughter filled the air. It was a place Mark recognized from his childhood, but it felt different—stranger, colder.
“Where are we?”
Mark asked, looking around.
“This is your hometown,”
Charley said.
“But it’s a version of it where you never existed.”
Mark noticed familiar faces among the crowd, but something was off. His childhood friends seemed distant, their laughter forced and hollow. He saw his parents, too, looking worn and weary, more so than he remembered.
“Why do they look so sad?”
Mark asked, a lump forming in his throat.
“Your presence, Mark, even if you didn’t realize it, brought light to many lives,”
Charley explained.
“Your compassion, your laughter, and even your struggles inspired others more than you know.”
They moved through the scenes of his life, showing how his absence left voids in the lives of those he knew. His best friend from school, who had confided in Mark during a dark time, now seemed lost and without support. His sister, who had looked up to him, now wandered aimlessly, lacking the guidance and love he had provided. The scenes were filled with a sense of emptiness, a stark contrast to the vibrant memories Mark had of these moments.
“I had no idea,”
Mark whispered, tears welling up in his eyes.
Charley nodded sympathetically.
“You may feel small, Mark, but the impact of your life is profound. Every kind word, every act of defiance against prejudice, every moment of being true to yourself ripples outwards.”
The scene changed again, this time to Mark’s workplace. He saw his coworkers, the ones who had often looked at him with disdain or made cruel remarks. However, without Mark’s quiet courage, the workplace culture would have become even more toxic. There was no one to challenge the status quo, no one to show strength in the face of bigotry.
“People can be cruel,”
Charley said,
“but your bravery gives others the courage to be better.”
Mark watched as the scenes shifted faster now, showing countless small moments where his existence had made a difference. A neighbor he had helped in passing, a stranger he had smiled at, a community event he had organized—all these moments seemed insignificant at the time, but together they painted a picture of a life well-lived.
Finally, they returned to Mark’s living room. He sat down, overwhelmed by the journey they had taken.
“I never realized,”
Mark said quietly, his voice filled with a mix of regret and understanding, as he looked at Charley.
“I thought I was just… there.”
His words hung in the air, heavy with the weight of his newfound self-awareness.
“You are much more than just there, Mark,”
Charley replied, his voice filled with warmth and encouragement.
“You are a vital part of the world, and your presence is a gift.”
Mark’s face softened, a glimmer of self-acceptance and understanding shining in his eyes.
As Charley spoke, Mark felt a warmth spread through him, a sense of peace he hadn’t felt in a long time. The weight of his struggles seemed a bit lighter, the pain of rejection a bit duller.
“So, what happens now?”
Mark asked.
Charley smiled.
“Now, you wake up. And remember, Mark, the world needs you just as you are.”
With that, the room began to blur, and Mark felt himself being pulled back to consciousness. He awoke in the hospital recovery room, the beeping of machines and the murmurs of nurses around him. He felt different—changed.
As he recovered and returned to his daily life, Mark carried the memories of his journey with Charley. He faced his challenges with renewed strength, knowing that his existence mattered deeply. He began to advocate more fiercely for himself and others, finding allies and building a community where acceptance thrived.
Mark found peace within himself, realizing that his identity was not a curse but a gift. He embraced his life fully, knowing that being true to himself was the greatest impact he could have on the world.
And so, Mark came full circle, from despair to understanding, from wishing to never exist to cherishing every moment. He lived his life with purpose, knowing that he was exactly where he was meant to be.
During Pride Weekends, it’s essential to stay safe while celebrating, especially with record-high temperatures. Here are some recommendations to protect yourself from heat stroke or heat exhaustion during outdoor events:
Stay Hydrated: Drink plenty of water throughout the day. Avoid alcohol and caffeine as they can contribute to dehydration.
Seek Shade: Take breaks in shaded areas to cool down and give your body a rest from the direct sun.
Wear Appropriate Clothing: Opt for light-colored, loose-fitting clothing that allows your skin to breathe and helps regulate your body temperature.
Use Sunscreen: Apply a broad-spectrum sunscreen with at least SPF 30 and reapply every two hours, or more often if you’re sweating.
Plan Ahead: Check the weather forecast and plan your activities during cooler parts of the day, such as early morning or late afternoon.
Know the Signs of Heat-Related Illnesses: Be aware of symptoms like dizziness, nausea, headache, and muscle cramps, and seek medical attention if necessary.
By following these tips, you can enjoy the festivities safely and make the most of Pride Weekends without compromising your health.
Sweating a lot in hot weather can make you lose essential salts and minerals from your body.
You need salts and minerals in your body to function properly. However, you must not take salt tablets unless directed by your doctor. The best way to replace them is by eating foods that contain them. Instead of just water, try drinking fruit juice or sports drinks while you exercise or work in the heat.
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Limit your outdoor activity to when it’s coolest, like morning and evening hours
Find your nearest cooling center for free access to air conditioning and water
Do not leave children or pets alone in a parked car. The temperature inside can rise quickly and become deadly
In the late 1890s, the vast expanse of the American West stretched endlessly, a sea of golden plains and towering mountains. Two cowgirls named Mae and Rosie, not just friends but soulmates, called home in a remote corner of this wild land. Mae, with her fiery red hair and fierce spirit, and Rosie, with her raven-black braids and gentle demeanor, were an inseparable pair, bound by a love that defied the conventions of their time. In a world where their love was deemed unconventional, they found solace and strength in each other.
One crisp autumn morning, they saddled their horses and rode out, the sun casting long shadows across the rolling hills. Their journey led them to an old wooden fence gate, weathered by years of harsh winds and blazing sun. They spurred their horses forward with a shared glance and a mischievous smile, pushing the gate open and galloping through.
As they rode, the familiar landscape began to change. The dirt road beneath their horses’ hooves transformed into smooth pavement. The rolling hills flattened, and in the distance, a faint hum grew louder, evolving into the roar of engines. The world around them seemed to blur and shift, the sky darkening and then brightening again until suddenly, they found themselves on the edge of a bustling highway. In the face of this bewildering transformation, Mae and Rosie’s courage and resilience shone through, inspiring all who witnessed their journey.
The year was no longer 1898 but 1972. Mae and Rosie reined in their horses, staring in awe at the sight before them. Towering skyscrapers pierced the sky, cars zipped by at dizzying speeds, and people hurried along sidewalks, oblivious to the two cowgirls who had just crossed time itself.
Confusion and excitement swirled within them. They rode cautiously along the highway, their horses nervously stepping onto the strange new surface. They marveled at the colorful billboards advertising things they’d never seen before and the neon lights that promised adventure. It was a journey that was not just physical but emotional, as they navigated the unfamiliar terrain of a world that was changing at a rapid pace.
As they entered the city, the clamor of modern life enveloped them. Mae’s eyes sparkled with curiosity while Rosie gazed wonderfully at the people dressed in fashions so alien to their own. They stopped outside a diner, its large windows showcasing a scene of laughter and warmth. The sign above the door read “Betty’s Diner.”
Mae and Rosie dismounted, tethering their horses nearby. They walked into the diner, the door jingling as they stepped inside. Heads turned, and the chatter ceased momentarily as the patrons saw the two cowgirls, their clothes and demeanor a stark contrast to the modern setting. Some stared in curiosity, others in judgment, but a few smiled warmly, recognizing the courage it took for them to be there.
Betty, the diner’s owner, approached them with a friendly smile. “Welcome, ladies! What brings you to these parts?” she asked, her eyes twinkling with curiosity. Mae and Rosie exchanged a glance, unsure of how to explain their journey. “We’re just passing through,” Mae said, her voice steady.
Betty nodded, sensing there was more to their story. She led them to a booth and handed them menus. As they sat, they began to notice the small but significant changes around them—the music playing from a jukebox, the variety of food on the menu, the freedom in the air. Mae and Rosie exchanged a glance, their eyes filled with wonder and a hint of apprehension, as they realized they were witnessing a world that was vastly different from the one they had left behind.
Over the next few days, Mae and Rosie explored the city, learning about the incredible advancements and the cultural shifts that had occurred in the seventy-four years they had seemingly leaped over. They discovered a vibrant community of people who defied conventions and lived openly and proudly like them. They learned about the women’s suffrage movement, the civil rights movement of 1964, and the sexual revolution, all of which had reshaped the society they now found themselves in.
One evening, they attended a gathering at a local community center. It was a celebration of love and identity, filled with people from all walks of life. Mae and Rosie felt a deep connection to the stories they heard, the struggles and triumphs resonating with their own experiences.
As they danced under the disco ball, surrounded by newfound friends, they were overwhelmed with a sense of joy and liberation. They realized that they had found a place where their love was not only accepted but celebrated. With all its noise and chaos, the city had given them a glimpse of a future they had never imagined, a future filled with hope and optimism for societal change.
Mae and Rosie decided to stay, embracing the new world with open hearts. They found work, made friends, and built a life together. Their love story began in the wild, untamed West and flourished in the bustling, vibrant city of the 1970s. It was a decision that was not without its challenges, but they were willing to face them for the chance to live and love freely in a world that was slowly but surely becoming more accepting.
Years later, as they sat together on a bench overlooking the skyline, they often spoke of that old wooden fence gate and the magical journey it had taken them on. The city had become their home, where they could live and love freely, forever grateful for the lucky ride that had led them to this extraordinary new chapter in their lives. They reminisced about the changes they had witnessed, the challenges they had overcome, and the love that had remained constant throughout it all.
In the vast expanse of the Indian Territory, amidst the rugged terrain and the promise of new beginnings, two souls found each other amidst the chaos of land claims and dreams of prosperity. Vol Wilhelm Groff, a spirited young man with a penchant for adventure, and Joseph McElroy, a quiet and contemplative soul, crossed paths in the unforgiving landscape of Oklahoma in the year 1905.
The Indian Territory was a land of opportunity, where dreams clashed with harsh reality, and where individuals staked their claims in the hopes of carving out a future for themselves. Val and Joseph were among those brave souls, drawn to the promise of a better life on the frontier.
Their meeting was serendipitous, a chance encounter amidst the chaos of land rushes and bustling settlements. Val, with his infectious enthusiasm, captured Joseph’s attention from the moment they first locked eyes. Despite their differences in temperament, they found a deep connection that transcended words.
Val and Joesph Photo Taken In Okarche Oklahoma
As they worked side by side, staking their claims and building their homesteads from the ground up, their bond grew stronger with each passing day. Amidst the challenges of frontier life, they found solace in each other’s presence, drawing strength from their shared dreams and aspirations.
But theirs was a love that dared not speak its name in the harsh reality of the early 20th century. In a world where societal norms dictated strict conformity, Val and Joseph had to tread carefully, concealing their love from prying eyes.
Yet, despite the obstacles they faced, their love endured, a beacon of hope in a world fraught with uncertainty. Through the trials and tribulations of frontier life, they remained steadfast in their devotion to each other, finding solace in the quiet moments shared beneath the starry Oklahoma sky.
As the years passed and the Indian Territory evolved into the state of Oklahoma, Val and Joseph’s love stood the test of time, a testament to the enduring power of love in the face of adversity. And though their names may have been forgotten by history, their love story lived on, a reminder that true love knows no bounds, not even the vast expanse of the American frontier.
The documentary “1946: The Mistranslation That Shifted a Culture” delves into a controversial and thought-provoking topic that challenges conventional beliefs about the Bible and homosexuality. Directed by Sharon “Rocky” Roggio, the film examines the claim that the Bible originally did not mention homosexuality and that references to it were added due to mistranslation and misunderstanding of ancient Greek terms.
The film highlights the work of Christian scholars who delve into forgotten archives at Yale University to uncover the origins of this mistranslation. It argues that conservative Christians began to propagate this mistranslation in the 1970s to scapegoat the LGBTQ+ community and oppose their growing liberation movement.
Roggio, who identifies as a lesbian and is the daughter of an evangelical minister, engages in dialogues with her father throughout the film, attempting to find common ground and challenge his beliefs about homosexuality being a sin. This personal narrative adds depth and emotion to the documentary, as it explores the complexities of faith, identity, and acceptance within a family divided by differing views on sexuality and religion.
The documentary sheds light on the potential harm caused by misunderstandings and misinterpretations of religious texts, highlighting the real-world consequences faced by LGBTQ+ individuals who have been marginalized, discriminated against, and even persecuted due to these beliefs.
Overall, “1946: The Mistranslation That Shifted a Culture” offers a compelling perspective on a contentious issue, urging viewers to question and reevaluate long-held beliefs and encouraging dialogue, understanding, and acceptance.
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You know why I am Gay? Because God Made Me That Way, or That’s The Way The Genes Flow. And It’s NObody’s Damn Business But Mind. You HEAR!
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About Gays And Why Laws, Book Bans, School Boards, And Other Restrictions Attempting To Bash And Attempted Genocide Against Queer Peoples Won’t Stop More People From Increasing The Populations In The LGBTQI Community!
We all remember that day. It may be a Spring afternoon following a light rain shower, with flowers peaking from beneath their winter hiding place for a first glimpse of the season’s sun. There we sit. We were pondering between the two choices. Will we be straight or gay? Surely everyone remembers that day, for if it is a choice, everyone faces the same options. You can choose both, they say. That needs to be clarified.
To be or not to be, when we were teens, first discovering who we were, for some, it was challenging to accept, and it took years for those who grew up in communities that were closed-minded and set to one way of life to finally get into their head that they were who they are and not who others expected them to be. They had tried to take the path of least resistance and attempted to take the straight route, not given another choice. But every piece of their biological body screamed at them, telling them something wasn’t right. They were misleading others, lying every minute of their life, and never being their true selves. They either had to leave and be their authentic self or die. Some tried to marry, but after a period, the inner madness kept them from carrying on, and their either killed themselves, came out and took the hell and damnation from the small communities in which they lived, or packed up and disappeared. Many may have turned to alcohol or drugs, appearing to believe it was better to be an addict than what they felt was their true self. If they were lucky, they met their soul mate and were rescued from the prison that so many are forced into by a society that is cruel and judgmental of others. Fortunately for others, they meet their lifemates just out of high school. They seem to know how to manage the world around them and find a world to live and operate in a life they would have otherwise missed out on, creating long-term relationships and being grateful things turned out as they do. They would not have wished to miss on so much love and so many adventures.
Forty-one years later, another couple still see simple rights afforded to their neighbors, rights that are threatened to be stripped from them by bigoted and power-hungry maga-republicans. So a question is asked to these groups suggesting they can kill off the gays. When did they choose to be straight? And, why is allowing this couple to live in peace so bad?
All the books, movies, and internet sites in the world may get banned; however, that will not stop the same amount of new homosexual and bisexual men and women from populating the earth each year. Some evil act does not make them. They are born, just like the couple you are reading about.Just like you!
One couple originates from small towns in Western Oklahoma. Growing up, they were never acquainted with gay anything. Both were church-attending, straight-laced lads all the way. Still, each began slowly dying from living in a suppressive community that had conditioned them to believe they were the worst people on the earth and were going to Hell. That worked until they met after high school and finally began to breathe life through one another. It took a lifetime to overcome the damage God-fearing sermons placed on them. They chose to move to a larger city and begin to grow privately, not making themselves the center attraction of life, but their community knew they coupled. As life continued, so did their love and energy, and now they live in a retirement community. But their rights are under threat daily. Because their property, retirement, and physical and fiscal security are in danger by daily threats of changing laws and bigotry. Research has discovered there should be signs on every front door of any religious establishment reading “for entertainment purposes only, because it does not produce a benefit for the community as a whole, just for the few!”
So When Did You Choose Your Sexual Preference?
And To Screw With It Would Cause Extinction!
This passionate talk from Dr. James O’Keefe, MD, gives us a deeply personal and fascinating insight into why homosexuality is a necessary and instrumental cog in nature’s perfection.
Research shows those making up the LGBTQI Communities are responsible for keeping the human race alive.
So When Did You Decide? When Did You Make Your Decision On Who To Be?
LGBTQI? It Is Natures Response To Maintaining The Magic Balance In Life – And To Screw With It Would Cause Extinction.
Maintaining The Magic Balance In Life
For those desiring more proof that the existence of gays is “born” to history and that the members of the LGBTQI Community do not simply choose to be Gay, this history lesson may help if you are an individual with a mind with enough room to learn new and factual information.
Another way to arrive at the understanding of whether LGBTQI members are born or are made of people choosing a lifestyle, ask yourself when you decided to be heterosexual (straight). What day did you choose between the options available and determine what life you wanted? Then consider who would ever pick a life where their being would face prejudices, denial of employment, housing, and services if they had a choice not to have to face the constant bigotry bashing them daily.
If you believe in a Higher Authority, a God. If this is your premise and you still object to these beings walking the earth, take it up with Him. When you do, if you believe scripture, consider Genesis 1:26-28, which announces that human beings are unique and all are in the image of God.
§Then God said, 'Let us make man in our image, according to our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the sky and the cattle and over all the earth. Genesis 1:26-28
IF HE IS TRUE. AND THERE IS AN ALMIGHTY. AND HE DID SOMETHING WRONG IN DESIGNING CERTAIN INDIVIDUALS TO BE DIFFERENT. THEN YOU SHOULD TELL HIM HE IS WRONG!
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Remember It…The Day You Decided!
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If you are God Fearing, then this message is for you!–Our supposed sins will not send you to Hell. But God will ask about yours, i.e., judging others, planting seeds of strife. So the sins you commit are the only ones you should be concerned with. We are fine in answering to the top, should there be anything to comment on. You take care of your side of the street. We will tend to ours!
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